Articles written by me
on Hypnotherapy, Psychotherapy, Smoking, Love, Memory, James
Braid, Anton Mesmer, Panic Attacks, Sexual Problems,
Circumcision, Humour, etc.
The following is a list of the article titles with a brief
description:
James Braid An account of his favourite
induction method.
The Defensive Persona The
Defensive Persona The Defensive Persona is a system of
behaviour, emotions and thoughts that a person activates when
feeling threatened. It is very valuable to recognise when people
are evoking such a persona, and the process can be illuminated
by animal analogies.
When the problem is smoking: And how to
use hypnotherapy to stop it.
Hypnotherapy as De-Hypnosis: The view
that in some senses where stage hypnosis is aimed at putting in
suggestions to limit conscious self-control, hypnotherapy aims
to do just the reverse
Practical Psychotherapy: Interview and
Diagnosis A short piece on useful questions to ask at the
diagnostic stage of a session,
Iatrophobia Induced by Circumcision:
A case of a man's fear of doctors rooted in childhood
circumcision. Also deals with the process of foreskin re-growth.
All You Need Is ... ? : Love is a four
letter word often neglected by psychotherapy. Here we emphasise
the value of the many forms of love.
Lover or Hypnotherapist?: A case of a
woman who left her boyfriend because he treated her too much
like a client!
Memory: Dealing with what happens if a
memory becomes full! and other reflections.
The Technique of Editing Mental videos:
How one can dramatically change symptoms by treating traumatic
memories as videos that can be edited and thereby improved.
What Mesmer Believed It is often
thought that Mesmerism was an early form of hypnotism. In some
practical ways it was. But its theoretical background is totally
different.
Mr. Bean the Therapist an account of how
humour can be used to great effect in therapy.
Humour: A collection of jokes funny and
not so funny about hypnotherapy and psychotherapy
A novel hypnotic induction: In
which we supposedly invoke a primitive reflex whereby touch at
the back of the neck produces deep relaxation and
responsiveness.
Only adults have panic attacks A
particular view of panics.
Dealing with Sexual Problems in the Male:
And ways of treating them.
Anecdotes of use in therapy Stories
that have a therapeutic point for certain cases.
A variety of little tips on specific cases:
A variety of small tips on particular problems.
A couple of poems:
Rebirth - a Sonnet: A sonnet.
Good Advice: A poem on the theme of
the great harm that can be done if advice is not tailored to the
life.
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What is abuse?
Written in response to a client who asked the above question.
Abuse is the wrong or inappropriate use of something, which will
lead to damage or harm.
We may consider the various ways in which a person may be harmed
and associated abuses.
Physical abuse is the inflicting of physical
damage and hence severe pain on a person.
Emotional abuse is the exerting of emotional
pressures on a person in such a way as to harm them.
Sexual abuse is the inflicting of sexual
actions or influences on a person contrary to their
inclinations.
These three are perhaps the areas of abuse which are most
commonly mentioned. But it is quite easy to list other forms.
For example:
Mental abuse: (brainwashing is a form of this)
the imposing of ideas or thought on a person with no regard for
his or her own existing thoughts.
Functional or behavioural abuse: (slavery is a
form of this) forcing a person into patterns of behaviour with
no reference to the individual's own needs or desires.
Dietary abuse: (the common "You'll eat
what I give you!" but often self-inflicted, as in anorexia)
the forcing of a person into an eating pattern which has no
regard for the needs of the body.
The theme which runs through all of these abuses is a total
disregard for the inner needs of the person. The individuals who
perpetrate such abuses are typically concerned only with
themselves, their own needs, own feeling or own ideas.
The sexual abuser is concerned only with his own sexual needs,
and not those of his victim; the physical abuser is only
concerned with his own anger or need for domination and is
oblivious of the feelings of his victim; the emotional abuser is
concerned only to feel better, and if this is at the expense of
making another feel guilt, fear, misery or inadequacy so be it,
the mental abuser is concerned only to promulgate his own ideas,
with no doubt about his correctness: the thought that they may
damage another does not cross his mind, and so on.
Reprinted from The Journal of the National Council for
Psychotherapists and Hypnotherapy Register, Summer 94.
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Anecdotes of use in therapy
IN YORKSHIRE there was once, in days gone by, a strong man,
well over two yards high and weighing nearly three
hundredweight, who went around the county Fairs challenging all
comers to a trial of strength. "Ah'm t'strongest man in
t'country. Ah'll lift ony man off his feet" was the
challenge. And once he had got his bear-like arms firmly planted
around the ribs of the challenger, there was no doubt about it:
no-one had a chance.
His fame spread and soon everyone in Yorkshire knew him.
Some said, though not to his face, "Aye. Strong in't arm,
but thick in t'head," and it was true that he was not noted
for brains. But soon it became rare for anyone to face the
certain disgrace of facing him in his lifting contest.
Then one Fair day a young man came up to him and said
lightly,
"So, you think you can lift any man in t'county?"
"Aye," he replied, looking down in surprise, "Aye,
Ah can!"
"I don't think so."
"Ah CAN!"
"No you can't. I know a man, and a Yorkshire man, too,
that you can't lift off his feet."
"Just show him to me. Ah'll soon have him off
t'ground."
The young man pointed straight at the heaving chest in front
of him, "Go on then. Show us. You will never lift THAT man
off his feet."
The giant paused for a moment, then deliberately wrapped his
arms around his own chest. He flexed his muscles and made his
famous upward jerk that had had hundreds flying up into the air.
But nothing happened. He tried again.... and again. He heaved
and he strained for hours, as the crowd grew and jeered and
mocked.
When night came he had still not succeeded and crept of the
field in a state of total humiliation. He broke down completely,
and could never again face the world.
An anecdote does not have to be true to be truthful. I often
tell the above to men whose problems are a result of two
internal systems fighting against each other. It might be, for
example, as simple a thing as one part fighting desperately to
give up smoking and another to carry on. It is also a common
pattern in a lot of stress, which can be seen at times as a
person struggling with himself, or with an impossible task. The
above little story can be very successful in raising a smile and
lowering the tension.
For how can a man be stronger than himself?
Another little picture which is useful in describing a similar
problem runs as follows.
Imagine a public speaker. He has a microphone in front of
him. A few yards further forward are the loudspeakers. A
powerful amplifier is tucked away out of sight.
Now picture what happens when a small boy in the audience,
bored by the address, inches the loudspeaker around so that it
is facing more and more towards the speaker. At first little
seems to happen, except that the talker seems to himself to be
getting louder. Then, quite suddenly, a critical stage is
reached, and the microphone starts to pick up and amplify the
sound from the loudspeaker. The speaker is deafened by the
resulting ear-shattering shriek.
Tell a client that his mind is the microphone, and his symptom
is the loudspeaker and he will get a good idea of the positive
feedback loop that so often keeps a problem in existence long
after it should have died away.
I have told the following story to a truck driver who has spent
half his life tense with anxiety that he might have another
breakdown. His first was at eighteen years old, and no-one told
him what had caused it.
There was once this cocky young truck driver, as happy as
Harry, until the day his engine suddenly blew up on a busy
motorway and it resulted in a nasty crash.
After he recovered he went back to driving, but gone were
his carefree ways. He was now in a constant state of anxiety in
case he made the same mistake again.
The trouble was that he did not know what the mistake had
been.
"Perhaps I am travelling too fast?"
"I feel unhappy on motorways, maybe I would be safer on
secondary roads?"
"It never happens to anyone else. There must be
something very wrong with my driving."
And all the while his body was getting more and more tense
with anxiety; he was worrying so hard that had little time to
think about road conditions and started having small accidents,
which only reinforced his feeling that he was a terrible driver.
He stopped going to transport cafés because he thought
that the others would be talking about him behind his back. His
sleep suffered, because even at night his brain kept on trying
to find a way out of his problems. His marriage suffered. His
health suffered.
He thought he was going mad.
Then by chance he happened to meet the mechanic who had
dealt with his truck after the accident.
"Hmm. Nasty one that. You were lucky to get out of it
alive. Funny you didn't spot the overheating in time."
"What?"
"The overheating. A water hose had perished. You lost
all your water. The engine overheated and blew."
It took some time for this to sink in.
"Do you mean that if I just keep an eye on the
temperature gauge it'll never blow again?"
"Yep."
The driver walked away a new man. His mind could at last
rest. An occasional glance at the dash was all that he had
needed during all those years of needless worry. In a matter of
weeks he was whistling again, joining in with the other
truckers, and all his old cockiness returned.
My client saw the moral of this story easily, as a trucker
himself, and left the session lighter in heart - I had also
explained to him in simple terms what had gone wrong with HIM
the first time, of course.
Where do these anecdotes come from? I analyse the problem in
terms of abstract functional systems, as described elsewhere,
and then think of another embodiment of the same abstract
pattern that the client can relate to vividly, understand easily
and remember well.
Reprinted from The Journal of the National
Council for Psychotherapists and Hypnotherapy Register, Winter
93.
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James Braid
This year we celebrate the one hundred and fiftieth
anniversary of the publication of James Braid's seminal work,
"Neurypnology: Or the rationale of nervous sleep considered
in relation with animal magnetism." (London: Churchill,
1843.Bib)
In this book he gave the world the word Hypnotism and its
derivatives, and dismissed, by means of acute experiments, the
claims of the Mesmerists that some "magnetic" force
passes from the operator to the subject.
This book is well worth reading, but here we will just look
at his induction method.
TAKE ANY bright object (I generally use my lancet case) between
the thumb and fore and middle finger of the left hand; hold it
from about eight to fifteen inches from the eyes, at such a
position above the forehead as may be necessary to produce the
greatest possible strain upon the eyes and eyelids, and enable
the patient to maintain a steady fixed stare at the object. The
patient must be made to understand that he is to keep the eyes
steadily fixed on the object, and the mind riveted on the idea
of the object. It will be observed, that owing to the consensual
adjustment of the eyes, the pupils will be at first contracted:
they will shortly begin to dilate, and after they have done so
to a considerable extent, and have assumed a wavy motion, if the
fore and middle fingers of the right hand, extended a little
separated, are carried from the object towards the eyes, most
probably the eyes will close involuntarily, with a vibratory
motion. If this is not the case, or the patient allows the
eyeballs to move, desire him to begin anew, giving him
to understand that he is to allow the eyelids to close when the
fingers are again carried towards the eyes, but that the
eyeballs must be kept fixed in the same position, and
the mind riveted to the one idea of the object held above
the eyes. It will generally be found, that the eyelids
close with a vibratory motion, or become spasmodically
closed. After ten or fifteen seconds have elapsed, by gently
elevating the arms and legs, it will be found that the patient
has a disposition to retain them in the situation in which they
have been placed, if he is intensely affected. If this
is not the case, in a soft tone of voice desire him to retain
the limbs in the extended position, and thus the pulse will
speedily become greatly accelerated, and the limbs, in process
of time, will become quite rigid and involuntarily fixed. It
will also be found, that all the organs of special sense,
excepting sight, including heat and cold, and muscular motion,
or resistance, and certain mental faculties, are at first
prodigiously exalted, such as happens with regard to
the primary effects of opium, wine, and spirits. After a certain
point, however, this exaltation of function is followed by a
state of depression, far greater than the torpor of natural
sleep.
Reprinted from the Journal of the National Council of
Psychotherapists and Hypnotherapy Register, Summer 1993.
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The Defensive Persona
This article is based on a chapter of an unpublished book -
"Your Path in Life" - which I wrote many years ago.
THE LARGE THEME of this article is defensive behaviour. This is
an extensive topic, and a very important one. In this article I
propose only to touch on various aspects of defensiveness with
an eye on how it impacts on so many of clients' problems. I hope
in this way to illuminate such problems by looking at them from
a particular perspective.
What do I mean by the phrase Defensive Persona?
In the Middle Ages there were in Europe men who, when in their
own homes, surrounded by family and servants, were genial and
courteous. But in time of war they would put on heavy suits of
metal, concealing even their faces. To the outward eye there
would be no similarity between this hard, shining,
sword-wielding thing, and the laughing man in his bright soft
clothes. He put on the armour to defend himself, of course.
Can you picture a cat sitting by the fireside? She is all soft
contentment. She is totally relaxed and approachable, ready to
be stroked or to purr. But see what happens if a strange dog
enters the room. Instantly that soft creature becomes a taut
bundle of muscles, with claws extended, teeth snarling, hair on
end, eyes glaring, nerves on a hair-trigger, snarling and
hissing. It is almost impossible to recognise the same creature.
She acts in this way to defend herself, of course.
These two pictures will have given you some idea of what I mean
by a Defensive Persona. When any person or animal feels
threatened then he, she or it will start behaving in quite a new
way. And this behaviour will often seem to have nothing in
common with the behaviour at other times. The whole pattern of
thoughts, feelings, behaviour and appearance which a person
follows when they are feeling threatened is what I mean by a
Defensive Persona. Normally this behaviour is dropped when the
danger has gone.
Animal Stereotypes
There are many different kinds of Defensive Personae. One useful
way to classify them is in terms of animal stereotypes. For
example, consider the tortoise. When threatened it withdraws
into its shell. And there are people like that. When they feel
attacked they withdraw inside, and refuse to say anything or do
anything. Like the tortoise they will only open up again when
the danger has disappeared. You can sometimes find this Persona
in a hen-pecked husband. A typical scene might run as follows.
His wife would like some contact. She nags at him, "Stop
reading that paper. Talk to me for once." He puts down the
paper; he feels more exposed and therefore threatened; he
withdraws deeper into himself and says nothing. She is even more
annoyed by his silence; she needles him, hoping to stir him into
response. He feels more attacked: the tortoise withdraws still
further into his shell. Only later, when he goes out for a drink
with friends, and the threat disappears, does he come out of his
shell again and becomes quite a different person. If his wife
finds out, this only makes her more annoyed, and she takes it as
a personal insult. Such a Defensive Persona could also be
likened to a clam.
The hedgehog or porcupine also withdraws into itself, but in a
much more prickly way. You do not get hurt by a tortoise's
smooth shell. But if you start to prod a hedgehog you get some
nasty pricks. "(S)he is prickly," we say of people
like that. If you get too close to them you will often find
unexpectedly sharp and pointed remarks coming your way. It is
surprising because most of the time this person can seem quite
inoffensive. And the clue to the change is that you must have
just said or done something which has made them feel threatened.
The Defensive Persona emerges, all prickly and unapproachable.
There is little that you can do except go away until (s)he
unrolls again. If you try to unroll such a person forcibly, then
you will suffer for it, as many a young fox, with spines in its
nose, will testify. The bear's Defensive Persona is violent
rage. (We will say of somebody, "He is like a bear with a
sore head.") Notice again that a bear can be a gentle and
inoffensive creature when it feels safe and able to get on with
life without interference. It is only when it feels threatened
in some way that the rage comes out.
A similar Persona is the tigress, particularly when defending
her cubs. Her power is formidable and she knows no personal
fear. Like the bear she acts on the principle that the best form
of defence is attack. If you should be unfortunate enough to
know anybody like this and incur her wrath, then you are
unlikely to know what hit you. Although in civilised society she
may not attack you physically, she will attack with all means in
her power.
I believe that it is the case that the tigress will normally
simply retreat into the jungle if there is a threat to herself,
provided she is free to do so. But if her cubs are in
danger then she is ferocity personified. And many mothers are
like that; and women who feel that they are defending someone or
something that they may subconsciously equate to a child. If you
attack such a person you would be foolish to expect her to back
down quietly. Notice again, though, that if she does not
feel a threat then she may well be as pleasant and amiable a
person as you would care to meet. You may well have met a
tigress in your time, or seen one on the screen.
At another extreme we have the rabbits. Their defence is to run
to earth. And there are people like that. If they feel
threatened they will make no defence - they just try to run
away. Once they are back at home they feel fine again. Note the
difference between the tortoise and the rabbit, both of whom are
quite unaggressive: the latter has a strong need to remove
itself physically from the danger.
Here are some other brief pictures to add to the collection. The
snake, if it feels under attack, will pour poison into you. And
you may know someone who has the power to say really poisonous
things, which hurt for a long time afterwards.
And what about the skunk? The human equivalent might be someone
who will slander you so effectively that people will stay well
away from you as if you stank to high heaven.
The common phrase, "His bark is worse than his bite,"
reminds us of the way in which a certain kind of dog behaves.
Usually you will find such a dog making a great deal of noise,
barking and growling, to give plenty of warning that it is
feeling threatened. Only if you continue to approach in an
aggressive way will it finally bite. In this way a dog is more
civilised than the bear or tigress, who are not concerned to
give any warning. Does this remind you of anyone?
I am not saying that this is an exhaustive list. Neither do you
have to agree with the way I have described the animal
stereotypes. What I have found that is that the use of these
animal labels for Defensive Personae can help people to see what
is happening in their relationships enormously. I usually ask
them to choose the kind of animals themselves, according to
their own ideas of their natures.
Problems often arise in marriages in which the partners have
different, and clashing, defensive personalities. As an example
suppose that a hedgehog is married to a sheep. (Sheep always
like to come together in a close flock if attacked.) If they are
under stress then the sheep wants the comfort of physical
closeness, but the hedgehog is determinedly turning into a
prickly ball. The sheep then feels rejected, because whenever
she gets close she is needled, while the hedgehog is threatened
by her approach. You may wonder how they got together in the
first place if they are so different. But remember that their
non-defensive personalities were probably very pleasant and
compatible. But married life is much easier if a sheep is
married to a sheep, and both like to get close together when
they feel attacked.
Marital Therapy
It is well worth looking at Defensive Personae in marital
therapy. Marital problems can be about a multitude of things.
But always, at some point, one partner is putting pressure on
the other to change; the pressure is felt as a threat; a
Defensive Persona is adopted; this is in turn seen as
threatening; a reciprocating Defensive Persona is adopted; the
problem escalates. If you ever get involved in helping someone
with a marital problem it is important to be aware of this. Each
partner alone can seem totally reasonable, pleasant and
justified. It is only when you see them, if possible, in the
middle of a quarrel that you get the whole picture. That
infuriating whining voice, that arrogant pointing finger, that
sneer, that closed look. Little things that are not seen by
their owner. But they are whip lashes to the partner. These
Defensive Personae may not be the root of the problem, but they
certainly get in the way of solving it.
The primary point of all the above is to emphasise one of the
important Facts of Life, which is:
A person behaves in quite a different way when feeling
threatened.
Or to put it another way:
A Defensive Personality is quite different from the
ordinary one.
Like many important truths this might seem obvious once it is
written down. But if we meet someone who is being nasty,
bad-tempered, irascible or sarcastic, how often do we bother to
ask the question: "Is this behaviour only the
result of feeling attacked?" We are all too likely to put
it down to simple, unprovoked aggression or nastiness. We,
on the other hand, are never guilty of this, are we? We,
if we are being unpleasant and aggressive, are always acting in
pure defence! With us it is totally justifiable!
Do you imagine that Al Capone, seen by others as an
arch-gangster, saw himself as a villain? Towards the end of his
life he is reported to have been very hurt at being attacked for
what he saw as a life of "giving people the lighter
pleasures". As far as he was concerned he had only ever
defended himself.
The Colours of Defence
There is another way which can be used to classify defensive
responses. It has less richness and vitality than the animal
analogies but it is a nice way of plotting personalities on one
sheet of paper, and appeals to some people a lot. It is also
better as a subjective measure of the feeling
of defensiveness, rather than a way of classifying the response
which is visible externally.
Central to all Defensive Personae is the feeling "I AM
UNDER ATTACK". Any behaviour which is not accompanied by
this feeling, coloured in some way, is not, I maintain, to be
classified as defensive. The basic feeling "I AM UNDER
ATTACK" is surrounded by a cloud of feelings which are
generally combinations of a fairly simple number of components.
If feelings were colours then we might picture anger as being
red (red with rage), fear as being yellow (we call a coward
yellow), and blue as frozen numbness (blue with cold). The red
feeling of anger leads to aggressive behaviour - the bear or
tigress; the yellow feeling of fear leads to flight - the
rabbit; while the blue frozen feeling leads to immobility - the
clam or tortoise. And these correspond to the three main courses
of action relative to any danger: go forward, backwards or stay
where you are.
Then just as we can make up any of thousands of colours by
mixing red, blue and yellow paints, so you can find thousands of
different emotional states which are a mixture of the above. For
example if you mix red and blue you get purple, and so you could
see a state of frozen or bottled up anger as purple. If there is
a mixture of red - a desire to fight, and yellow - a desire to
run away, you get a state with a lot of tension and often a lot
of displacement activity. It would correspond to a shade of
orange. Mix yellow and blue and you get green: mix fear with a
frozen feeling and you can get a horrible sick fear. Finally if
you mix the whole lot together then you get a dark brown or
black. Such a confused state where there is no clear defensive
path to follow will often lead to what would be called a black
state of mind - hopelessness or depression.
This classification by colours is a convenient shorthand way of
describing the emotional colouring of the basic defensive
emotion - I AM UNDER ATTACK. Colours are soft-edged and flow
into each other just like feelings, so there is nothing hard and
fast about it. So you can say of somebody, "He will usually
go yellow, but if he is pressed too hard he can move towards the
red", or, "When she goes red, she calms down quickly,
but sometimes she will go into a blue state which lasts for a
long time."
Clients will often enjoy looking at their own emotional response
to defence, as well as that of those they are involved with, in
these ways. And by doing so they clarify for themselves what is
happening in a very important part of their lives.
Predatory versus Defensive
The next distinction I want to make is between two broad classes
of behaviour in others that can provoke a defensive response.
The confusion between these two classes leads to much
unnecessary conflict. It can again be approached via an animal
analogy. There are predatory animals. They enjoy hunting. A cat
which is after a mouse is visibly a happy creature, and the
behaviour is quite different from its Defensive Persona. It is
because there are predatory animals that their prey have
developed various defensive strategies.
Now there are also predatory people. They will attack you
because they want something from you. And you would be wise to
defend yourself against them if possible. But if you think about
it you should realise that nowadays most of the
out-and-out predators one meets will be quite smooth operators,
con-men or gold-diggers of one kind or another. They usually
know better than to put others on the defensive. (There are a
few muggers and the like, of course, but they form an very, very
small proportion of the people we meet.)
It follows then that if someone is unpleasant it is very
unlikely that they are predatory and so we are
mainly defending ourselves against people who are unpleasant
purely as a means of defending themselves. This kind of
thing happens frequently in life and causes a lot of unnecessary
distress. It can happen in society at large, more often in
groups and organisations such as at work, and most often of all
within families and couples.
As an example, let us follow the path of a honeymoon couple. It
is their first breakfast together as man and wife. He remarks
lightly, "This is the best morning-after feeling yet!"
She, feeling compared with other women, is inwardly threatened,
and with an edge to her voice replies, "Oh? And who was
second best then?" He, reacting to the tone, and taken
aback by the line the conversation is taking, snaps, "Well?
And what about you and Jim then?" This remark arouses her
full defensive personality. From that point the path of the
quarrel will depend on their respective Defensive Personae. She
may run out, or weep, or become coldly sarcastic, or verbally
angry or throw the coffee at him. He, in turn, may grow sullen
or morose or violent or sarcastic and so on in reply.
You will notice that they both feel fully justified in defending
themselves against what they regard as the other's unjustified
attacks. Notice also that there is no need to assume any deep
Freudian, psychoanalytical or Transactional Analysis type basis
for the problem. It is enough to see that neither recognised the
defensive nature of the other's response, and saw it as
totally offensive.
Doubtless readers who have done any marital counselling will
recognise the pattern, even if they have never got trapped, as I
have, within the pattern themselves.
Vicious Circle
In terms of the systems analysis that I have described in
earlier articles in the Journal, and now more completely in the
book The Principles of
Hypnotherapy, we get a real problem when the pattern of
behaviour of any two organic systems A and B (people,
animals, groups or nations) has the following structure:
&uarr{Defensive response by A} &rarr &uarr {Defensive response by B}&rarr &uarr{Defensive response by A}
Meaning of arrows
This has the form of an increasing positive feedback loop, or
vicious circle. Once the loop is started by some chance event it
will continue to spiral into dangerous regions which may lead to
great damage. We have seen an example between a couple. I
suggest that the arms race between the two great powers in our
lifetime, now mercifully on the wane, was a further example in
which both sides saw the situation primarily in terms of defence
against a perceived threat.
Many conflicts between neighbouring countries have the same
dynamics. Each sees the other as a threat to their interests and
safety. There are times when factions will arise in political
parties which start to defend themselves each against the
attacks of the other by counterattacking and mud-slinging: a
common result is a split.
Complementary Defensive Personae
Of course not all pairs of Defensive Personae lead to the above
vicious circle. At times they can be complementary and can lead
to a rapid resolution of the situation. Let us look at some
examples.
I will take the first from the animal kingdom. In a pack of
wolves we can recognise several clearly separate Defensive
Personae. One is an attacking one - teeth bared, muscles tense
etc. Another is simply to run away. A third is puppy-like - a
rolling over on the back to expose the vulnerable abdomen. Now
the adult wolf is provided with instincts which will fairly
quickly switch off an aggressive persona if the response is one
of the other two, more submissive ones. Consequently quarrels
will usually end without bloodshed, the moment the wolf who is
getting the worse of an aggression-aggression conflict turns it
into an aggression-submission one, something that happens quite
suddenly.
Sometimes human quarrels follow the same pattern. In some cases
aggression in the male is turned off by tears in the female, for
example. In that case a quarrel may start with mutual criticisms
in which both feel more and more defensive, until the woman
reaches the point of tears: the switch of Defensive Persona from
an aggressive adult to what looks a little like a helpless child
is again typically quite abrupt. This then inactivates the man's
aggressive defences and, with luck, switches on a more
compassionate and mature persona, and harmony can be restored.
Symbolically we have in such cases:
&uarr{Anger in male}&rarr &uarr {Defensive crying} &rarr &darr{Anger in male}.
and so there is no longer a vicious circle. However, just to
make life difficult, some men respond to tears with yet more
anger, in which case tears will lead to a worse problem.
In a nutshell, the problem is that there is no guarantee that a
couple will have complementary defensive patterns - and it is
when they do not that we are most likely to find problems, in
our own lives or that of our clients.
Territorial Defensiveness
Another very useful consideration in the analysis of defensive
behaviour is that of territory. A very large number of animals
need territory for various reasons and will defend it against
other members of the same species. Robins, for example, are
territorial creatures at nesting time. The commitment to a
nesting site leads to the need for sufficient space around it to
be able to collect food for the brood that is to come. If there
was another robin nesting very near, then the chance of there
being enough food within easy reach would be diminished
considerably. It consequently pays the robin to fight off any
intruder who looks likely to enter the same territory. From the
point of view of the incumbent it presumably looks like a
justified defence of his territory; to the intruder it looks
like pure aggression. Interestingly it is the intruder who,
although usually acting in a more low-key way, is actually the
more predatory creature: he has a need which he is happy to
fulfil at the cost of another.
But the concept of territory can be, and has been, generalised
to more than simply land. Deer graze so extensively that they
have no defined physical territory, but on the other hand the
stag acts towards his females as if they are his territory: he
will defend them against another male. The sight of another male
arouses in him a Defensive Persona.
Let us look at some related phenomena in mankind. When jobs are
not easy to come by, then anyone who has one is likely to feel a
strong need to defend that job against others. We may thus find
in a company which is "downsizing" that a great deal
of internal nastiness arises, as each employee starts to think
of the others as potential competitors and, therefore, starts to
switch on a Defensive Persona more and more often. This can lead
to a great deal of stress.
If a family lives in a small house then there can often arise a
lot of conflict because there is not enough room for each
individual to have free space to do what they want to. In this
case there can be a lot of conflict over real territory; each
defending desperately the space that they perceive as their own.
But there can be fights over more abstract territory also. One
person may regard the playing of music as a part of their
"territory", while another regards "peace and
quiet" as a part of theirs. No matter how hostile the
quarrels become, each acts from a righteous attitude of
justifiable self-defence.
Intellectuals can fight with equal bitterness over intellectual
territory: "That was my idea: I deserve
the credit for that."
There can be conflicts of interest over land, possessions,
power, money, reputation, lovers, friends and so on endlessly.
Our perspective
What I would add is that even when we are, in truth, moving in
on someone else's territory we very seldom manage to recognise
the fact! From our point of view we are in our territory and
that other person seems to be either already, or potentially,
trespassing on it. This tendency is aggravated by the fact that
we tend to judge our own territory by our needs, hopes and
expectations, as much as by objective current fact. The junior
who had his eye on that promotion for years already feels that
in some sense it "belongs" to him, and will feel that
another candidate is trying to take away what is already his.
Or we may have a situation in which one group in a company is
building it up rapidly, and soon comes to take that growth for
granted. If there are members of the company who feel more
comfortable with things as they were, they will naturally
interpret this behaviour as a threat, and will act in a spirit
of defence. But equally the first group will not see their own
behaviour as a trespass at all, and will feel most offended by
the reaction, and in turn react as if attacked for no reason.
Our blindness to the other person's perspective and our
overwhelming need, as we see it, to defend ourselves,
contributes enormously to conflict and tension.
In helping clients who are caught up in that sort of situation
my usual practice is as follows. I first of all listen with an
encouraging and supportive silence while they get the whole
thing off their chest first. During this period they are
probably unable to listen to anything new in any case.
The second step is for me to summarise the key aspects of the
situation from their own point of view, with an
emphasis on all the wrongs that have been done to them. There
may well be some further points which arise out of this, and so
the process of talk and summary is repeated a few times.
By that stage hurt feelings have been assuaged to a considerable
extent, and I am seen to be able to take their side fully.
I will then say something on the following lines.
"Clearly this is a terrible situation, and something will
have to be done about it. I am not sure what is the best thing
to do, as it depends so much on knowing what he/she/they are
like. The more we know about things from their perspective the
easier it will be to decide how to handle the situation. I
wonder if you can help me now to get an idea of what things must
be looking like to him/her/them?"
I then gradually enable the client to piece together an idea of
how things look from the other person's point of view. This can
only be done slowly, though it is easier in some than in others.
It will usually end with at least some insight into the ways in
which the other person most feels threatened by the situation,
and therefore induces in the client a reduced sense of being
viciously attacked for no reason, and also increases their sense
of power: "Well, if they have to react that
strongly to little me, I must have affected them more than I
thought!" The advantage of these changes is that they very
much decrease the sense of defensiveness, and enhance confidence
a lot. And the more confident a person is, the more they are
able to alter their own behaviour in the situation to a more
constructive one.
On the basis of this increased understanding of the other
viewpoint, and the increased confidence, it is then usually
possible to formulate changes which can lead to improvement in
the situation, even if it has been going on for a long time.
Chronic defensiveness
This brings us to another aspect of the subject which is the
effect on an individual of having a Defensive Persona which is,
for one reason or another, more or less continuously active.
Typically we would call such a person stressed. In fact one
might look at all stress from this perspective and say that any
organic system is stressed if it is reacting defensively for the
greater part of the time.
We are all familiar with the interpretation of panics and
anxieties in terms of the activity of a "fight or flight"
response. But what is that response other than a defensive one?
The organism is put in a state where it is going to run away
defensively, or fight defensively. The reality or otherwise of
the threat is unimportant, of course, compared with whether or
not a threat is perceived.
Now, although it is far from being the whole of the way
in which such problems are resolved, I find that it is valuable
in very many cases of stress to dwell with the client on this
matter of the Defensive Persona. The more they become aware
of their own responses the more they are likely to be able to
control them, rather than be controlled by them.
It is often valuable in such cases to enable the client to
develop a conscious awareness of the wide variety of defences
that are available, and the situations in which they can most
appropriately be used. This will usually dove-tail with any
assertiveness training techniques that you use.
A Defensive Persona which is maintained for very long periods of
time can lead to all manner of problems, some of which have
labels.
If someone gets increasingly into a state where they feel that
everyone is threatening them then they are liable to be
labelled paranoid. I often feel that this is a bit
unfair to the sufferer, because it must be said in his defence
that in fact most people are, if not attacking him, at
least disliking him. The reason for this is simple. It is
because most Defensive Personae are unpleasant at least. If
anyone is in a state of chronic defensiveness then it is likely
that his every word and gesture will put people off him, and
they will reply with their own defensive behaviours which he
will, naturally, see as a further attack.
If someone is stuck in an extreme "yellow" defensive
condition then, if they approach the medical profession, there
is a good chance that they will be classified as suffering from
an anxiety neurosis or something similar. Someone who is too
long in the "blue" may be diagnosed as a depressive.
Someone who is defending himself consistently with a red state
of anger is perhaps rather more likely to find himself being
labelled a "psychopath" and ending up in court.
There can of course also be physical consequences of a
persistent defensiveness. The person who is constantly in a
"red" state of anger is likely to run the risk of
damagingly high blood pressure, for example. Someone with a
defence which is more in the "orange" - a rather
cowardly repression of anger which is therefore internalised may
well end up with ulcers. In some a characteristic response to
feeling under attack is the tensing of muscles - in the neck or
back for example. Chronic defensiveness can then give rise to
chronic pain in these areas.
If a client reports of any symptom that it seems to go away when
on holiday, then it is well worth looking at the ways in which
that person reacts - mentally, emotionally and physically - to a
feeling of being under threat, and also where the perceived
danger is coming from. If the threat is perceived to be there a
lot of the time then the distortion of the natural personality
involved can lead, as we have seen, to stress in whatever area
of the person is most active in the defensive personality.
With some clients it is appropriate to refer to the knight in
armour that I mentioned at the start of this article. As long as
he only wears the armour in battle, it must be regarded
as a good thing. But imagine what happens if it rusts up and he
is then unable to get it off, even when he is home from the
wars, and in bed with his loving wife again. It is going to do
very little for his marriage! But there is many a man who dons a
metaphorical defensive armour in his daily work, and who also
fails to take it off when he comes home, and so his wife is
unable to come close to the real man. In both cases is it so
surprising if the wife finds herself eventually drawn to a man
who does NOT wear a defensive barrier all the time she is with
him?
Of course it is not only men who can get stuck in defensive
mode. There are all sorts of reasons - upbringing, abuse, other
relationships, etc. - why a woman may well anticipate attacks
within a close relationship and get locked into a defensive
mode.
Trauma-Induced Defensive Personae
As an important example of how a Defensive Persona can form and
last for a lifetime we may consider childhood trauma, abuse or
rape. The child is often helpless to get away from such things.
The best it can do is to change the way it thinks, feels or
acts. It will do its best to defend itself against the pain. And
the Defensive Persona it adopts will become a part of its adult
personality, too. If the mother always rejected the child then
it can easily grow up unwilling to form a relationship with a
woman - if the defence was never to get close to one. If the
father was always violent and the defence was to go into a
shell, then the person is likely to be stuck with the same
Defensive Persona when threatened, even when grown up. One of
the jobs of the therapist is to trace back inappropriate
Defensive Personae to the time they started.
Habits and Defensive Personae
We may note that many habits are also linked into a Defensive
Person. Many people smoke, for example, the moment they feel
threatened. It may well not be the only reason that
they smoke, but it is one reason, and when it is there
it is often necessary to deal with the perceived threat as part
of the help in giving up smoking.
The same can apply to eating. There are quite a few
people - women perhaps more than men - who will eat when
threatened. There is biological sense behind this. Imagine life
thousands of years ago, before there was any way to store food,
and there was little way of carrying more than a few days'
supply. Then imagine that a tribe was under threat - perhaps
from famine, or a rival tribe. What makes more sense than for
the women - who have the overwhelming priority of providing food
for their babies - immediately to eat whatever was available,
and storing it in the most convenient and secure form: body fat.
This is not appropriate nowadays, of course, but old instincts
do not die away in a hundred years or so. Consequently, helping
some women to lose weight is the same as helping them to feel no
longer under threat.
The retreat into drunkenness is yet another form of defensive
behaviour that some people can adopt. They may find a situation
too difficult and a drunken stupor gives some relief. If this
becomes a response that is indulged in to excess, then we have a
diagnosis of alcoholism. And I have found in my experience,
which is not extensive, that tackling the problem at the root -
identifying the perceived threat and the poor defensive response
- can give very good results in such cases.
In all of the above problems, I suggest, the problem is better,
and more permanently, tackled at the level of the Defensive
Persona as a whole, than at the level of a surface symptom.
Therapy
I do not suppose that there is just one way of changing
a Defensive Persona which is giving trouble, but will mention
some approaches which will be familiar to readers, and help them
to integrate the current perspective into their favourite
approach.
We may perhaps start with Cognitive Therapy: a method which
might incorporate much of the material in this article, because
of its reliance on the conscious understanding of the processes
involved. From that understanding will commonly flow a more
conscious control over defensive processes, both within the
client, and in their awareness of and response to, the Defensive
Personae of others.
Another approach is via Behaviour Therapy. Here we would focus
on the behavioural part of the persona alone and work to
eradicate counter-productive behaviour and to institute new
behaviour patterns following standard procedures.
If you find yourself using a Transactional Analysis framework
frequently, then you could focus particularly on scripts which
have a recognisably defensive function, and in particular on
conflicts between the Child and Parent which involve, typically,
some form of Defensive Persona in each. This conflict may at
times be worked out within the individual, or in his or her
interactions with others.
Within Gestalt therapy you would naturally be focusing on
defences, perhaps getting a client explicitly to act out or
externalise the Defensive Persona and expressing the defensive
feelings in other ways.
Assertiveness training has already been mentioned, and contains
valuable methods for replacing a negative or hostile defence of
territory with a calmer approach which avoids making the other
person threatened in turn. This avoids the typical vicious
circle we have noted, and makes a reasoned negotiation possible.
Regression can be a valuable tool whenever it is the case that
the Defensive Persona evolved to cope with a particular
difficult situation in the past. It can be useful to resolve the
tensions of that time, and also to contrast that
situation with present-day ones, to minimise the likelihood of
the old defensive patterns emerging inappropriately. Such
regression can naturally be enhanced by the use of hypnotic
techniques.
Hypnosis can, of course, be used to address some of the other
areas involved in defensiveness. Any suggestions of confidence
will typically be helpful, for example, because a feeling of
confidence reduces the likelihood of feeling defensive. Positive
suggestions that other people are not as hostile as is
supposed can also help.
Laughter
"Laughter therapy", which was featured on a recent QED
programme on TV, could also be seen as a powerful tool, for
there is nothing like laughter to dissolve a sense of
defensiveness. (Cf. my article, "Mr. Bean
the Therapist, Journal, Spring 1995.)
As an example from my own casebook of the use of laughter in
family therapy I will give the following.
The husband can enter dark moods. This frightens the wife who
gets angry with him. But this only makes him worse, and so we
have a classic positive feedback loop: a vicious circle.
To break this with laughter I simply asked the wife to get out
her lipstick on such occasions and paint an enormous smiling
clown's face on her husband. (Ericksonian's among you will love
this.)
The act of doing this, and seeing his morose face transformed
into a laughing clown makes her crease up with laughter. He then
catches the amusement and finds it impossible to maintain his
mood. And so the vicious circle is simply eliminated.
Laughter is so important, and so uniquely human, a way of
defusing defensiveness that teaching clients to be able to laugh
at problem situations must be very high on our list of
priorities.
Finally I might mention Christian Therapy. Such an approach
would draw attention to some of the basic and wholesome
teachings as, "For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your
heavenly Father will also forgive you." (Matthew 5.14),
which will act to reduce the intensity with which we react to
others' trespass on our territory. "Love your enemies,
bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and
pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you,"
(Matthew 5.44) and "Perfect love casteth out fear," (1
John 4.18) will remind us of the truth that the most effective
antidote to fear of our fellow-man or -woman is love.
Or we might quote from other faiths or people. Here is one from
Martin Luther King:
Non violence is the answer to the crucial political and
moral questions of our time, the need for the human being to
overcome oppression and violence without resorting to oppression
and violence. People must evolve for all human conflict a method
which rejects revenge, aggression and retaliation. The
foundation of such a method is love.
Whatever the approach, the overcoming of the use of an
inappropriate Defensive Persona is central to very many of the
problems to which flesh is heir.
Further Reading
The student and anyone else who might like to read more about
some of the matters in this article might find the following
suggestions interesting. Full references in Bib.
It is useful to have a grounding in defensive animal behaviour
in this context, and a excellent starting point there could be
ethologist Konrad Lorenz' On Aggression. Robert
Ardrey's The Territorial Imperative, 1969, combines
insights from the animal kingdom to analogous behaviour in man.
A very nice over-view of theories of international conflict,
which can lead on via other references, is to be found in John
L. Casti's Searching for Certainty, 1991.
Cognitive therapy was founded by Aaron Beck originally in the
context of the treatment of depression. His Cognitive
Therapy and the Emotional Disorders, International
Universities Press, 1976 and Cognitive Therapy of
Depression, 1979 are classic works.
Behaviour therapy emerged in the late 50s, evolving from earlier
behaviourist theories of psychology. The seminal book was
Behaviour Therapy Techniques by Joseph Wolpe in 1966.
Typical techniques are desensitization and aversion.
Transactional Analysis can be approached via the classic
best-seller, Games People Play, 1976.
Gestalt therapy is associated with the work of Fritz Perls, and
has evolved a variety of techniques for dealing with internal
personality conflicts. A starting point could be his 1969 book
Gestalt Therapy Verbatim.
An idea of how Christian teachings can be incorporated into
therapy is provided by Frans Brandt's book Victory over
Depression.
I cannot give any references to the concept of the Defensive
Persona, which I do not associate with a particular school of
therapy. Neither can I cite a reference to its classification
via animal stereotypes or colours, because I believe they are
original with me.
Acknowledgement
I am indebted to Atheline Kelly, who not only helps
enormously with the typing and proof-reading of the Journal, but
also pointed out a serious omission in my first version of this
article. I had forgotten to mention laughter!
This article first appeared in the Journal of the National
Council for Psychotherapy and Hypnotherapy Register, Autumn 96.
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Hypnotherapy as De-Hypnosis
I FIND IT FASCINATING to watch Paul McKenna on TV on those rare
occasions when I do not have an evening client and he is on.
He is clearly good at his work, and it is clear from his book
that he is aware also of much of the material - such as
Erickson's work and NLP - that is part of the background of the
typical therapist. Yet I have found a reluctance to use the type
of inductions and approach of the stage hypnotist in my own
work. (And the one time I have seen McKenna work on TV as a
therapist I was interested to notice that his approach
was pure therapist and no stagecraft.)
In pondering on this matter I have come up with the following
thoughts, which might be of interest to others.
The characteristic produced by a stage Hypnotist in his clients
is a limitation of the personality. When they
are acting out the suggestions made they will typically have no
access to much of their common-sense background knowledge. It is
interesting and amusing to watch the subjects acting on the
suggestion that to put on a pair of trousers is impossibly
difficult, but for this to be happen, their normal knowledge
must be rendered inaccessible.
Another perspective on this is provided by the word
dissociation. Extreme cases of dissociation are
provided by people who demonstrate multiple personalities. In
such people there seem to be distinct and non-cooperating
personalities which can take it in turn to be `in control'. Each
personality may have its own memories, or one may have access to
those of another but not vice versa.
Some theories of Hypnosis are based on this phenomenon (Cf.
Hilgard Neodissociation theory of multiple cognitive
controls ). From this perspective a lot of what happens on
stage can be seen as the creation of a secondary (and limited)
personality in the client. The bounds of this personality are
determined by the particular suggestion made, and, as noted
above, it typically has very limited access to information
available to the normal full conscious.
It is in the interest of the stage hypnotist to create
such sub-personalities and to ensure that they are cut off and
or dissociated.
Now the Hypnotherapist is also familiar with the phenomenon of
dissociated mental systems. The whole theory of repression can
be seen in this light as the severing (for defensive purposes)
of all information about some traumatic event or events from
full consciousness. Concepts such as "the child within"
similarly testify to the existence of internal sub-systems which
are at variance (often) with the conscious will.
But notice that in these cases what we, as Hypnotherapists, are
striving for is NOT to enhance the separation, NOT to make the
dissociation more extreme, but rather to reduce or eliminate it.
We are finding ways to allow the inner child and the inner adult
to be closer and to love each other not hate each other behind
barriers.
We are finding ways to bring repressed traumatic material safely
back into consciousness by showing how it may be dealt with.
Or again, think of the many times in which you have heard a
client say, "I do not feel that I am in control of
... Instead it is in control of me." In other
words, we are dealing with a situation in which some mental
subsystem has become independent of the system of conscious
control - has become slightly dissociated.
As Hypnotherapists, what are we trying to do in such cases? Are
we trying to increase the separation between the
systems? Are we trying to let the conscious mind have less
control? No, it is quite the reverse: we are trying to reduce
the separation: to bring the subsystem back into contact
and control again.
Yet again, have you not met clients for whom a problem has been
started by some comment made by another to them? The words: "It
is your fault!", "You are stupid!",
"Sex is dirty!", etc, have stuck somewhere in
the mind and been acted on ever since with all the
characteristics of a post-hypnotic suggestion. And what do we do
then but remove the power of those words, eliminate
their quasi-hypnotic autonomous control of the person. We are
effectively de-hypnotising.
All the above examples should make it clear why I say that in
Therapy I find myself striving to unite subsystems, to
create an integrated and harmonious whole. By contrast
most of the typical phenomena of hypnosis, particularly of the
stage variety, are working in quite the opposite direction: they
are implanting suggestions cut off from the normal
conscious personality. They want effective amnesia for
normal associations when acting out a suggestion.
It is for these reasons, I think, that I do not find myself
using a typical stage-hypnotist's techniques. My goals are so
very different.
The great value of knowing about such techniques and the results
thereof is that it gives one a great awareness of the way in
which we work. If you know how to do something it is a
great help if your main task is to undo such things.
It is partly for those reasons also that I am strongly against a
narrow definition of Hypnotherapy as I have written elsewhere in
this Journal. To my mind the Hypnotherapist is far more often
using a knowledge of hypnotic phenomena to eliminate
them rather than `hypnotising': creating new barriers,
dissociations etc.
Of course I am aware that my ideas may be biassed by my own
world view, which is one in which:
harmony is preferred to discord, cooperation is preferred to
strife, integration is preferred to segregation, democracy is
preferred to dictatorship, conciliation is preferred to
confrontation and so on.
Finally the thing that makes me most uneasy about the
dissociated hypnotic personalities on stage is that they have
no sense of humour. To be fully human is to be able to
laugh, especially at oneself.
This article first appeared in the Journal of the National
Council of Psychotherapists and Hypnotherapy Journal, winter 94.
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Practical Psychotherapy: Interview and Diagnosis
The Disciple came into the presence of the Master and said,
"Oh wise one, I am tired of my ignorance. Tell me all the
right answers, so that I may also become wise."
And the Master replied, "You are right in calling
yourself ignorant. Only the ignorant think that wisdom lies in
right answers. The wise merely know the right questions."
ANY DECENT medical course will place a lot of emphasis on
diagnosis. But I have yet to read a book on Hypnotherapy which
devotes any time to this essential process, while books on
Psychotherapy which do devote time to diagnosis are concerned
almost exclusively with clinical problems: schizophrenia,
clinical depression, obsessive-compulsive disorder etc.
We are not generally faced with such severe problems, but we ARE
faced with a variety of problems and it is our job to define
clearly in our minds what the problems are, so that we may find
the most effective method of solving them.
In this article we will be looking at some ways of tackling this
aspect of our work.
Net or line?
There are two traditional ways of catching fish: a net or a
line. The two traditional ways of finding out what is in
someone's mind are either the trawling technique of letting him
or her talk and talk without interruption, at the end of which
you hope to have caught all information of value, or the line
and hook technique of asking questions. (And if you look at a
question mark in a certain way it does look a bit like a hook,
does it not (try up-side-down)?)
In practice we may use a combination, with due sensitivity to
the inclination of the client. At one extreme I remember one
client who gave me the story of her life for six hours, spread
over four sessions, as smoothly as if it were a written
autobiography. It would have been quite wrong to interrupt
during the telling: we must always remember that there is for
many a definite need to be listened to and understood, quite
apart from any other help offered. At the other extreme there
are individuals whose minds are so confused that it is necessary
to ask some specific questions in order to tease out any
semblance of order.
As a matter of technique I am going to propose a number of
questions. They can be thought of as hooks with which to catch
the essential information, or as hooks on which to place the
information gathered by a trawling technique. As a first example
of this we have:
HOOK 1. As an opening question, use "How would you like to
start? Some people prefer to talk about the problem in their own
words. In other cases it is easier if I ask questions. Which
would you prefer?"
The nature of the problem
The only reason clients come is because there is something
bothering them. But it is very important to avoid jumping to
conclusions. I have lost count of the number of times I have
talked with a prospective client on the phone, and after five
minutes been quite confident that I understood what the problem
was, only to find at the first session that I had got it quite
wrong. One reason why this happens is that clients will not open
up about very personal matters until they have achieved
confidence in the therapist. Thus they may start by talking
vaguely of stress and needing to relax, when what really worries
them is a sexual problem. At times this can be reversed. One
client presented her problem as being extreme masochistic
tendencies in her sexual relationships, but it slowly became
obvious that the real worry had to do with avoiding facing
certain deep fears and insecurities. For her the latter showed
weakness, and weakness she despised far more than a mere sexual
deviance.
Another reason for initial problems is the different meanings
that people give to words. "Paranoid", for example,
means to some people something like "mad", to others
"emotionally disturbed", to others it means "thinking
others are scheming against me". None of these is what is
meant by the word in its technical sense as, "The name
given to one type of functional psychosis, viz. that in which
the patient holds a coherent, internally consistent, delusional
system of beliefs, centering round the conviction that he (or,
more rarely, she) is a person of great importance and is on that
account being persecuted, despised, and rejected."
Gregory (1987)Bib.
Here are some questions which can help to clarify the exact
nature of the problem, and to avoid any misunderstandings about
it.
"Tell me in your own words about the most recent time when
you had this problem."
HOOK 2. "What feelings did you have at the time?"
HOOK 3. "What physical sensations did you notice
at the time?"
HOOK 4. "What were you thinking at the time?
The purpose of these specific questions is to build up a clear
idea on your mind of the complex processes which are going on in
the client. Let us take for example a person who comes stating
that the problem is "blushing". This one label can
stand for a variety of different problems. We might find that a
particular female client blushes only in the presence of a male
in authority and that it is accompanied by feelings of fear,
physical sensations of trembling and thoughts that she hopes he
will not approach any nearer. (We may then suspect that the
problem is primarily sexual.) Another client might report that
it only arises when he is about to address a large group of
people, at which point he feels very self-conscious, there is a
sensation of shaking in the voice and the thoughts in his head
are, "I am going to make a fool of myself." (We may
then suppose that the central problem is self-confidence, or
similar.) It will be clear that the psychodyanamics of these two
cases are totally different, and consequently any help given is
also likely to be on quite different lines.
Although I have indicated one-line answers to the questions
above, in practice the questions will stimulate quite a lot of
information which will throw more and more light on the problem,
and often show it to be fundamentally different from what it
first appeared.
Origins
Problems do not generally arise for no reason. Extreme phobias
of water do not arise without cause, for example. It is usually
very important therefore to use
HOOK 5. "When did the problem start? Tell me about the
earliest occasions you can remember."
If we find that the first time the client approached a swimming
pool she nearly drowned, as happens not infrequently in the case
of such a phobia, we have found out something of great
importance when it comes to solving the problem.
But this question may also show up any changing patterns in the
problem over the years. It is a common phenomenon for an initial
problem to become confused in many ways as time passes because
the worry about the initial problem can generate further
symptoms which can in turn create further anxiety or
depressions.
There are times, however, when the connection between the origin
of the perceived problem and the real cause is not so obvious. A
classic instance of this is the delayed onset of extreme
distress, anxiety or panic attacks which can arise six months or
more after a bereavement. Typically the bereaved person has
repressed the grief for that time. More extreme cases involve
the repression of traumatic material from as far back as early
childhood.
In order to discover such origins the following questions (6 and
7) are very useful.
HOOK 6. "Can you think of any big changes or upsets or
bereavements in the year before it started?"
It is a fact that most people find most big changes rather
traumatic, but the current ethos is that we should be able to
adjust to them with the ease of well-oiled machines. As a result
quite a few problems arise that we, as therapists, can help
comparatively easily, because they involve short-term
transitions. The client merely needs some help and support while
going through a change in life.
In order to find out about the possibility of earlier traumatic
material being responsible the following is a very useful
question.
HOOK 7. "When you are in that state, how old do you feel?"
I have a client at present who, when entering into certain
distressed states, begins to behave and talk like a three year
old. This is a clear indicator of what is currently being
revealed as a problem rooted in extensive homosexual abuse at
that age.
If it is possible to talk to another member of the client's
family then material to hang on Hook 7 is usually very easy to
obtain, as child-like behaviour is more easily noticed from the
outside.
Why is it still a problem?
By the time we have obtained by one means or the other the
answer to all the above questions we should have a very clear
idea of the precise way in which the problem affects the client,
and how it arose. The next really important thing is to find out
why it has not disappeared.
It is always worth remembering that problems of all sorts have
arisen through the ages. Psychotherapists are inclined to forget
that people survived the most appalling traumas through all the
history of mankind before the science of psychotherapy arose in
the last century. At another level it is worth remembering that
everyone on the face of the world has had the "problem"
of bed-wetting. The only differences between us lies in the age
at which we grow out of it. Most people are nervous in front of
an audience at some age, but most who have to address an
audience frequently usually overcome the fear naturally. Most
people experience grief at a bereavement. But most people get
over it in what we may call a natural way: i.e. without
professional help.
I am suggesting that the norm is that people do overcome
problems one way or other. So it is really important to find out
why, in a particular client, the problem continues to be a
problem. I will formalise this as a tool for thought.
HOOK 8. Why has the client still got this problem?
To remind yourself of this important point the following is a
very important question to ask, for that reason and others as
well.
HOOK 9. "What have you tried before, in dealing with this
problem?"
This will very rapidly fish out the history of any medical
interventions; whether the client has been to see other
therapists and any practical ways they have tried themselves.
The most common reasons for a problem to continue are the
following.
a) There may be repressed emotional material, which the client
has no conscious access to, and it is the driving force behind
the problem.
b) The way in which the client is thinking about or treating the
problem is actually making the problem worse.
c) There are external factors in the client's life which are
maintaining the problem.
We would hope to have uncovered factors a) and b) by the lines
of inquiry above. The most common pattern for b) is illustrated
by the father in this little story.
"This father took his little girl to the playground. She
wanted to go on the swing. He let her, but stood by to make sure
that she swung safely. To begin with he was happy, but then he
noticed that she was starting to swing to what he felt was a
dangerous height. He decided to "take control" and,
when the swing was at its highest, pushed it down firmly. For a
few seconds he was relieved to see the swing descending rapidly.
But then, to his alarm, it rose even higher than before. He had
learned nothing, however, and in his alarm he again pushed down
firmly when the swing was at its highest!"
You may picture father and child together getting into a more
and more frantic state with every swing of the swing.
Steinbeck, in his book Sweet Thursday writes, "There
are some people who will say that this whole account is a lie,
but a thing isn't necessarily a lie even if it didn't
necessarily happen. There are far too many people who make their
problem, whether it is anxiety, hypochondria, shaking etc. etc.
worse by acting just like that father and panicking when the
problem is at its peak with the predictable result of making it
even worse the next time.
External causes
Let us next turn to the third big class of reasons why the
problem continues: external factors. Such factors most commonly
involve other people. Here is a question which will rapidly
reveal problems in that area.
HOOK 11. "What do people close to you advise?"
This may seem a little indirect, but it gives a way for the
client to talk about husband or wife or father or mother without
seeming to blame them at all. This is quite important, for a lot
of problems arise because a person does not feel that it is
right to go against the feelings or opinions of a loved one.
Nevertheless the answers should reveal to you the extent to
which the family, friends or employers are the cause of the
continuation of the problem.
Related problems
There is another potentially very important area that the above
questions may fail to fish adequately. It is quite common for
the initial presented problem, as observed above, to be at most
part of a more general problem or problems. It is often
necessary both for reasons of time, and for reasons of allowing
the client to gain trust in you, to leave this area until a
second session. But sooner or later it is well worth bringing
out in some form the question:
HOOK 12. "If you look back over your life, would you say
that you have had any other significant problems to deal with?"
This might catch significant facts like hating boarding school,
a disease, an aborted child, a broken relationship, a sleep
problem, sexual malfunction and so on, which the client may not
think to be relevant, though they often are.
Collect your own hooks.
I have suggested twelve "hooks" or questions above. It
will be obvious that they are not to be applied like an
inquisition. In many cases they will remain unspoken, though we
will have them in our minds in order to structure the form of
the discussion. You will have many of your own favourite
questions. Perhaps you are not fully aware of what they are. It
can be a useful exercise to note down those that have passed the
test of time. (And you may care to share them with others
The disciple said, "Thank you, wise master, thank you.
I will immediately seek the right questions and then I, too,
will be wise." And he left.
The Master shook his head sadly. "Once a fool, always a
fool. There is no wisdom in merely knowing the right questions.
Wisdom begins with understanding the answers to the right
questions."
Reprinted from the Journal of The National Council of
Pscyhotherapists and Hypnotherapy Register, Autumn 93.
Footnote: I wonder how carefully you read the above? Bruce
Quinby CHT, in October 2008, was the first to write to me to
point out that THERE IS NO HOOK 10 mentioned in the above
article! This omission was in fact a simple blunder on my part.
Life is full of mistakes. We all make them. We need to be
tolerant of the mistakes others make. And we need to learn how
to gain something from each of our own. In this case I will
simply reframe the omission as follows: "The missing Hook
10 is one for YOU to think of for yourself! It may well be the
best of the lot. Any suggestions will be added below."
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Good Advice
Dylan Morgan
When I was just a small boy My father said to me, "Destroy
all weeds without delay Or they will destroy thee." And
so with heat gun in my hand I go out every day And burn
all weeds, and all around That dares get in my way. It
makes me feel such virtue. It makes me feel so good. But
my garden never seems to grow Or flower as it should.
When I was just a little girl My mother said to me, "Waste
is a sin, save all you can, And you will wealthy be." And
so I have saved every crumb, I saved up every scrap. And
nothing have I thrown away That fell into my lap. But now
my house is far too small I cannot move within, And my
twenty stone of body Just will not seem to slim.
When I was just a little boy My father I heard speak: "Be
strong, my son, and never show Your feelings. That is
weak." And so I keep a poker face, I keep it day and
night. And never frown nor smile nor cry. I know that I am
right. I was strong when my wife left me, And when I lost
my friends, And I am strong though unemployed. I'll be
strong when my life ends.
When I was just a little girl, My mother loved me so. "All
men are dirty", so she said, And kept me clean. And
watched me grow. And I have kept away from dirt Each month
of my life. I never have been sullied, No man made me his
wife. But I am sad now as I reach The closing of my
days, That I've no daughter of my own To teach her cleanly
ways.
When I was just a little boy My sailor Dad told me To
"Keep your room ship-shape, my lad, Or you may drown at
sea." Now I have children of my own I shout and storm
at them Because their rooms are such a mess: For their own
good I punish them. But all the same their faces fall When
I come in the door. And just today my daughter dear Has
left to be a whore.
When I was just a little girl My mother taught her ways. "All
household dust is like the plague Avoid it all your days." I
move nothing to disturb it And move with greatest care. And
shout to warn the others Of the dangers lying there. How
strange my house is dustier Than any other wife's. How
strange the others all prefer Any other lives.
I'm proud to be a Pharisee I'm proud I keep the Laws My
fathers handed down to me Perfect, without flaws. I pay my
tithes of mint and herb My hands are clean as clean I
don't consort with sinners No evil have I seen. And when
someone accuses me And says my gain is loss, He must be
mad or bad you know Fit fodder for a cross.
My father was a farmer poor And Bible tales he told Of
sorting out the wheat and tares Of shepherds and the fold. I
am not very clever and rules I may not keep. But I know
that I am loved And love each of my sheep. And at my end
my every grain Shall enter Heaven's store. And every tare
among my grain Be forgotten evermore.
The meaning of this poem will probably be clear to every
therapist. How many times have we had clients whose lives have
been crippled by having absorbed as an absolute truth about life
one that is only relative? Very well-meaning parents pass on to
their children the fruits of their experiences of life - or of
their own parents' passed-on wisdom - with no thought for the
fact that the world in which their children are to live can be
very different or that their children may have very different
natures and characters.
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Humour
Serious things cannot be understood without humorous
things, nor opposites without opposites. -
Plato.
A LECTURER on psychology was explaining to a female student the
power of analytic psychology.
"For example," he said, "I notice that you always
draw a line at the end of your essays."
"Yes, I do," she replied, "But what does that
tell you?"
"It would indicate that when you have finished something
you do so very definitely. I can deduce that when you finish a
meal you place your knife and fork very neatly on the plate."
"Yes, that's true," admitted the student.
"And that will indicate that when you do the washing up you
will do it completely, dry it and put it away."
"You're right!" exclaimed the woman.
"These habits in turn suggest a woman who desires to become
a good wife, and is probably already in a steady relationship."
"Right again!" she replied with a smile.
"And I can further deduce that you are very loyal and
faithful. You would not, for example, have a one night stand
with, shall we say, your best friend's boy-friend."
"Amazing!" said the girl. "I had no idea you
could know me so well from such a small thing as the way I end
an essay!"
She went away very much impressed with all this and was
determined to tell someone. So when she next saw her best friend
she said, "Psychology is a brilliant subject. It tells you
so much. For example: do you draw lines at the end of your
essays?"
"No," replied her friend.
"Oh!" said the student, and then a moment later she
added in a fury, "How dare you sleep with
my boy-friend!"
. - o O o - .
A Child Psychologist was spending a holiday in laying a new
drive to his garage. He had finished and was standing back to
admire the perfect level surface when the small boy who lived
next door rode up on his bike with great enthusiasm. Such was
his momentum that he managed to get half way up the drive before
collapsing in a sea of concrete.
The Psychologist released his anger in a furious and
unexpurgated outburst which brought the boy's mother out to see
what was happening.
"You, of all people," she exclaimed, "should have
some sympathy and understanding - you are supposed to love
children!"
"Madam, I do" he replied, "in the abstract, but
not in the concrete."
Adapted from an "old chestnut" found in "Sleeping
Dogs Lie" by Julian Gloag.
. - o O o - .
Solicitor: Your husband is asking for a divorce.
Woman: On what grounds?
Solicitor: On the grounds of your incompatibility.
Woman. Ridiculous! He's the one who's incompatible!!
- Morien Morgan
. - o O o - .
The following is a verbatim transcript of a client's remark
- Ed.
I HEARD on the radio about this wonderful book, "Learning
how to live without clutter". I made a note of it at the
time. Unfortunately it has got lost somewhere in the mess!
. - o O o - .
An executive came back from an assertiveness course. It had been
suggested that he place a card on his desk to remind himself of
what he had learned. So he carefully wrote out:
BE DECISIVE
Then he stood back to look at it, considered it, and carefully
added a question mark:
BE DECISIVE?
- o O o -
A PSYCHOTIC killer had finally been trapped by the police in his
hide-out. A martial arts expert, a counsellor and a
hypnotherapist all volunteered to get him out.
The martial arts expert broke open the door with a well-aimed
kick and then dived to the attack. There was a sound of gun-fire
and his dead body was flung out.
The counsellor then walked very slowly towards the house and
began to reason with the killer. Then a single shot hit him in
the leg and he fell to the ground.
Despite all warnings the hypnotherapist was determined to try,
and approached the house. Ten minutes later he emerged, hand in
hand with the unarmed killer.
"How did you manage it?" everyone was anxious to know.
"Why didn't he shoot you too?"
"Simple. I merely regressed him to childhood: he couldn't
hurt me with a water-pistol!"
- o O o -
A MAN telephoned a psychotherapist.
"I wonder if you can help with a difficult problem."
"I might be able to. Tell me about it."
"It is my wife. She thinks she is a hot water bottle. Do
you think you can help?"
"Hmm. It is unusual, certainly. But I have helped worse
cases. Tell me, how does the problem manifest itself?"
"Well, she spends every night warming my neighbour's bed
for him."
. - o O o - .
Psychotherapist: What seems to be the problem?
Client: Well, as far as I am concerned it is my family. You see,
I love books, and they think that there is something wrong in
that: they say that I love them excessively.
Psychotherapist (with strong feeling): How ridiculous! They are
quite wrong. It is an excellent thing to love books. I love them
myself, and always have done.
Client: Oh, it is such a relief to find someone who understands!
How do you like them best: boiled or sautèed?
- o O o -
Have you heard the one about the woman who went to see a
Freudian analyst?
"Doctor, please tell me what is wrong with me. I was
standing at the jewellers counter. He had put a lot of rings out
for me to look at. Then, when he turned his back to the counter
I quickly transferred some rings from the counter to my bag.
Please tell me. Am I suffering from kleptomania?"
"Nein, nein," replied the analyst soothingly, "It
is ein simple example of Counter Transference."
- o O o -
A woman phoned a hypnotherapist a few days after her depressed
husband had seen him.
"Excuse me phoning, but I am very worried about my husband.
He can't remember anything about his session with you. What did
you do to him?"
"I am sure there is nothing to worry about," replied
the hypnotherapist suavely, "It is quite normal to have
amnesia for the hypnotic experience. Your husband was suffering
from a mild endogeneous depression and so I simply repeated to
him in a trance that he would be `Better and Better Every Day,
Better and Better in Every Way.' It is an excellent technique. I
can't see that anything can go wrong. What exactly are you
worried about?"
"I see. Did you know he was a little deaf?"
"Yes, but that has nothing to do with his depression."
"But I think it may have a lot to do with the new problem.
Since you saw him he has lost a fortune BETTING: every day and
in every way!"
- o O o -
THE WIFE had become so domineering that her husband insisted she
see a psychiatrist. The wife consented, and the couple went to a
doctor. The husband waited outside, and when his spouse emerged
after the hour-long session, he asked, "Did you make any
progress?"
"Not much," she replied. "It took me 50 minutes
to convince that man that his couch would look better against
the wall."
Columban Fathers Mission, reprinted in the Readers Digest.
. - o O o - .
Small girl to mother: Let's play that I'm your
Mummy.
Mother (horrified): Oh no, we can't do that, darling!
I'm too busy playing your Mummy.
TM
. - o O o - .
A PSYCHOTIC killer had finally been trapped by the police in his
hide-out. A martial arts expert, a counsellor and a
hypnotherapist all volunteered to get him out.
The martial arts expert broke open the door with a well-aimed
kick and then dived to the attack. There was a sound of gun-fire
and his dead body was flung out.
The counsellor then walked very slowly towards the house and
began to reason with the killer. Then a single shot hit him in
the leg and he fell to the ground.
Despite all warnings the hypnotherapist was determined to try,
and approached the house. Ten minutes later he emerged, hand in
hand with the unarmed killer.
"How did you manage it?" everyone was anxious to know.
"Why didn't he shoot you too?"
"Simple. I merely regressed him to childhood: he couldn't
hurt me with a water-pistol!"
JDM
. - o O o - .
A MAN telephoned a psychotherapist.
"I wonder if you can help with a difficult problem."
"I might be able to. Tell me about it."
"It is my wife. She thinks she is a hot water bottle. Do
you think you can help?"
"Hmm. It is unusual, certainly. But I have helped worse
cases. Tell me, how does the problem manifest itself?"
"Well, she spends every night warming my neighbour's bed
for him."
THEN THERE was the hypnotist who planted the following
post-hypnotic suggestion.
"When the session is over I will ask you to pay and you
will say, `That was a brilliant session. I must pay you twice
your normal fee.' You will say that but you will forget
everything I have said in a trance. You will forget everything I
have said."
A few minutes later the subject was woken up, and the hypnotist
said, "Now that is the end of the session. It only remains
for you to pay me."
The subject, a Yorkshireman, replied, "Session? Ah know
nowt abaht t'bloody session. Ah'll not pay good brass for nowt.
Good day to you!"
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A Definition of Hypnosis?
The American Psychological Association (APA) has recently
published, after much deliberation and consultation, a document
purporting to be a "Definition and Description of Hypnosis"
for the general public.
This document has been made the basis of a survey of the
opinions of the 320-strong British Society of Experimental and
Clinical Hypnosis (BSECH). The results of this survey were
published in Contemporary Hypnosis
(1994) Vol II, No 3. Sixty of their three hundred and twenty
members replied that they agreed with the APA document. Others
made a number of cogent criticisms.
The original document is reproduced below for the judgement
of members of the NCP&HR, together with the main points
raised by BSECH members in response. Finally there is a letter
written by Dylan Morgan on the subject to Contemporary Hypnosis:
the BSECH Journal.
DEFINITION AND DESCRIPTION OF HYPNOSIS
Hypnosis is a procedure during which a health care
professional or researcher suggests that a client, patient, or
subject experience changes in sensations, perceptions, thoughts,
or behaviour. The hypnotic context is generally established by
an induction procedure. Although there are many different
hypnotic inductions, most include suggestions for relaxation,
calmness, and well-being. Instructions to imagine or think about
pleasant experiences are also commonly included in hypnotic
inductions.
People respond to hypnosis in different ways. Some
describe their experience as an altered state of consciousness.
Others describe hypnosis as a normal state of focussed
attention, in which they feel calm and relaxed. Regardless of
how and to what degree they respond, most people describe the
experience as very pleasant.
Some people are very responsive to hypnotic suggestions
and others are less responsive. A person's ability to experience
hypnotic suggestions can be inhibited by fears and concerns
arising from some common misconceptions. Contrary to some
depictions of hypnosis in books, movies or on television, people
who have been hypnotized do not lose control over their
behaviour. They typically remain aware of who they are and where
they are, and unless amnesia has been specifically suggested,
they usually remember what transpired during hypnosis. Hypnosis
makes it easier for people to experience suggestions, but it
does not force them to have these experiences.
Hypnosis is not a type of therapy, like psychoanalysis
or behaviour therapy. Instead, it is a procedure that can be
used to facilitate therapy. Because it is not treatment in and
of itself, training in hypnosis is not sufficient for the
conduct of therapy. Clinical hypnosis should be used only by
properly trained and credentialed health care professionals
(e.g. licensed clinical psychologists), who have also been
trained in the clinical use of hypnosis and are working within
the area of their professional expertise.
Hypnosis has been used in the treatment of pain,
depression, anxiety, stress, habit disorders, and many other
psychological and medical problems. However, it may not be
useful for all psychological problems or for all patients or
clients. The decision to use hypnosis as an adjunct to treatment
can only be made in consultation with a qualified health care
provider who has been trained in the use and limitations of
clinical hypnosis.
In addition to its use in clinical settings, hypnosis is
used in research, with the goal of learning more about the
nature of hypnosis itself, as well as its impact on sensation,
perception, learning, memory, and physiology. Researchers also
study the value of hypnosis in the treatment of physical and
psychological problems.
BSECH Comments
The main queries and objections raised by BSECH member to the
above can be summarised as follows.
The APA have failed to provide a clear definition of
hypnosis by muddling it up with the description.
this totally neglected the central feature of the effect on the
subject.
The statement on individual differences fails to distinguish
between the experience of hypnosis and the degree of
responsiveness.
Some disagreed strongly with the sweeping statement that
subjects do not lose conscious control over their behaviour.
They felt it was more of an attempt to `clean up' the image of
hypnosis than a statement of fact.
The statement is too reassuring: there are dangers in
the use of hypnosis if complications are not recognised.
There was only mild questioning of the statement that hypnosis
is not a therapy in itself.
The APA statement fails to distinguish between those who do
use hypnosis and those who, they feel, should.
There are many groups of people other than `licensed clinical
psychologists' who were felt to be entitled to use hypnosis.
Social services professionals, medical and dental
practitioners, qualified nurses, speech therapists,
physiotherapists and educational psychologists and, of course,
members of the NCP&HR are examples.
Several respondents forcibly complained that what was supposed
to be a definition actually ends up prescribing who
should practise.
Letter to Contemporary Hypnosis
from J.D. Morgan.
THE AMERICAN Psychological Association (APA) has produced a
"definition and description of hypnosis" (Fellows B,
Contemporary Hypnosis, 1994, p. 142).
As several respondents to Brian Fellows' survey noted, whatever
it was the APA produced, it was not a definition. The reason
they failed was a consequence of a categorial confusion of a
nature which has been well-known since Bertrand Russell's
Principia Mathematica. The essence of the confusion is
the epistemological failure clearly to distinguish between a set
and a member of that set. In the present context confusion
arises by the use of the same word - hypnosis - to describe both
a field of knowledge and one of the phenomena within
the field.
We see one use in such phrases as "contemporary hypnosis",
"experimental hypnosis" or "clinical hypnosis".
We see the other in usages such as "hypnosis is a
procedure", "people respond to hypnosis",
"hypnosis has been used", "the subject is in
hypnosis".
A clear way to provide the required definition, with the above
distinction in mind, is the following.
Definition: Hypnosis is a particular
field of human knowledge. The field (like all others) is defined
by its subject matter, which is the naturalistic
alteration of the functioning of cerebral, nervous and
physiological systems in the human being.
The word "naturalistic" excludes the production of
such alterations by means of such things as chemicals,
electricity or magnetism, force or lesions.
We may add a few other useful secondary definitions:
There are certain common and typical alterations such as those
involved in the production of analgesia, amnesia, atonicity of
muscles, selective attention, hallucinations, age regression
etc. - the standard material of the textbooks of hypnosis. These
will be termed hypnotic phenomena.
There are certain common procedures which are known and
practised in order to produce these changes. These are called
hypnotic procedures. They have varied
considerably down the years, just as medical procedures have
changed. (The APA document's emphasis on hypnosis as a procedure
would cast doubt on whether Braid and Mesmer were "using
hypnosis".)
There are certain sub-fields of hypnosis, as of any other mature
subject. They may be consistently denoted by such phrases as
experimental hypnosis, clinical
hypnosis, dental hypnosis, theoretical
hypnosis and analgesic hypnosis, whose
meanings are self-explanatory, and again depend on their subject
matter. We might wish to use the phrase stage hypnosis
to denote the specialised use of certain hypnotic techniques for
entertainment purposes.
The following is a deduction from experimental results (as well
as being implicit in the APA's statement, "People respond
to hypnosis in different ways.").
There is a very wide continuum of different alterations which
can be produced in different people by means of different
procedures and with different goals. There is no one
change which is unique to all. The use of statements such as
"Hypnosis is a procedure", or "Hypnosis
is a state" is therefore untenable and leads to
confused thought about hypnosis.
The above approach to defining our subject avoids the many flaws
of fact and logic in the APA document so well noted by BSECH
members.
1) It is a clear definition.
2) It avoids the pitfall, noted by Fellows, of defining hypnosis
as a procedure, without falling into the opposite pitfall of
defining it as a state.
3) It does not confuse a definition with a moral judgement (yet
another categorical error of the most gross kind of which the
APA is guilty).
4) Neither does it confuse it with the distinct question of who
should use which hypnotic techniques, where and when. Such a
question is ultimately legal, and to be decided by society as a
whole.
5) It avoids the other tendentious elaborations within the APA
document which led to other well-warranted criticisms cited in
Fellows' paper.
6) It lays a foundation for a clear description of
contemporary (as opposed to historical) clinical hypnosis, if it
is desired. Such a description might include in outline the more
common (but not universal) current practices and the common
subjective experiences.
We may further note that the definition inevitably implies that
there is no hard edge to the subject. Just as physics overlaps
geology, astronomy and chemistry in certain areas, so hypnosis
overlaps psychology, education, medicine, religious practices
and even creative fiction at certain points. It does so without
losing its identity.
An elaboration of the above approach was presented at the BSECH
conference, 1992, the proceedings of which have yet to be
published. It may also be found in The European Journal of
Clinical Hypnosis, 1, Oct. 1993.
As a final comment on the APA document it is worth remembering
that "the Public" includes everyone who has not been
trained in the field of hypnosis. Thus lawyers, scientists,
historians, philosophers and many others who can think logically
and clearly are included in "the Public". It would be
a useful exercise to test the reaction of such intelligent
outsiders to the APA document, put side by side with the
responses of BSECH members and the above alternative definition.
Perhaps they would side with the 81.5% of BSECH members who have
not endorsed the APA "definition".
This article first appeared in the Journal of the National
Council of Psychotherapy and Hypnotherapy Register, Winter 94.
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Iatrophobia Induced by Circumcision
THIS BRIEF ARTICLE is designed to draw members' attention to a
rather specialised matter which might be relevant in cases in
which a client has a pronounced fear of doctors: iatrophobia,
from the Greek iatros, physician. It is also relevant
to certain sexual problems in the male.
The matter came up incidentally from the accounts of a client
whose primary problem lies in another direction. The evidence is
quite simple, and is as follows. The client, now in his late
forties, has always had an intense fear of hospitals, doctors
and nurses. A simple medical inspection at school was a torment.
And yet he had never been ill enough to go to hospital nor had
he ever been treated for anything at all serious.
The second fact is that through his life he has had a recurrent
nightmare which is essentially that of a terrible pain at the
end of his penis.
The third fact is that, like many of his generation, he was
circumcised in infancy.
Conclusion
I think that it is an inescapable conclusion that these facts
are related. We need only suppose that the surgeon did not think
that a local anaesthetic was necessary. (I am informed by Dr.
Warren, see below, that in fact it is normal practice
in neonatal circumcision NOT to use a local anaesthetic!) It may
also be relevant that this particular client retains very vivid
memories from surprisingly early ages in other ways.
The moral is that IF you have a male client with an
unaccountable iatrophobia you might like to ask further
questions about circumcision.
Uncircumcision
Circumcision can also create more general psychological problems
in some men. Should you come across a client with these problems
then he may be interested to know of a movement which has
started in the States which aims to reverse the process.
The key reference is The Joy of Uncircumcising! by Jim
Bigelow PhD, Aptos CA, Hourglass Publications, 2nd edition 1995;
available from UNCIRC, P.O. Box 52138, Pacific Grove, CA 93950;
telephone/fax 001 408 375 4326.
The process is simple in principle. Tapes are first used to pull
the skin of the penis forward a little over the glans. After a
few months of progress the next step is to attach a cylindrical
weight of over a pound to the skin by means of tapes, to further
encourage growth of a new foreskin.
Some individuals have reported great success with this scheme,
which takes a year or two. Others find it difficult through
soreness or inconvenience.
If a man is sufficiently distressed by circumcision then he may
be motivated to take this path.
There is a doctor in this country (the UK) who has become
involved in helping such men. In the course of this work he has
been able to do a survey of the feelings of those who have been
interested in foreskin restoration. The most common reported
feelings were as follows: Sense of mutilation (74%), Appearance
(74%), Lack of sensitivity (74%), Being different (61%) and
Discomfort due to chafing on clothes (50%). Only one out of 38
respondents spontaneously reported the fear of hospitals
mentioned by my client.
The current rate of circumcision in the UK is about 7%, which
makes it quite rare, but consequently the psychological effects
of feeling different are likely to be greater. Circumcision was
much more common in the early part of this century, reaching a
peak of about 30%, so there is a greater population of men in
their forties and above who may have problems, but on the other
hand the fact that so many of their contemporaries are similar
should have reduced the psychological problem.
Address
In case you have an interested client, Dr. Warren's address at
the time of writing was Dr. John Warren FRCP, 3 Watlington Rd,
Harlow, Essex CM17 0DY
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All You Need Is ... ?
IN THE 850-page "Oxford Companion to the Mind",
Logical Positivism leads straight on to Lunacy.
Perhaps it does.
Can you see what has been skipped over without mention? It is
something which most acknowledge to be of the greatest
importance in life. It gives meaning and a sense of wellbeing to
all. Without it, life is a desert of depression and misery. It
is something needed from the cradle to the grave and its
presence or absence is of vital importance to the health of an
individual.
The answer, of course, is Love.
In this short essay I am going to argue that one of the most
important causes of problems which we as psychotherapists face
is a lack of love, and one of the most important cures is
therefore restoring love to a life which has lost it.
We will have to consider forms of love and also ways in which a
therapist may properly ensure that the client regains it.
Love ignored
Why is love ignored not only in the above book but in so many
others on psychology? One reason is the difficulty of measuring
it and of evoking it under experimental conditions. It is quite
easy to produce pain in someone in response to some stimulus: an
electric shock will do nicely. Consequently we have a vast
literature on pain and stress and fear and anxiety. But there is
no clear way that love in any of its forms could easily be
produced in a laboratory, nor measured if it could be.
A second reason is an almost universal fact of human psychology:
we pay an enormous amount of attention to things when they go
wrong, but soon take for granted things when they go
right. News programmes deal primarily with wars,
floods, murders, frauds, disasters and calamities of all kinds,
while any good news tends to be consigned to a small item at the
end. Medicine concerns itself with studying illness, so there is
little literature on health. As individuals we get enormously
upset about a small problem such as toothache, but seldom
rejoice when all the millions of internal processes in our
bodies function smoothly and without pain. It is therefore not
surprising that the psychology which such a species will produce
will concentrate on the problems - the fears, depressions,
anxieties, compulsions, guilts, griefs and so on - and pay
almost no attention to the positive things.
It is as if a clinical psychologist came across a crying baby
and noted the tears and the tensions in the body; measured the
abnormally high pulse rate and the hyperventilation; yet ignored
the only important fact: the mother is not there. So love is not
there. When the mother IS there, there is nothing for the
clinical psychologist to notice, so he never needs to study love
when it is present, and fills his journals with accounts only of
the symptoms of the absence of love, without ever realising that
love is the key to the situation.
Love is known
Love is one of the most important positive things in life, and
nearly everybody is pretty clear about when they are loved and
when they love, and can clearly distinguish between forms of
love. For example, any mother knows what it is to love her baby,
her own mother and father, the father of her child and herself.
Each is a form of love and each is distinct.
If I have any hard-nosed positivists in my readership who
dismiss love as being too subjective to be worth dealing with, I
will argue that we can discuss love as perceived by an
individual (if we can do no better) in the spirit of Dennet's
heterophenomenology described in his Consciousness Explained
Bib. The rest of us
may be content with knowing that we have a sufficiently real
sense of what love is to be able to talk about it freely.
Some examples
In order to arouse in our minds an awareness of how important
love is in therapy, I will refer very briefly to some broad
classes of problems that arise frequently.
Marital problems are nearly always about love. Suppose that he
has been unfaithful: she feels deprived of the love he
previously showed her. At times the problems are about HOW love
is to be shown. He might feel that love is about what you DO,
while she may think that love is about what you SAY. So if he
redecorates the house but does not say how nice her new dress
is, she feels unloved. At the same time she may tell him she
loves him but does not want sex as often as he does, so he
feels unloved.
A child may be chronically unloved. Such a child can easily grow
up to be an adult convinced that he or she is still unlovable.
The "Child Within" is still unloved. This can result
in lack of confidence, lack of assertiveness and anxieties or
possibly aggression and violence, depending on the individual.
What are the problems which accompany bereavement if not largely
a result of a loss of love? The familiar signs of depression,
perhaps alternating with suicidal feelings, anxieties or panics
and the like are the usual consequences.
Then there are the shy recluses: those who are deprived of that
form of love we call friendship.
And there are the old who lack the family and friends they once
had to love and for whom, therefore, life is a misery.
We may perhaps generalise and say that in the vast majority of
problems in which there is emotional distress, the lack of love
either in the present or the past is a central factor. Even in
problems which seem at first not to have any strong emotional
component - giving up smoking, for example - the loss of love
can be very important. I had one client, for example, who
started to feel very distressed as she gave up. It became clear
that this distress centered around the fact that as a result of
an illness, her husband had withdrawn very much into himself.
The nicotine somehow helped her to deaden the feeling of grief
for the love that they had had. In the end she preferred to go
on smoking rather than face that loss daily.
I will presume also that my readers know at first hand many
forms of love and the desolation of their absence, and that
there is arguably no worse form of suffering.
Solutions
All the above problems are caused by a deficiency of some form
of love. It follows that the most effective solution to the
problems lies in regaining the love.
A case which exemplifies this is as follows.
A widow of many years came suffering from anxiety attacks. The
probable cause was the fact that her daughter had grown up and
no longer had much to do with her: she no longer had someone to
love. She only needed one session at that time. Was that my
doing? No. It was just that her best friend had died and the
widower started to lean on her, needing her love. Her anxieties
disappeared for many months. She returned a second time, with a
recurrence of symptoms, only when he had stopped leaning on her.
In this case the solution, albeit temporary, had nothing to do
with therapy. It illustrates that absence of love was the
problem: a return of love the answer.
But this leads us to focus on the question: what can a therapist
do in order to return love to a person's life?
Therapeutic interventions
It must be very clear from our Code of Ethics, printed elsewhere
in this Journal, that the forms of love which a therapist may
show are circumscribed. Any attempt to arouse feelings of
romantic or sexual love in the client for the therapist is
virtually forbidden. (In rare instances and very wise hands,
transference in the Freudian tradition might be encouraged as a
step in a process.) Any attempt to evoke in the client some
other form of love which would lead to a long-term relationship
would be frowned on, as we have to aim to end therapy as soon as
possible.
Later on, after we have discussed forms of love in more detail,
we will see that there is a form of love which is
allowed, but again it should be seen as temporary.
These restrictions, together with common sense, lead to the
conclusion that the primary task of the therapist is to tackle
the problems that prevent the client from feeling the love which
is available in many forms in the outside world.
Forms of love
The English language, despite possessing an enormous vocabulary,
is rather limited when it comes to love. As is probably well
known to many readers, the ancient Greeks had four words to
distinguish forms of love. These were storge, philia,
eros, and agape. Following C.S. Lewis, whose
book The Four Loves is an outstanding analysis of these
matters, I will translate these words as Affection, Friendship,
Eros and Charity. Affection to the Greeks was typified by the
love between parents and children. Friendship is the close bond
between two individuals with shared ideas, goals, etc. Eros is
love in the sense of "falling in love", and should be
distinguished from pure sexual drive or lust, because although
the two are related, it should be clear to most people that each
can exist without the other. Finally agape is a
selfless love of others, what in New Testament Latin is Caritas,
or in English is Charity, not in the sense merely of giving to
the needy, but in the Pauline sense of "Charity suffereth
long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not
itself, is not puffed up, doth not behave itself unseemly,
seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil,
rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth" (1
Corinth. 13, 4-6).
Those are the familiar St. James' version words. In a modern
translation we have, "Love is always patient and kind; love
is never jealous; love is not boastful or conceited, it is never
rude and never seeks its own advantage, it does not take offence
or store up grievances. Love does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but
finds its joy in the truth."
Of these four we may say that in the above sense charity (notice
there is no sense of condescension in it) is a form of love that
may and probably ought to exist in the therapeutic relationship.
Think about it. Do not the above words describe the attitude we
feel that a therapist should have? And would we not all choose a
person with such love if we ourselves should ever seek help?
So we may offer agape - charity. What about the others?
Eros is contrary to the Code of Ethics.
Philia - friendship - is really of its nature a
long-term thing. Real friendship depends on a slowly matured
sharing of experiences and thoughts. Friends are typically
walking side by side, and their talk is typically of other
things than themselves. (In eros most of the talk of
the couple is about themselves.) These conditions are not met in
therapy, where the focus of attention is on one person, and the
process should not last too long. There is the possibility that
after a course of therapy is finished, a friendship may develop
without transgressing the Code of Ethics, but the point here is
that it is not a form of love which can be offered in therapy.
If you doubt this, then I would suggest that it may be because
you are giving to the everyday word friendship a meaning which
is a mixture of philia and agape, and that it
is the latter component that you are thinking of as being
present in your relationship with a client.
What of storge - affection? Remember that the root
meaning of this was in the affection between parents and
children. In practice an element of this will often creep into
the therapeutic relationship. This is because most adults, when
they are distressed and seek help, partially regress to the
attitudes of childhood and consequently they project onto the
therapist the role of a helpful and caring parent. It is
certainly important to be aware of this, and to be able to
handle the childlike persona which can so often emerge, even
without a formal hypnotic regression. But the question of
interest here is, "To what extent can one show parental
love to the client?"
I would answer this by means of asking another question: "Once
a child is no longer a baby, may it not be comforted as well, or
even better, by a kind aunt or uncle, a grandfather or
grandmother?" In such relationships there is still love,
but there is more of the charitable and less of the parental
about it. Anecdotal evidence suggests that it is often much more
useful to the child. I would argue from this that, faced with a
client who is adopting a juvenile role, the therapist should not
(except for very cogent reasons) adopt the parental role with
all the complicated projections that might ensue, but rather
move into an avuncular role with its more charitable love.
Notice also that such a role is far easier to disengage from:
you leave an uncle with no sense of binding ties, however
pleasant the meeting has been. This is consonant with our Code.
So my interpretation of Rule 7, to "maintain appropriate
social boundaries", is that as a rule of thumb the
relationship should be no more intimate than might exist between
a child and a compassionate and understanding aunt or uncle,
grandfather or grandmother; and that the dominant form of love
shown should therefore be Charity, in the sense above.
How to increase love indirectly
We have now, by means of an analysis of the forms of love, shown
the way in which a therapist may give love to a client. Is this
enough? Is it true that "All you need is love"? In
some cases the answer is "Yes". For some clients and
some problems it is medicine enough. Some of the efficacy of the
placebo effect and much of the success of many "alternative"
practitioners arises, I believe, from the fact that the patient
or client feels loved: someone is showing deep and caring
interest. The thing that is done is often far less important
than that sense of being loved.
It would be quite easy to test this hypothesis. It would only be
necessary to divide a large group of patients into two. One
group would be given a placebo (a neutral "pill") by
means of an automatic machine at regular hours. Another group
would be given a pill from an identical machine by a nurse who
was instructed merely to be cheerful and attentive for a minute
or two, with no reference to the pill. The difference in the two
cases is love. I predict that if these groups were assessed by
doctors with no idea which treatment the patients had received,
the second group would have done far better.
The medical profession has made enormous strides in the last
fifty years, but in the process of obtaining highly reliable
techniques they have tended to lose what used to be called a
"bedside manner": they have lost the ability to make
the patient feel himself or herself to be in caring hands - to
feel loved.
Into this vacuum we find that a large number of alternative
practices have moved, high on attentive care for the patient, if
low on proper testing of the efficacy of the supposed technique.
And, as I have said, patients benefit.
For most of us it will be an obvious fact that to be loved in
any way enhances well-being. But does it follow that all the
therapist needs to do is charitably to love the client?
No.
A doctor who only shows love is far less effective, if at all,
in curing TB, ulcers, diabetes, infections, etc., than another
doctor who is able to use the excellent specific treatments
based on a clear understanding of the processes involved in the
human body. In a similar manner a "therapist" who only
shows love is going to be far less effective than a colleague
who also has a clear understanding of the processes underlying
problems in the human mind and heart.
Analysis of the paths of love
I am next going to step back a little and look at love from the
outside in order to reveal some of the processes involved. In
particular I will be considering love from the perspective of
biological systems, in the spirit of the two articles on a
systems-oriented approach to hypnotherapy presented in the two
most recent Journals. This involves, in particular, being aware
that love, like all other mental and emotional phenomena, is a
process and not a state, is dynamic and not static. We want to
know how it changes and why it changes; what is preventing it
from changing for the better and how to get it to change for the
better.
We can start from the forms of love mentioned above. Notice that
in general each form of love is focussed on different
individuals, exhibits a different form of behaviour and has
qualitatively very different feelings associated.
We are generally familiar, since the advent of Transactional
Analysis, with the notion that an individual may have different
personae such as an adult, a parent and a child. Each may be
evoked at different times, and not necessarily by appropriate
individuals. In Hypnosis we may go somewhat further and regress
an individual to the point of reproducing almost completely the
personality and behaviour at a younger age.
In the language of systems we may regard each persona as an
internal system, consisting of a more or less coherent pattern
of thoughts, feelings, memories and behaviours. It is a
commonplace fact that any individual can display a variety of
personae: has a variety of such high-level internal systems. In
cases of split personality these systems are very different and
disconnected. In quite an ordinary man the difference between
his working persona and his domestic persona can be very large,
but he will usually be able to remember things about each life
while living the other: they are not totally disconnected. The
two systems are very different, but connected.
With these ideas in mind it is quite easy to think of the
different forms of love in the following terms. Each form of
love corresponds to a different internal system; each is
activated by different people or things; each has different
patterns of response; each has different feelings. Thus one
internal system is activated in the presence of a wife, another
in the presence of a son, another in the presence of a dog,
another in the presence of a friend and so on.
Common Factors
In the first part of this essay attention has been drawn to the
differences between forms of love. Next let us look at what they
have in common.
The common factor, I suggest, is that each system grows or
flourishes in the presence of the beloved.
This is conspicuous in the case of falling in love, where the
sudden nature of the process makes it easy to see a rapid growth
in that part of each individual which relates to the other. For
a while there is no thought of anything else, little attention
to anything else: the system which is concerned with romantic
love for the other dominates the individual completely.
The love between mother and baby can arise almost as quickly
(though it is perhaps celebrated less in song, as the mother
usually has other things on her mind at the time). It, also,
increases the well-being of the baby and the mother in a
favourable environment. The love between two or more friends
typically emerges far more slowly, but also helps them to grow
and to feel and to be more confident. Compassionate love between
any individuals "blesseth him who gives and him who takes".
(I assume I am not alone in feeling better in response to an
improvement in a client?)
This same pattern is visible if we descend the ladder of loves
down towards likings. Although we may say "I love
this food", in this sense the meaning is more of an intense
liking. We may readily notice that the digestive and gustatory
systems are activated by a pleasing food, or even the thought of
it. By contrast the thought of something which is of no interest
to us as food produces no such activation of these systems.
In a similar way, then, I would suggest that the common factor
in likings is that in each case some small subsystem of the mind
becomes activated by that something in such a way as to direct
activity towards getting more of it. If you like roses then a
chance glimpse of a rose will activate that small part of the
mind which recognises roses, and this will in turn motivate you
to go over and take a closer look.
Broadly speaking I would suggest that the continuum which
stretches from likings up through lovings is marked by
increasingly large systems. We will only say that we "love"
something if it arouses such a large subsystem that we feel that
almost our whole personality is involved. We are more likely to
say "like" if a smaller subsystem of our minds
responds, so that we regard it as more marginal to our whole
selves.
But whatever the position on the continuum, the common
characteristic of these phenomena is the activation of a
subsystem, an activation which has the characteristics of
growth, and which is accompanied by a tendency to act in such a
way as to get more of the same.
Dislikes and Hates
However, we must next notice that internal systems are not only
aroused positively. Our eyes can be drawn to things which are
very unpleasant as well as pleasant: our minds can become
obsessed with hatred for someone as well as with love.
The basic pattern here, I would suggest, is based on the
following generalisation.
All biological systems become active in response to anything
which will promote growth. On the other hand they will usually
also become active in response to a destructive threat. Any
biological system which has not evolved methods of warding off
destructive threats will simply die out.
Thus any biological system from a single cell up to a society is
generally responsive on the one hand to things which will
enhance its well-being and things which tend to destroy it on
the other. Both of these classes of things tend to produce
activating responses. This leaves any given biological system
totally indifferent to the vast majority of things in its
environment.
Indeed we may characterise any biological system very well by
simply specifying those factors in its environment (internal or
external) which tend to activate it, and noting also whether the
response is positive or negative: whether it acts to obtain more
or less of the particular factor.
In the domain of psychology this generalisation becomes the
statement that if you know a person's loves and likes and also
the hates, fears and dislikes, then you will know the most
important things about the person. A more complete knowledge
consists of knowing how the person responds to those various
factors. If one knew all of these perfectly then one would
essentially have a complete picture of the personality because
anything which does not activate - is of no interest to - the
person is for that reason of no importance in understanding the
person. Note that in particular the above implies knowing how
different subsystems are activated and respond, and therefore
being aware of any internal conflicts that might arise if one
subsystem wants more and another less of a certain thing.
Incidentally, there is a very good reason why it is impossible
to gain all that information. And that is that the act of
collecting the information will inevitably change the person. If
you ask, "Do you like such and such?" then you will
have changed the future response to such and such, because in
future there will now be a slightly greater tendency to respond
to such and such by thinking, "Do I like this?" and in
time this might lead even to thinking, "No, I don't."
(A similar situation arises in quantum theory. If you attempt to
find the position of a particle very precisely then you are
doomed to failure. The more determinedly you try to pin it down,
the more you disturb it, and so the less you know about where it
will be at any future time.)
Unrequited and requited loves
We have now established the loves at the top of a continuum of
likings, and hates at the top of a similar continuum of
dislikings, and observed that the greater the part of the person
that is involved in the process, the further up the continuum we
place it.
Let us next observe that loves may or may not be reciprocal. It
is a familiar theme in the literature of Eros that love, no
matter how intense, may not be requited. The fact that foxes
"love" rabbits (the sight of a rabbit activates in a
positive way a very large part of the fox's "animality"),
does not mean that rabbits are equally desirous of a more
intimate relationship. The fact that a man sees a particular
woman as being highly desirable, so that his sexual subsystems
anticipate satisfaction, his domestic nature anticipates comfort
and food, his personality which seems to flourish when he is
attended to finds in her a suitable attendant: none of these
necessarily means that she is going to find an equal attraction
in him. It may well be that a particular woman finds his desire
for greater intimacy as appealing as the rabbit does the fox's.
On the other hand there are reciprocated loves which lead to
stable and harmonious relationships. The four loves mentioned
above are generally meant in the forms they take when they are
reciprocated. We see in countless species relationships between
individuals which have all the outward forms of the loves: of
love between parents and offspring, love between mates and love
between members of a pack, though it is not easy to think of
anything quite like caritas. Although we cannot, of
course, comment on the subjective side of these behaviours for
the animals any more than we can logically comment on the
subjective side in other individuals, I think we must assume
that there is at the very least a family resemblance.
Love changes
Reciprocated love changes both partners. Each grows and develops
in the warm, nourishing glow of love. Like a plant opening its
leaves to the warm embrace of the sun, a personality unfolds in
the life-enhancing light of love.
But if the sun goes away, the plant is left with larger leaves
which still need nourishment, though there is no energy to feed
them. If the lover goes away, the beloved is left with a
personality which has become dependent on that love. Enormous
parts of the person have become changed: habits of thought,
feeling and behaviour have all grown and developed in the
presence of the loved one and depend on the loved one for their
continued existence. Now they are all threatened.
When a love departs there is a death. How often have we heard
the phrase, "Something inside me died"? It will not
usually be the death of the complete individual; but the death
of some part, of some subsystem, is perhaps inevitable. Any
parts which were totally dependent on the love of the lover will
be without the life-giving nourishment of love and will die as
surely as will a plant which has been covered with a bucket.
This potential tragedy on the path of love is the inspiration
and tale of so many of the stories and songs of love. And it is
from this fact that we find so many psychological problems
arising.
Coping with loss
A very common result of being burned is a fear of fire. One
common response to having lost a love is never to love again. An
individual who follows this rule is then going to deprive
himself or herself of the vital nourishment that is love. One
result may be depression, or a way may be found of getting some
of the nourishment of love without entering into human
relationships. The love of an animal can be a good substitute, a
love of money or artefacts rather less so. A big snag is, of
course, that animals die, money can be lost and things can be
stolen, so that the same problem of coping with loss will only
arise again, in a different form.
We have observed above that one of the central tasks of therapy
can be seen as getting the client's feet firmly placed again on
the paths of love in the outside world. The most common reason
why this is not happening is some fear of the consequences of
love. Our task therefore, often summarised by the following
questions:-
1) How does the client respond to the loss of love?
2) What is it about these responses which is preventing the
client walking again into the warmth and light of love?
3) What past experiences have conditioned these responses to the
loss?
4) How can things be changed?
Jealousy
Here is a simple case, in which a young man became excessively
jealous if he so much as imagined that his girlfriend was
glancing at another man.
The answers to the above questions are:-
1) He first feels very hurt, and bottles the feeling up. His
strong inclination is to walk away from the relationship. But
there is also an anger which eventually can break out in violent
accusations.
2) Neither of these responses helps the relationship. The girl
attempted suicide when he left. She gets very upset by the
anger.
3) When he was seven years old his mother left him. He clearly
recalls her going off in a car. In fact she was, of course,
leaving his father, and she came back a year later.
4) Alterations can be made to a) the subsystem which remembers
the incident with his mother and also b) to the subsystem which
responds in the present to the girl-friend.
a) The technique of "Video editing"
(NCP Journal, spring 1993) was used. He was regressed to the
incident of his mother's departure. It was replayed as he
remembered it, and then re-run on the assumption that he had
responded by taking the active course of
walking the five miles to his sister's house, where his mother
was staying, every weekend, and then had the wonderful
experience of many hours alone with his mother. (He was the
youngest of four and had been somewhat neglected.)
b) In the present he was instructed not to bottle up the
feelings but at once to take an active path and
draw his girlfriend's attention to his feelings by signalling
with a tug at his ear or by calling her a particular love-name.
She was involved in the therapy and agreed to respond to these
signals with a hand-clasp, smile or kiss, as seemed appropriate.
The combination of these two changes ensures that the feeling of
impending loss will never grow out of proportion, as in both
subsystems there is the feeling that "something can be done
about it".
Incidentally it would have been a mistake to attempt to use
direct suggestion to eliminate all signs of jealousy. First,
this simply amounts to an enhancement of the present pattern of
bottling up. If bottling up for a matter of hours results in an
explosion, then bottling up for weeks or months could be truly
dangerous. (Recall the number of murders in which seemingly
"perfect" long-suffering husbands kill their wives
when a last straw tips them over the edge.) Second, the
girl-friend, like many other people, feels that he SHOULD have
some jealousy: it is a sign that he loves her. It was only the
DEGREE that she objected to.
Responses to lost love
Each case has to be treated on the basis of its own dynamics.
There is no one unique response to the loss of love. The above
case illustrates merely one way in which an individual has
responded to the loss of love in a way which is simply not
productive. There are countless more.
The loss of love is so important to an individual that
strategies have to be improvised to cope with the loss. Instinct
provides some of these. Training and imitation suggest others.
Most commonly we fall back on a limited number that we have been
using for most of our lives.
It is possible roughly to analyse responses in the following
way.
The major difference is between responses which are attempts to
regain the love and those which are merely attempts to limit the
damage caused by its departure.
(At a far lower level we can see a similar response at all
levels of biological systems to the loss of essentials for
continued activity: animals which are deprived of food may
search more actively or they may, at another extreme, hibernate.
Businesses in a depression may try harder to win custom or may
simply lay off staff and reduce activity to a minimum.)
A. Attempts to regain the love.
In these cases the individual is typically approaching the loved
one, and trying all means of regaining her or him. This may
involve physical restraint, or anger - verbally or physically
expressed; it may involve smiling and being ingratiating or the
giving of gifts; it may equally involve a form of blackmail or
threat.
B. Attempts to limit the damage.
In these cases the individual is typically going away from the
loved one, and putting as much physical and emotional distance
between them as possible. In order to deaden the pain,
depression and anhedonia are common. Withdrawal is the order of
the day. The feeling of grief may also be relieved by crying.
Attempts may be made to believe that the love was not important
in any case, and perhaps even that life is better without it.
The above two approaches are extremes. People are seldom at
these poles, but the contrasts are useful to have in mind when
you come to analyse a given person. In practice a common, and
often the best, strategy is a mixture of both.
C. Mixed methods.
It is often a good idea to vary the approaches. Thus a typical
pattern might be the following. First try to get the original
love back directly, trying the "shouting" and the
"being nice" ways. If neither works, then withdraw and
limit the pain a little, while actively seeking a new source of
love: find another friend/lover. At this stage it may well
happen that the loved one is in turn missing you, and feels
jealous of the new person. This leads to a new contact between
you which may well lead to a newly deepened relationship.
I would suggest that most psychological problems arise in people
who have very limited and stereotyped ways of dealing
with the loss of love. Inflexibility leads to failure
and disaster in dancing, in sports, in business, in thinking and
in nearly all human undertakings, so it is hardly surprising
that it should also apply to love. Those individuals who have a
variety of responses will generally cope far better. They will
know when to advance and when to withdraw and when to sidestep.
They are like dancers who are able to keep step with anyone, so
adroit are they on their feet.
The Abusers of Love
Another big class of problems in which these considerations are
very relevant are cases of emotional abuse. We have seen above
that loves at their best are requited. But we may well find
cases in which one individual has an enormous need for love and
compels it by one means or another from one or more other
individuals. This will often happen between parents and
children. Today I heard of a case, told by a woman in her early
twenties, in which her mother has demanded life-long total
attention from her grandmother. One result of this is that my
client's childhood was drastically affected by the fact that her
grandmother enlisted her help in "looking after Mum"
from an early age. She never had a proper childhood. The mother
dominated by means of great emotional scenes - running naked
down the road etc. We may well agree that there is something
wrong with the mother - perhaps there is schizophrenia - but her
behaviour is that of a person who demands love and is quite
unable to return it in an appropriate way.
The problem for my client is that in order to cope with this
distorted life she has had to adopt a number of strategies since
early childhood which have become fixed and inflexible. It will
help her a lot to learn other ways of dealing with the
situation, and this will be easier now that she has moved away
from home and has a boyfriend.
For interest, the only suggestion I have made is that she should
let her family know that her weekend visits will now end the
instant that there is an emotional outburst or criticism from
the mother or a criticism from the grandmother. The family have
always played these great emotional games. I have in effect
given her "permission" not to play if she chooses not
to. I anticipate that this will result in a lot of four-minute
visits. But in time they will either have to play nicer games
with her or find someone else to play with them - an
inexperienced therapist perhaps!
This case, also, illustrates one of our big tasks as therapists,
which is to enable clients to break the mould of stereotyped
responses - emotional and practical - and to help them to learn
new and more varied steps in the dance of love. For love is a
process, like dancing. It is not static, it is not a state.
Does it then follow that psychotherapists, who should be adept
at teaching the rhythms and steps of the dances of love, are
themselves masters of the arts?
I will be provocative and personal.
The provocative statements include the old, old saying: "Them
as can does. Them as can't teaches." I will generalise this
and say, mischievously, that the majority of workers in the
fields of psychiatry, psychotherapy etc. are drawn to the fields
as like is drawn to like because they themselves have - or have
had - big problems in dealing with love in many of its forms. By
a familiar process of external projection, they try to deal with
their problems by dealing with other people with those problems.
I will include Freud in these statements.
Normal people who are getting on happily with their lives and
loves have, I find, an instinctive aversion to probing deep into
the mechanics of the human heart and mind, rather as the average
healthy person has no desire to follow the surgeon's scalpel as
it probes deeper into the flesh. We should remember this
salutary fact.
The personal statement is that I am aware that a part of my own
motivation was my feeling of ineptitude with people. I did not
understand them. I owe a deep debt of gratitude to the thousands
of clients who have taught me more than the books have. They
have also taught me more of the ways of charity, without which I
am but as "sounding brass or a tinkling cymbal". I
hope to repay the debt to others to whom I can pass on what I
have been taught
Reprinted from The Journal of the National Council for
Psychotherapists and Hypnotherapy Register, Spring 94.
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A NAME="LoverHypno">
Lover or Hypnotherapist?
No, this is not an article about sex in the consulting room. It
is quite the reverse.
A woman in her mid-twenties came to me having been involved in a
relationship for six months with a man who is a Hypnotherapist.
She has just broken with him because she has felt steadily worse
as time has gone by, as he has told her in more and more
forceful terms that there is something drastically wrong with
her and that she needs treatment, if not from him then from
another professional.
Now let us consider the following facts. If she ever exhibited
behaviour which he was not happy with, he immediately started to
analyse her as if she were a client! He accumulated a
dossier several inches thick on her. He probed, against her
will, into the depths of all her previous relationships, back to
childhood. He never suggested or accepted that there was
anything wrong with him.
I asked her to imagine what any woman would feel if she were
married to a doctor, and any time she felt a need for love he
would reach for a syringe to inject an appropriate hormone, or
if she were depressed at not seeing enough of him, he would
prescribe an antidepressant, or if she were to rage he would
demand a blood test because he suspected a metabolic disorder.
We agreed that no woman could stand this in a marriage.
The conclusion was that, no, she did not need treatment. She is
by nature rather passionate. She will one day find a man who is
also passionate, and loves her as a man loves a woman and not as
a therapist cares for a client.
That was an extreme case. But surely this is a trap into which
we may all fall? We get so used to thinking of people in terms
of their problems, and the causes of them, that there is a
danger that we continue to think in the same way outside the
consulting room. I know I have been guilty of this.
What are the antidotes? There are, I think, two. One is simply
to be conscious of it. To have a spouse who will speak up the
minute (s)he detects it can be a great help. (Members may like
to leave this Journal open casually at this page and see if
someone close to them will read it and comment.)
The other antidote is to be prepared to treat clients as people
not "cases": for then, too, it will be hard to treat
other people as cases.
Therapists are human, and fallibly human. Yet our position makes
it all too easy to succumb to the greatest of sins: the sin of
spiritual pride. Let us remember that we are not better than
others, that our knowledge is very imperfect and that we are
constantly subject to the very human danger of projecting onto
others our own imperfections. That, it seems to me, is the moral
of this little case.
The young woman left, very relieved in her mind that she was not
drastically disturbed, as she had been informed, but had simply
reacted as any normal woman would.
Reprinted from The Journal of the National Council for
Psychotherapists and Hypnotherapy Register, Autumn 93.
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Memory
"Indeed he knows not how to know, who knows not also
how to unknow." - Richard Burton (the explorer).
HAVE YOU EVER THOUGHT how wonderful it would be to have a really
good memory? Then this is a cautionary tale.
Many years ago I read (I forget now when and where!) that famous
book Mind of a Mnemonist by Professor Luria of
Leningrad. It is the story of a man who seemed to have a
near-perfect memory. He started off with the advantage of a
nervous system which presented all visual stimuli with enormous
vividness. The redness of red clothes was so overwhelming and
memorable that if he saw the same person wearing red one day and
blue on another he found it very hard to realise that it was the
same person each time.
At some stage of his life he realised that in order to recall
any item he simply had to picture it in some location. His
favourite form of this mnemonic device was to take an imaginary
walk along a familiar street of shops, and to picture each thing
he wanted to recall in order in these shops.
Anyone who has read a book on "How to Improve your Memory"
will recognise such a technique as being one of the standard
methods of recalling unrelated information.
Later in life the Memory Man started to do shows in which he
might ask members of the audience to shout out all manner of
personal details, from the names and addresses of grandparents
to numbers on bank notes in their pockets. He would later be
able to tell everyone what they had told him with no errors at
all. How did he do that? He had refined his mnemonic technique
by then to simply writing up the material he was told on an
imaginary blackboard: one for each person.
Problems
Then one day the whole thing went wrong. He found that his
memory was simply not working properly at all. This naturally
led to feelings of distress until by good fortune he ended up in
Professor Luria's office.
How was he treated? With Pills? No. Psychoanalysis? No. Luria
diagnosed what we might call a saturated memory. He argued that
the Memory Man had filled his memory to capacity: he was able
still to recall information from every show that he had done!
So Luria simply asked the man to recall one of the blackboards
and then imagine himself wiping clean the material written
on it.
Case
I have always wanted to try this out for myself, and recently
for the first time I have had a case which was sufficiently
similar for the same diagnosis to be clear and possible.
This young man had been studying very hard for his MA in a field
where information was of central importance. He had an excellent
memory for facts: almost photographic, in fact. It had never let
him down. Then suddenly, within a matter of days, it had all
started to go wrong, so that he could not even manage to recall
the simplest things. He had to write down in incredible detail
how to get to my office, for example, in a way no-one with a
normally fallible memory would have to.
He had thought of a number of other possible reasons for the
change, but none seemed as likely as the saturated memory
effect, and so I had my chance.
Of course things have changed since Luria's time. My client was
very computer-conscious and I could reframe the matter as
follows for him.
"You will know how computer memory works. You start with an
empty disc. You can then store more and more data and it seems
to absorb all you can throw at it. Then one day, quite suddenly,
the disc has reached its limits. Then not only does it not hold
facts, even other programs become very slow and inefficient. Now
what do you have to do then?"
He replied, of course, "Delete some files from the disc."
"Exactly. And that is what we are going to do with the
files in YOUR mind."
After talking around this concept for a while, and mentioning
Luria's work, we looked for an image of storage that he felt
happiest with. It turned out to be videos. The session proceeded
with him simply leaning his head back comfortably and closing
his eyes. (In other words there was no induction.)
Then in a conversational way I asked him simply to mention the
first thing that came to mind. It was a minutely detailed memory
of having visited a computer show.
"Now that you have played that over, is it a tape you need
or want to keep?"
"No."
"Then simply stick a new white label on the tape and put it
on a shelf where you know it can be re-used."
We then ran through a number of other tapes in this way. After a
while we met tapes which could benefit NOT from simply been
discarded but from being edited. Thus one in
which he was stuffing a car full of all his worldly possessions
(you will notice how he crams his life in the same way that he
crams his mind) was edited to show him instead happily
travelling with the minimum of baggage. This short and edited
tape could be kept.
There was about half an hour to do these things in the session.
He left with no confidence that all that would work, but
promising to do a bit more in his own time. (Like so many
clients he had come naïvely supposing he would be "put
out" and told that his memory would be fine again.) The
next week he came back a transformed man. It seemed that there
had been no change the first day, but after a night's sleep the
improvement was already dramatic. He had continued with the
simple exercise, but had modified it so that he was picturing
film rather than tape.
Mechanisms
My model for what happened is the following. I suppose that the
normal mind will have a system which we also find in modern
computers: a procedure for eliminating from memory things which
are no longer of importance. And I suppose that the reason is
the same in both cases: that there is only limited space
available.
This young man, from a sense of insecurity, had not only worked
on the principle of keeping every thing he had in case
it might be needed, also used the same system on memories.
So if, as part of the natural workings of the "file-deleting"
system, his conscious mind was made aware of some memory, he
would in the past apply the "keep it" rule: until
there was no more storage space. The change I made was to
institute a new rule whereby he would at times say "delete
it" and thus release space.
What it would have been informative to do, though unethical,
would be to have a first session involving a straightforward
hypnotic induction coupled with a direct suggestion that his
memory would improve. It is my hypothesis that there would NOT
have been a dramatic improvement (and hence the client would
have paid for less than my best efforts). This is because I
suppose that subconscious processes would not be able to work
out HOW to improve the memory. Any suggestion that the memory
should become "better" could only have been
interpreted by subconscious processes as, "Try to remember
MORE", and never "Start to remember LESS from the
past." It takes some real conscious intelligence to see
that the memory could only be made better by being made "worse"!
A similar problem
Not long after the above case I had another which may not seem
at first to have anything in common with it. It involved a
single woman who was having panic attacks, was totally unable to
relax and had had these and other problems for a period of a
couple of months.
To simplify the situation to its bare bones, it is enough to
note that for the six months prior to the problems her best
friend had been going through a bad marital breakdown, and had
confided freely, fully and frequently in my client.
(It is always useful to look at any unusual processes which
precede the onset of symptoms.)
Now the problem was that my client had always treated everything
she had been given by her friend as something precious:
something to be kept. And it seemed to me that the problem was
that she had treated all the outpourings of distress in the same
light. These were feelings that were important to her friend who
was passing them on to her. Naturally she should keep them:
remember them!
The fact that she was able to absorb six months' worth of
outbursts and distress says a lot for her friendship. But it was
my feeling that such things, like the impersonal memories of the
memory man, have their limits also. And so I employed a light
trance to do what I am sure many members will have done: allowed
her to picture herself disposing of all the bad emotions. I used
the natural picture of black plastic bags, which she was happy
with.
This one exercise did an enormous amount of good even at the
session, and led to great further improvements. It was
interesting to me to note her reaction, which can be summarised
as, "You are the first person who has NOT said that I must
think of myself and forget my friend. You have agreed that I
should help my friend, and shown me how to do it better."
Samaritans
To some extent I owe the above diagnosis to my own past
experience. Many years ago I worked for the Samaritans. I took
every case very seriously, and worked hard to help. But after a
while I became unable to continue. There was a distinct feeling
of being "full-up" with the problems. I could not take
any more, despite the fact that the hours were so much fewer
than I have known since starting as a therapist.
With hindsight I can see that since then I have acquired the
knack of allowing people freely to off load their problems onto
me in a session, but then to let go of them immediately
afterwards. I sometimes liken myself to a dustman.
"The dustman's role is essential to society. You pay him to
take away and dispose of your rubbish. You feel better. Your
home is cleaner and healthier. You do not pay him to keep
it. You do not expect him to fill his home with it. You just
want to get rid of it. In the same way I am a dustman of souls.
I take the rubbish into my mind where I bundle it neatly using
heavy gloves to avoid contamination. Later I will dispose of it
completely. I will forget it. I will not associate you
in my mind with any of the material."
Conclusions
The success of the approach in the first case does seem to
validate both Luria's approach and also the basic assumption
that MEMORY IS FINITE. Far from being able to remember
everything, as some popular if ill-informed books are
inclined to say, we can only remember a very small selection of
facts. Even those gifted naturally with enormously capable
memories can reach their limits.
The other moral might be that whatever the size of our memories,
the mental systems we set up for handling, editing, sorting,
deleting and saving onto paper are probably more important in
the long run than simple raw capacity. (But perhaps this is
wishful thinking in one who is conscious of having a very
limited natural capacity to retain raw facts!)
The success of the second case suggests that we also only have a
limited capacity to hold emotional distress within ourselves.
The moral of it is that since we therapists are merely human, it
is well that we cultivate the skills of handling, sorting and
throwing away emotional rubbish for ourselves as well as for our
clients.
If I were running a course I would make this an explicit part of
it, under the quotation at the head of the article. This quote
has lived with me for decades now, and can be applied to all
knowledge and all memories and all feelings.
This article first appeared in the Journal of the National
Council for Psychotherapy and Hypnotherapy Register, Spring 96.
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The Technique of Editing Mental videos
A recent client made the following remarks after a session. "I
feel afterwards that you are putting things into this (the left)
side of my head which is then later feeding the other side."
"I also feel that you are taking a video out of my head,
looking at it, and then putting it back in again."
This particular client had very little education, and it was a
surprise to her to learn that scientists have demonstrated that
it is the left cortex which processes verbal information, and
that it communicates with the right hand via the corpus
callosum. The first remark is therefore evidence for the fact
that she had an unusually clear first hand awareness of the
processes within her own head.
We may therefore pay interested attention to her second remark.
What was I doing to evoke the remark about the videos? The case
history in brief was as follows. At 39, with a daughter of 10,
she was terrified still of the ex-husband whom she had left a
few years ago after his violence and alcoholism had proved
intolerable. It soon became clear that the emotional patterns of
that relationship had been laid down when she was a girl. Her
father had died and an older brother had taken on his role in
the most domineering manner imaginable. At one time when she
disobeyed him and got a pet mouse he made her watch the
household cat kill it. On other occasion he beat her with an
improvised rubber whip. This incident, when she retrieved it
from the recesses of her memory, was associated with all the
physical symptoms of terror which had plagued her down the years
without knowing why - a common result of repressed traumas.
Now, on the occasion when this memory was surfacing and she
related it to me, I followed it up by getting her to imagine
what would have happened if she had reported the incident and
shown the bruising and told of coughing blood to someone in
authority. She could imagine the effect of Teachers, Doctors,
Police and Social Workers on her brother's behaviour, and how he
would in future have had to treat her with great caution.
In terms of the image that she reported of the video tape it may
be said that the original tape was played, observed, then edited
by adding material to make it a much more positive episode,
which she would be able to store wherever the brain stores its
tapes. The result was a great lightening of mood, and the
removal of that particular episode as a problem.
Let us now look at an earlier case in which the same technique
was used. This young man blushed. It was quite easy for him to
recall early embarrassing situations in which he had blushed.
There was the time he had had to go to school in the ghastly
purple trousers that his proud mother had bought him. There was
the time he had cut his hair himself and could not bear his
school friends to see the resulting mess. It was easy for him to
remember the mental videos of these events, and just as easy for
him to visualise the new script that was suggested to him. With
the trousers, for example, he saw himself going to school and
getting his friends to agree that they were appalling and then
to play with him in some rough game which would ensure that they
become so torn and soiled that he would never have to wear them
again. Within a couple of weeks his blushing had stopped. In
that case explicit use was made of the metaphor of a memory
being simply a video to help him to understand what was
happening.
The next case illustrates the fact that this technique can be
powerful even without hypnosis. The client was a man in his
mid-thirties, intelligent and successful at work, but with his
wife his self-esteem was at rock bottom. His fear of rejection
and the abject way in which he responded to hints of rejection
were a chronic and uncontrollable problem. An overview of his
life revealed that he had led a very sheltered life with Nannies
and attendants until the age of five, when he was sent off to
boarding school with no preparation. The natural result was
that, having less worldly skills than the other boys he was the
one at the bottom of the pecking order and for the next dozen
years or more was forced to stay in that insecure position by
the inevitable social forces that work in groups. The
psychological state is one of always trying to curry favour to
gain admission to the group and fear of being excluded. The
natural presumption was that these many years had formed the
habits which were proving so fatal to the marriage.
It was pointed out to him that if it had been the case
that his father had prepared him for the change, had taught him
how to hold his own and given him more experience of the
rough-and-tumble of boys of his own age in small amounts before
he went to school, then he would have been socially
accepted from the start and would have had a different set of
experiences. If he had had the corresponding set of memories
then he would be behaving differently in the present. Why not
change the memories? - they are after all no more than videos.
He was an intelligent and determined man. For a couple of weeks
he worked away while driving his car and other slack times,
imagining a whole set of new memory tapes to place in his mind -
tapes which might so easily have happened, after all. I have
seldom seen a client change so quickly. In that short time his
feelings changed completely. That old insecurity vanished. He
remains in total control of his behaviour which is now in
keeping with the new videos of his past. The only problem left
is that his wife has yet to find a new attitude to this changed
man!
The technique is not particularly new. Milton H. Erickson in one
case reports on his treatment of a woman with a low feeling of
self-worth by regressing her to various ages, and at each age
gets her to meet a very understanding and thoughtful man - not
unlike Erickson himself - who may bring her a gift on a
Birthday, or hear and applaud a recent success. She might so
easily have had an uncle or grandfather who would have done
this. In short he was inserting completely new video tapes into
her memory. The result was predictable: she started to feel and
behave as it those events had really happened and her sense of
being a valuable person blossomed.
Since Erickson's time people have become very familiar with
videos and so it is possible to talk to them directly and use
the metaphor in which memories are effectively just like videos
of the past. Their behaviour is determined by the contents of
the videos they have in store. If they are prepared to change
the videos then their behaviour will change too. Most people
will respond readily to this explanation.
The following practical points should however be noted. Some
people who have a high regard for truth will resist the idea on
the grounds that the edited video is a lie. Such people must be
handled very carefully. The second point is that it seems to be
much easier and more effective simply to modify an existing
video in such a way as to change the overall effect rather than
to try either to wipe the whole thing clean, or to replace it by
something drastically different. Thus in the case of the purple
trousers we do not try to wipe out the whole memory, but plant a
video which suggests a positive way of dealing with this, and by
implication any other, embarrassing situation. Anyone who has
had experience with the technique of refrhaming should find that
the same turn of mind is useful for editing the videos in this
spirit.
This article first appeared in the Journal of the National
Council for Psychotherapy & Hypnotherapy Register, Spring
1993.
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What Mesmer Believed
MESMER'S
NAME has passed into our language - an honour accorded to few.
Mesmerism can even now be used almost as a synonym for hypnosis.
But are they identical? What did Mesmer believe? What did he do?
Most books on hypnosis contain a page or two on Mesmer, giving a
brief outline of his life and work. In this article I would like
to explore his ideas in rather more detail by
turning to his own words, because a man's ideas very commonly
get distorted and changed in time by both his friends and
enemies.
Fortunately there is a compilation of Mesmer's writings, from
which all quotations will be taken. It is Mesmerism, A
Translation of the Original Scientific and Medical Writings of
F.A. Mesmer translated by George Bloch
It is never easy to get into the mind of another person, and
when that person is separated by a gulf of two centuries and a
different language it is harder still. The task is complicated
yet further by the fact that Mesmer's own thinking inevitably
changed in time, from his first writings in his doctoral thesis
of 1766 (aged 32) to his last dissertation on his discoveries in
1799 (aged 65).
Since this latter is not only his final considered view on the
subject, but is also the fullest, I will regard this as the
primary statement of his views, referring only to earlier
documents as they throw light on particular points.
My intention is to begin by summarising in a favourable light
some of Mesmer's thoughts, so that we can see them clearly.
Scientific
Mesmer seems to have believed in God, though otherwise his
conception of the universe was materialistic. It is clear that
Mesmer regarded himself as being in some ways what we would call
scientific. He deplored the way, for example, in which people
would "refuse to examine and verify facts", and
decried superstitions. He trained as a doctor.
His theory of the universe was that it is composed of a series
of increasingly rarefied fluids. "Sand, for example, has a
degree of fluidity; the shape of the grains necessarily forms
interstices which are occupied by water; those of the water are
occupied by air; those of the air are occupied by what is called
ether; finally, those of the ether are filled up by a substance
even more fluid, for which no name has been determined."
Elsewhere he notes that each of the three first fluids are
capable of being "the conductor of a particular movement
proportionate to its degree of fluidity. Thus, water is
receptive to modifications in heat; air receives all vibratory
movements which produce sound, harmony and its modulations;
ether acts similarly for the movement of light." (He is
forcing the facts to fit his theory here: the "ether"
also communicates heat, and water sound etc.)
By extension his fourth, subtle fluid, also communicates
movements, it "corresponds essentially and is in continuity
with that which animates the nerves in the animal body, and
which exists mingled and blended with the different kinds of
fluids which I have mentioned". At another point he says
that the most immediate action of this fluid "is to
reanimate and reinforce the action of muscle fibre". He
sees it in this sense as being rather like fire, or what we
might call a force, and is what he seems to mean by animal
magnetism.
If I were to try to communicate this framework in a modern
pseudo-scientific language I would say that Mesmer believed that
there exists among all the other fields which science has come
to know (gravitational, electromagnetic etc.: our entire theory
of the universe is today a theory of fields), another which
might be called an "animate field", which is apparent
in its action on living things of all kinds. When it is acting
we may see it as a kind of life force.
The name which Mesmer gave to this force in his earlier days
was, of course, animal magnetism. He later came to regret this
because it led too many people to place too much emphasis on the
word magnetism, and to believe that he was advocating little
more than the application of magnets.
Intension and remission
Another important component of Mesmer's thought was that this
natural force would ebb and flow. He used the word "intention"
to mean the augmentation of a property or faculty, and
"remission" to mean the reduction of the same. These
are what I would call activation and deactivation, or others
might call animation and inanimation. Thus he says that, "this
action, determining what I call the alternating `intention' and
`remission' of characteristics of organic matter, animates and
enlivens all that exists".
He actually came to this idea, it seems, though his original
belief that events on this earth were periodic and influenced by
the movements of heavenly bodies. This theory was propounded in
his original 18 page thesis, which was little more than a brief
resumé of Newton's theory of gravitation, together with
observations on the tidal effect of the moon as well as tales of
how the health or illnesses of people could be influenced by the
phases of the moon also.
At that stage of his life he seemed to think of the influence as
being purely gravitational and that "our humors
are agitated in diverse ways in their ducts, being perturbed,
raised and carried far more copiously towards the head" by
the same force that lifts the tides in the ocean. (This
indicates how little detailed grasp he had of Newtonian
science: a simple calculation shows that gravitational effects
are negligible on that scale.)
He was also aware of the natural ebbing and flowing of the
breath and the pumping of the heart as periodic phenomena. In
particular he states that, "The workings of dilation and
contraction of the vessels, on the liquor which they
contain, is the cause of animal life." With this simple
picture of the alternate tension and relaxation of muscles in
mind he sees illness as being due to the obstruction of a flow
because the muscles which are involved in the dilation and
contraction are either unable to contract, or because something
is acting to prevent them relaxing and hence dilating a vessel.
He terms such a condition an obstruction, "which is the
most general and almost the only disorder occurring in the human
body"!
If we again summarise these ideas in a more modern
pseudo-scientific language we can state that Mesmer believed
that all living processes are characterised by alternating
periods of activation and deactivation; that the underlying
cause of such processes is the animate field and that all
illness is a result of a something preventing this animate field
from working.
He also had a strong sense that what was called "Nature"
acts to restore the natural functioning in illness, and traces
this idea back to the work of Hippocrates.
In his 1779 dissertation on the Discovery of Animal Magnetism,
he is explicit in stating that it is obvious that "Nature"
has provided everything for the existence of the individual,
including the provision of a means of preservation of life. He
attributes this action of preservation to the "GENERAL
AGENT, whose existence I recognize: it alone can reestablish
harmony in the natural state".
Mesmer is here foreshadowing the general idea of homeostasis:
that organic systems are copiously provided with feedback
mechanisms which react to any departure from an established
behaviour of a given system by activating a secondary system to
restore it. Thus if the oxygen levels in the circulatory system
drop, the heart and lungs are activated to redress the
situation, and so on. However, since the medical science in his
day lacked much detailed knowledge of the workings of the body
(remember that Pasteur would not be born for another 23 years),
he was led to hypothesise some force or power which led to the
preservation of life. And it is this "general agent",
of course, that he also called animal magnetism.
It is fascinating to note that in thus turning into a thing
- i.e. his subtle fluid, or animal magnetism - what is really a
process he is doing something very similar to what he
elsewhere notes accurately to be a fault in others' thinking. He
notes that "the senses only transmit to us an object's
properties, character, irregularity, attributes; the perception
of all these sensations are expressed by an adjective or by an
epithet like hot, fluid, heavy, light, bright, resonant,
coloured etc. For the sake of convenience of language, people
substitute substantives for these epithets: before long, one has
substantivized the properties; one says: the heat, the gravity,
the light, the sound, the colour..." In fact Mesmer has
followed a similar path by taking a property of living
things - self preservation - and attributing it to a thing:
his "general agent".
Crisis
You must next imagine with him that in order to relieve any
obstruction Nature must provide a force or effort "proportional
to the existing state in order to overcome it". This effort
he called a crisis. The effects of this effort he calls
"critical symptoms" which "are the real means of
healing", whereas "the effects contrary to this effort
of Nature, coming from the resistance itself, are called the
`symptomatic symptoms' and from what could be called the
`disease'".
We might, for example, say that he would regard the rise in
temperature in a fever as being a critical or beneficial symptom
insofar as it is true that it is part of Nature's way of
fighting an illness. (In fact the beneficial effects of fever
have not been proven, cf. Dr James Le Fanu, Patients at
fever pitch, The Times, March 31, 1994, p 17.)
In a more modern language we may say that he distinguishes
between signs of a departure of some bodily system from its
proper functioning and those signs of the activity of a
corrective system which is attempting to restore things. We may
say that the greater the departure from proper functioning, the
greater the activity of the healing system. What Mesmer seems to
be visualising is a powerful flow of the animate field
into the affected part in order to overcome a blockage.
Methods
It is well at this point to look in detail at what Mesmer
actually DID, as opposed to what he THOUGHT. He is comparatively
reticent about this, but in his Catechism on Animal Magnetism of
1784 we find the following question and answer.
"Q. - In what way should one touch a sick person in order
for him to experience the effects of magnetism?
"R. - First of all, one must place oneself opposite the
patient, back to the north, bringing one's feet against the
invalid's; then lay two thumbs lightly on the nerve plexes which
are located in the pit of the stomach, and the fingers on the
hypochondria [region below the ribs]. From time to time
it is good to run one's fingers over the ribs, principally
towards the spleen, and to change the position of the thumbs.
After having continued this exercise for about a quarter of an
hour, one performs in a different manner, corresponding to the
condition of the patient.
For example, if it is a disorder of the eyes, one lays the left
hand on the right temple. One then opens the eyes of the patient
and brings one's thumbs very close to them. Then the thumbs are
run from the root of the nose (bridge) all around the socket.
If one has to deal with a violent headache, the tip of one thumb
is brought to the forehead, the other behind the head opposite
to it.
The same thing applies to all pains which are experienced in
other parts of the body. It is always necessary that one hand is
on one side, and the other hand is on the opposite side. If the
sickness is general, the hands - made into a pyramid with the
fingers - are passed over the whole body, starting at the head
and then descending along the two shoulders down to the feet.
After this one returns to the head: from the front and from the
rear, then over the abdomen and over the back."
From this we may see that his PRACTICE is far more like
therapeutic massage or acupressure or healing or than it is like
hypnotism as we know it today. The way he would, I suspect,
describe such modern practitioners is that they are simply
(though without knowing it) enhancing the flow of animal
magnetism in the patient's body: that animal magnetism is
flowing from them into the patient. The nearest modern
equivalent are those forms of therapy (mainly of eastern origin)
which see healing as a restoring of the balance of natural
energies by means of physical manipulations. Those who believe
in the Chakra energy systems and in altering them by
manipulations of, or near, the body are in fact far closer to
Mesmer's thought and practice than is a modern hypnotherapist.
You may be surprised that there has been no mention of his
famous baquet which he used in Paris at the height of
his fame. In fact he was later rather dismissive of it, saying,
"Assuming that I were to have a suitable establishment, I
would abolish the baquets. In general, I only use these
little contrivances when I am forced to."
Placebo Effect
It may be useful to explore Mesmer's world-view further by
imagining how he would explain various aspects of today's
attitudes to healing.
I will start with the placebo effect. It has been very well
established by repeated experiments that many patients will
recover from a bewildering variety of ailments if they are given
a form of treatment that they believe will be
effective. Furthermore these treatments will be even more
effective if the doctor believes them to be effective.
(But note that this by no means leads to the conclusion that ALL
ailments can be cured in this way.)
Mesmer would, I presume, interpret the latter as being due to
the direct action of the doctor on the pill concentrating Animal
Magnetism in it. He was accustomed to finding various objects
which could "store" or "concentrate" animal
magnetism, and he would regard pills (active or placebo), or for
that matter homeopathic medicines had they existed in his day,
as being simple vehicles for his universal agent. He would, for
example, concentrate the force in trees, and would find
gratifying evidence for this theories in that patients would
respond to the trees as they had to him, with some strong
reaction such as convulsions.
What he was never able to conceive was that there could
be an alternative cause.
The famous Royal Commission appointed to look into Mesmer's
claims looked at the matter in a different way. They asked the
question, "Suppose that the patient did not see which tree
was magnetised, would he still react?" Mesmer would not
feel the need to ask such a question as he had convinced himself
of the correctness of his views, and was only interested in
evidence that would confirm them (a natural propensity of the
human mind). In fact, when the Commission arranged this little
experiment they found that patients responded pretty much at
random to trees if they could not see which one was magnetised.
Now I emphasise that logically the fact that SOME experiments
made by the Royal Commission demonstrated NO direct evidence for
a physical force of Animal Magnetism does NOT prove that there
is no such thing. Equally the fact that SOME recoveries can be
attributed to a placebo effect does NOT prove that no medicines
have value.
But modern medicines are only accepted as effective if they can
do better than a placebo in a double blind test: in which
neither the patient or doctor knows if the pill contains a
genuine drug or not. The onus is on other skills or theories to
be equally careful in their claims. Thus if Mesmer were alive
today and adhered to his idea that animal magnetism can be
stored in some substance he would be invited to prove it under
conditions in which there was no way in which the patient could
know whether or not it had been. And this includes having it
administered by someone who was also ignorant, because of the
extent to which messages of confidence etc. can be transmitted
by minor body movements and tone of voice.
In days gone by the Irish had unequivocal evidence of the
existence of leprechauns, as a result of their experiences with
distilling whisky. If they failed to scatter, as a libation for
the little people, the residual liquor from the still, then they
would be punished by suffering agonies and even death when they
drank the whisky. What clearer proof could you need? The
alternative, and admittedly prosaic, interpretation of these
facts is that the residual liquid has a high proportion of
poisonous fusel oil, which has a higher boiling point. This is a
fact that can be ascertained by the painstaking analysis which
"holistic" thinkers tend to decry.
Mesmer acted in a way which in fact helped many to health. He
took this as confirmation of his theories. I doubt if he could
have seen that this is not proof any more than the above story
proves the existence of fairies.
Other ideas
Mesmer had many other ideas which gradually grew around the
central ones above. One was that this same subtle fluid was the
medium whereby what we would now call psychic phenomena could be
communicated. The idea seems to be that the nervous system is
particularly responsive to the "subtle fluid" and that
it is therefore possible for one nervous system to work directly
on another (telepathy). It was consequently possible to
mesmerise at a distance. It was also possible to see at a
distance (clairvoyance) and into the future (prevision) by means
of the same fluid. By means of it also a patient was enabled to
look inside himself and to diagnose what was wrong, what should
be prescribed and how long recovery would take.
He also claimed that although Animal Magnetism is so rarefied
that it may penetrate all bodies without appreciable loss of
activity, it can nevertheless be reflected by mirrors,
concentrated in bodies and transported. He seems oblivious to
the apparent contradiction between these properties as applied
to a physical substance.
A less well known idea (mentioned only once) which he postulated
is that there is a contrary property in some animate bodies
which actively destroys the animal magnetism in others.
History
A very detailed and complete history of Mesmerism and how it
developed is given in Gauld's History of Hypnotism Bib.
In this book there are details of similar ideas such as the "od"
force of Baron von Reichenbach (1786-1869), the "etherium"
of the American J.S. Grimes, and the "electrobiology"
of his compatriot J.B. Dods which reached Britain around 1852.
By that time practitioners of Mesmerism and electrobiology were
travelling around giving shows for entertainment which were
scarcely distinguishable in their content from those of the
modern stage hypnotist, except for the way in which they
explained what they were doing.
Is there a future for Mesmerism?
There will always be a future for ideas like Mesmer's in the
minds of people who like the idea of a "life force" or
"animate field" or similar and who do not wish to
examine it too closely. Above all it will have a future in the
minds of people who, like Mesmer, are unaware of the power of
suggestion and belief, or of the detailed workings of the mind
and body.
There may, however, be some truth in Mesmer's
basic premise. There may be some field/force/power which is
intimately involved in life, consciousness and health. What is
certain is that we will never find out anything useful about
such a thing if we cannot distinguish it from phenomena which
are more prosaic.
Far from distinguishing between "magnetic" phenomena
and others, Mesmer went the whole hog and attempted to explain
everything else in terms of it. Thus he felt that it would lead
to "fresh explanations as to the nature of fire and light,
as well as to the theory of attraction (gravitation), and ebb
and flow, of the magnet and of electricity", as well as
"enable the physician to determine the state of each
person's health and safeguard him from the maladies to which he
might otherwise be subject. The art of healing will thus reach
its final stage of perfection."(!!)
IF there is a force or field as Mesmer and others would have us
believe then not only should it be clearly distinguished from
more prosaic phenomena, such as suggestion, but the ways in
which it works should be clearly determined: for otherwise how
can it be used safely and appropriately? ANY agent of change can
change things for the worse as well as better, and the effects
are often intertwined: a short-term good may lead to long-term
harm. This applies as much to hypnosis as to medicine, to
suggestion as much as to antibiotics, and to "animal
magnetism", if it should exist, as much as to
electro-magnetism.
Mesmer writes, wisely, "Truth is nothing but a path traced
between errors." The wasteland of Error is far greater than
the narrow path of Truth which runs through it, and mankind is
forever wandering off into it.
The trouble with human minds is that they are all too readily
convinced that they are on the right path by any slight sign,
and turn chance pointers into concrete sign posts. In order to
keep on the path of truth we need to be very, very careful to
look for all signs that we are OFF the path of truth. We won't
see the boundaries of the path unless we look carefully for
them. Nor is it wise to be guided by a person who cannot answer
the question, "How do you know if you have left the path?
What would it take to prove that you are wrong?"
Mesmer was a good man. He helped many. His ideas were based
almost entirely on untested hypotheses and faulty science, but
they led on to the more accurate ideas of hypnosis developed by
Braid in the nineteenth century.
He would never have accepted that he could be wrong.
Reprinted from The Journal of the National Council for
Psychotherapists and Hypnotherapy Register, Summer 94.
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Mr. Bean the Therapist
A LITTLE WHILE ago I had a dream. In this dream I was talking to
the actor Rowan Atkinson in his persona as Mr. Bean, and was
saying, "I believe that you are the greatest comic genius
of all time."
He took it very well!
Even when I am awake it is true that I find Mr. Bean the
funniest character on television at present, and I know why.
There is something about his approach to every situation which
is so marvellously rational and yet is so divorced from the
normal human ways of doing things that it leads to the most
amazing consequences: and there is an aspect of myself I
recognise in this.
So if any reader detects a flavour of this in me, just say, "Mr.
Bean!"
(Of course the credit must go to Rowan Atkinson's amazing
ability and versatility. I find even his television commercials
for Barclaycard masterpieces of comedy which I can watch and
re-watch. There is so much richness of detail in them.)
But Mr. Bean can do far more than help me to laugh at myself. He
can help in therapy for others also.
I have recently had as a client a woman in her twenties with
very low self-confidence, she cannot get on a bus and is
frightened to go shopping especially in supermarkets.
Without going into details, the simple way of seeing the cause
of this is that she remains in awe of the adult world of rules
and prohibitions for reasons to do with her upbringing.
Supermarket
So, we went to the supermarket (in our imaginations, of course),
where we found, to our great delight, Mr. Bean at an adjacent
checkout. He was being thwarted by the length of the queue and
you would be amazed at the devices he thought up to get rid of
this queue!
He "accidentally" got piles of baked bean cans to
fall, and when people went helpfully to pick them up, he whipped
a few places forwards. A well-placed banana skin allowed further
progress. My client clearly saw him dropping and smashing a
rotten egg (I suppose he must have brought some along for the
purpose) which cleared the way wonderfully!
But one of the funniest versions (we did several), was when he
"borrowed" an assistant's jacket and simultaneously
acted the parts of customer and assistant at an empty till. It
was almost as good as when he was his own dentist!
He had to go home by bus, of course, and this had us in stitches
too! He had bought a new fishing rod which he was testing out by
trying to catch and lift the hats off people in front of him
(and the odd wig, too). Feeling a little thirsty, he boiled a
kettle on a little portable stove on the seat beside him - one
of many little devices which gave him a seat to himself. And you
should have seen how the other passengers reacted when he had to
crawl under their seats nearly the whole length of the bus to
retrieve a boiled egg that had escaped his clutches!
Therapy
Of course the therapeutic intention of all that was
simple. We are dealing with two internal systems: a spontaneous
childlike nature which has been over-inhibited by a regulatory,
adult system. When the adult system is external, as it
is in schools, the natural method children have of dealing with
it is to make private jokes about the teachers. This reduces the
power of authority to over-awe. But when the equivalent systems
are internal the same principle applies, and so Mr.
Bean acts as a comic hero to the anarchic child within, by
cocking a snoot at the power of all the internalised adult
conventions.
The power of laughter
It has often been observed that laughter arises when there is a
sudden change of perception, or incongruity. If we were to
formulate this in general terms it would be as follows. Our
mental processes are generally organised in systems, which are
relatively self-contained. A child may have one system of
thoughts which arise from and are involved with her friends,
another with her teachers and another with her parents, for
example. In addition, as therapists we are familiar with systems
of (perhaps latent) thoughts which were current at an earlier
age, but may be reactivated at a later.
The question I am interested in is, "What happens when two
systems, which are normally disconnected, are brought together?"
The first thing we may note is that it definitely creates a
lot of mental activity. The important thing then is the
nature of this activity. It may come out as hostility
or anxiety or other negative emotion. All these will tend to
create inner tension. Or it may come out as laughter.
If two people come together they may regard their differences as
something to be serious about or to be angry about, or, on the
other hand, they may regard them as material for light-hearted
humour. Friendship, which can easily be between individuals with
quite different characters, will often have this quality. Each
may gently pull the leg of the other, and it causes no
ill-feeling, but rather a closeness.
Laughter dissolves barriers harmlessly.
What is true of external systems is true of equivalent internal
ones. If I have two sides to myself and each can be amused at
the other, they will be friends and live in harmony. If, on the
other hand, they are angry with each other, then I am a house
divided against itself, and cannot stand.
When I find a client who cannot laugh at life, I know that there
are going to be problems. Such a person has limited options when
it comes to resolving differences between himself and others and
between different aspects of himself. The re-gaining of this
most characteristic of human activities is often the task of the
therapist.
And so, as a therapist, I am often trying to impart a humorous
angle on things. Hypnotic techniques are of course a useful aid.
You can create funny pictures in a person's mind that much
easier. Physical relaxation is generally more favourable for
humour. And, in a good subject, the process of laughter can
often be activated easily.
Contrasts
I sometimes think that the source of laughter can be seen in the
universal game of "Pee-Po" with a baby. Mother's face
disappears. The baby's face grows solemn. The mother's face
re-appears. The baby chortles with a special delight.
I theorise about this as follows. Up to that stage of
development the baby's mind is so simple that every experience
is simple and unitary. She is hungry or not hungry, she
is hot or cold, mother is there or not there.
But the glee of the game, I suggest, has to do with the
perception that mother is there and not there.
Verbal humour so often turns on the fact that a word means this
(in one context) and that (in another). The joke
somehow takes us from the one framework to the other. For a
split second we are aware of both simultaneously, and the result
is amusement.
You may have heard of the doctor who took his record-player to
be repaired because the playing arm kept jumping grooves.
"I have bad news for you, doctor", the engineer said
when he had examined the machine, "I am afraid your
record-player has a very bad case of a slipped disc!"
When a headmaster falls on a banana skin in the school-boy's
mind, there is the sudden perception that he can be ultimate
authority and humanly fallible.
I am further suggesting (others probably have before me, but I
have not come across them) that the reason the human race has
this sense of laughter which seems to have no equivalent in
other species is precisely because only we have developed a mind
complex enough to hold two contrary conceptual systems
simultaneously.
Re-framing
When we are re-framing something for a client we are presenting
a different way of seeing some thought or experience from the
one previously used. If the client fails to hold the two frames
or systems of thought simultaneously, then subsequently he or
she may choose one or the other according to context. But if we
manage to bring them both into mind simultaneously, as in the
game of Peep-po, then they become linked and there should remain
a path between them. If one is unpleasant and the other pleasant
the mind will then tend inevitably to move towards the pleasant
one.
So in therapy, I may often be playing a sophisticated game of
Peep-po. We contemplate a fearful experience such as being in
the alien world of the supermarket, and then suddenly it is
changed, courtesy of Mr.Bean, to a happy one. Laughter is a
natural response, which I encourage. Similarly we find that
something can be both a bus-ride and happy: things that
seemed quite contradictory.
I have used other reframing and always laughter-provoking images
with that particular client, and as she leaves, she says, "I
really enjoyed that", and comes back the following week
more confident and capable.
Laughter really is one of the most valuable tools in therapy.
So, thank you, Mr. Bean: The Greatest Therapist in the World!
This article first appeared in the Journal of the National
Council for Psychotherapy and Hypnotherapy Register, Spring 95.
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A novel hypnotic induction
TO THE BEST of my knowledge the following is a completely new
induction.
The "induction" is very brief and non-verbal but has a
lengthy but important "preamble" which follows.
Parentheses [ ] hold explanations of what is going on, and why.
Incidentally the absence of such explanations is what makes so
many written accounts of hypnotic inductions disappointingly
uninformative.
Preamble
This induction is best done with the subject in an upright
seated position, with you, the hypnotist, standing close and on
the left hand side (if you are right handed). [The reasons for
this will be clear soon.]
"Could you sit comfortably, please?"
Pause while subject arranges himself.
"Do you mind my standing so close to you?"
[Standing where you are, you are invading the subject's personal
space a lot. If the subject objects strongly this induction
should not be used. Otherwise continue.]
"What is your favourite animal?"
[You must have the subject's attention. Questions are an
excellent way of getting it. In addition it forces the subject
to look up at you. This places the neck and eyes in a condition
of mild strain which in a little while will induce a strong
desire to drop the head and close the eyes. It also tends to
reactivate an old, old experience which all of us have had: that
of being a small child in school, seated in the presence of a
teacher who is asking questions. This is excellent for our
purposes, because if we can activate this child-like system of
responses, we will find accompanying it a conditioned response
to do everything the "teacher" asks.]
Ask a few questions about the subject's favourite animal. [It
will almost certainly be a mammal, but it does not matter much.
You are simply establishing the pattern noted above and working
to establish rapport. Then you can lead on to the following.]
"A thing that always fascinates me is the way in which so
many animals carry their young. Do you know what I mean?"
[What we are thinking of is the way in which the young are held
by the neck in the mother's mouth. Most people have seen or know
this. But it is always better practice to get the subject to
volunteer it, and in the present context it encourages the `good
pupil' attitude.]
"Yes. That's right. She simply grips it by the nape of the
neck with her teeth, and it swings there limp and
relaxed. A moment before it may have been lively and
jumping all over the place. Then, the moment it is gripped, this
lively creature becomes as floppy, as limp, as
relaxed as a bundle of washing. Of course there is a
very good reason for this. Over millions of years Nature has
developed a simple reflex in the young. The moment the skin of
the neck is gripped the process of switching off all
activity is totally automatic. A mother cat does not have to
say, `Now, be a good girl/boy.'" (Use gender of
subject.) "`I am going to help you. Come with me
without struggling. Relax. Be still.' The kitten
immediately becomes limp and totally relaxed.
You can picture it easily can't you?"
[The goals of the above are to impress on the subject a clear
picture of the kitten (or other animal if it is more appropriate
for the particular subject) dangling limp and happy. The
underlined remarks are given a certain extra emphasis, in the
manner of Erickson, because they are marking certain key
feelings or attitudes which we are encouraging in the subject.
These are attitudes relating to an expectation of deep
relaxation, and to trust in the hypnotist.]
"You may wonder how this reflex works. Well, it is in the
spine at the back of the neck that certain important parts of
the nervous system are found. Technical names that you may have
heard are the Ascending Reticular System, or the nuclei of
Raphe. They are central to all matters to do with arousal or
sleep. The activation of certain parts of these systems leads to
arousal: they make you feel really wide awake. Other parts have
the opposite effect: they make you feel drowsy. I say `you', but
detailed experiments show that these structures are present in
all people, and indeed all mammals. We have inherited them."
[All this is fact, as any decent text-book on brain function
will tell you, e.g. A.R. Luria's The Working Brain Bib.
We use the technical terms as it serves to underline both the
authenticity of the phenomena and the wise teacher image.]
"So you can see that the minute the skin of the kitten's
neck tightens, nerves immediately communicate the fact to the
nerve centres in the spinal cord of the neck, and say, quite
irresistibly, "Limp, relaxed, sleepy, eyes closed, just
come along with me." This is so much easier than for
the mother to have to verbalise it: especially since she has her
mouth full!
Isn't Nature wonderful?"
Wait for at least a nod of assent. [Actually, by this time, you
can expect the vocalising system to have effectively switched
off. This is partly since so few cues for speech have been given
for some time and partly because of the adult-child pattern
which is being evoked in which characteristically the child will
only reply if pressed.]
"And, as I say, we humans have the same centres in the
brain as do kittens. I wonder if you have ever wondered how the
kitten feels while it is being carried? Of course, we
cannot ask it. But it seems to me that Nature generally makes
pleasurable what is necessary. When you are hungry, eating is
necessary, so it is a pleasure. Sex is necessary for the
preservation of the species and is therefore also a pleasure.
When you are thirsty or sleepy the necessary actions of drinking
or sleeping each have been provided with their measure of
pleasure. The kitten certainly looks happy. I think we
may presume that since it is necessary that it be carried by the
neck it will feel at least a measure of pleasure in it. And we
humans have the same centres in our brains.
[Without saying as much, you can now expect that the subject is
already beginning rather to envy the kitten. Recall that she or
he is still having to keep eye contact with you, looking upwards
at that uncomfortable angle. The image of the kitten lolling
comfortably is becoming alluring. The repetition of the
incantatory phrase `measure of pleasure' is due to the fact that
more childlike parts of the brain seem to respond well to such
things.]
"I think that if I were a kitten, then the feeling of being
carried by the neck would be the following. It would start with
a measure of pleasure in the skin of the neck, quickly followed
by a warm all-over feeling of being cared for."
Start to slow speech here into a more drowsy intonation and
rhythm. [This will give the subject TIME to translate your words
into internal feelings, as well as encouraging a sense of
drowsiness.] "This would lead to a feeling of total,
blissful relaxation, as all of the muscles of my body would
go limp." Keep it s-l-o-w. When you say the word
`limp' let your own muscles sag. [This will activate the system
of imitation which people have.] "My head would fall
forward." Demonstrate. "It would be one of the
great pleasures of life. Like sleep, but not asleep."
Pause. "It would be like flying." Pause. "Flying
through the air with no effort. Blissful.
Relaxed. Nothing could be nicer."
[It is assumed that there have been no signs of objection to any
of this. If not, you are close enough to spot any fleeting
expression of disagreement, which you will have asked about and
gently overcome. By now there should be signs that the subject
is agreeing with everything (slight nods, or that open-eyed
stare that we know so well) and taking it all in. We can now
move on to the next stage.]
In a brisker tone say, "Now, that reflex in one which can
be used to induce hypnosis in one of the most rapid and
pleasant ways possible." [Why brisk? The subject
has been getting very relaxed. If you now seem to be trying to
get him or her to wake up a bit, there will be a reluctance,
which will be active for the next minute or two. This reluctance
will help to pull down the level of arousal very quickly when
you want to. The other advantage of briskness is that the
subject's mind has to work so hard to keep up with you that
there is no time to analyse what you are saying. The stage
hypnotist uses this a lot.]
Still in a brisk and confident tone say, "Indeed there are
some people who think that hypnosis is NOTHING BUT the correct
activation of this reflex in the spinal chord. Some hypnotists
do this tediously with words. I will show you, if you like, how
much easier it is to do it like the animals. With your
permission I will gently stroke the skin of your neck.
You will at once feel relaxation coming over you. Your
head will fall forward. You will feel wonderful. Would
you like that?"
[Remember clause 5 of our Code of Ethics. Permission must be
obtained from the client in advance if you are to touch.]
Assuming that the answer is "yes" - probably by means
of a nod - you may then proceed to the "Rapid Induction".
Induction
With a warm hand you gently place thumb and forefinger on either
side of the neck towards the back, and gently draw the skin
backwards. The client will allow the head to fall forwards as
you continue, gently and rhythmically. (You may cue this
response by means of a slight forward pressure.) Note the
breathing, which will become slower and deeper. You will also
note a limpness in the limbs. The subject will not speak. The
eyes will close, though you will not readily be able to see
this. YOU DO NOT HAVE TO SPEAK during this process, which could
go on for a few minutes. On the other hand you could reinforce
it by verbal suggestions of an obvious kind: references to
sharing the feelings of the kitten, relaxation and so on.
You may then get some feedback by taking your hand away and
saying, "Now tell me what that was like?" The client
will lift his or her head (in order to speak). Listen to what is
said, seeking the key description. Then say something on the
lines of, "Good. You see how easy it is. But I am sure that
you can enjoy an even deeper feeling of (key word)." Then
hold the neck again.
[What you are aiming at is the conditioning process of repeated
reinforcements, which is common to many inductions.]
This may be repeated a few times before you declare, "Now
you are in a deep and wonderful hypnotic state," and
continue towards whatever hypnotic response you are next aiming
at: which I presume is on the path to affecting some specific
system which has been giving trouble.
DISCUSSION
I have heard it said that Peter
Casson has claimed, "I am the quickest hypnotist in the
world. But I have the slowest introduction."
An untutored audience, watching the above, will not see the
overwhelming importance of the preamble. To them the induction
will have started at the point where the neck was grasped.
It will APPEAR that you are using a brilliant new discovery,
based on the hardest scientific evidence. We all KNOW that
animals have that reflex, don't we?
But let me make it clear that although the above induction
WORKS, (I invented for and demonstrated it at, one of our Leeds
University courses in Advanced Hypnotic Techniques, to
illustrate a point) I do NOT know if the hypothesis that it
works by means of activating a deep and natural reflex is
accurate or not. At the risk of being tedious this is the same
point I have made in my article on Mesmer.
The fact that something works does not mean that it
works for the reason that the practitioner claims.
We cannot ever prove that a hypothesis is TRUE, but we can at
least find out if it is FALSE. The weak spot in the argument is
the assumption that we retain the reflex that is found in many
mammals.
We could test the hypothesis in humans as follows. It should be
strongest between mother and small child. (This is the rationale
for working to induce a child-like frame of mind in the client.)
We would need some mothers, who do not know exactly why we
are asking them to cooperate, to hold and stroke their
children in a variety of ways, one of which is the method of
stroking the neck. It is important that the mothers have NOT
heard about the disputed reflex, as they may well communicate
feelings of relaxation to the child unconsciously. We would
ABANDON the hypothesis if there were no clear evidence that
stroking the neck clearly produces more limpness than stroking
other parts for any age group of children.
If the initial results were favourable we would have to check it
with a double blind system, to eliminate the
possibility that those who are supervising the training of the
mothers and assessing the results are themselves unconsciously
biassing the results. If the results from either the first or
the second series of mothers and children did not produce clear,
common sense evidence that the neck stroke is betterthan other
contact for relaxating a child then I WOULD ABANDON THE
HYPOTHESIS. It is this ability to ABANDON an idea which does not
stand up to experience that is, I feel, the hall mark of sanity.
As it is, the above induction MAY work by activating such a
reflex, but it will be clear from my explanations that the
preamble is powerfully involved in activating all sorts of
mechanisms in the subject's mind. Suggestion is very powerfully
at work. Activation of a child-adult relationship is there.
Straining of the muscles of neck and eyes is there. All these
will, we know, act to produce the result required. I knew,
therefore, that it would work before ever trying it, whether or
not the reflex is present. I know, furthermore, that if an
audience has seen this method working on one subject, then they
will be yet more inclined to follow suit.
What a lot of alternative practitioners do not seem to
know is the extent to which their preambles and peoples' prior
expectations are involved in their results.
CONCLUSION
If this approach suits your style I would be interested in
hearing from you how it works with more people than I have yet
had a chance to try it on. (Which have been few as yet: I do not
see it as the best approach for most clients in the therapeutic
context, and I regard it as unethical to use any but the most
appropriate induction on a client simply for the purpose of
experimenting with a new one.)
This description can stand as a model of the amount of
explanation of the purpose of
any element which I would like to see included in the
description of a hypnotic procedure.
It may also serve to illustrate the fact that just because some
practice works reliably IT MAY NOT BE DOING SO FOR THE REASON
CLAIMED. It also gives an idea of HOW to go about seeing if a
hypothesis should be abandoned.
The most important ability in a housewife who desires a clean
and healthy home is knowing when and how to throw rubbish out:
to abandon things. That is common sense. The most important
ability in a person who desires a clean and healthy mind is
knowing when and how to throw rubbish out: to abandon ideas.
That also is common sense.
Or, as the famous explorer Burton put it so much better in The
Tinkling of the Camel Bell. "Indeed he knows not how
to know who knows not also how to unknow."
Reprinted from The Journal of the National Council for
Psychotherapists and Hypnotherapy Register, Summer 94.
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Only adults have panic attacks
THERE ARE many books for the general reader about panic attacks,
often of a very high quality. But they all seem to miss a very
important, and at times the most important, feature of
them. Because of this they fail in their job of helping the
sufferer to understand in a useful way what it may all be about,
and even more do they therefore fail to give the most useful
advice to the sufferer.
Before going any further let us be clear in our minds what we
are talking about when we are talking about a panic attack. We
are not talking about fright pure and simple. If I am threatened
by a man with a gun I will experience fright. But this will
surprise no-one. Everybody will suppose that it is natural to
feel fear in that situation. The feelings I have will be
labelled "fear" by myself and by others. If, on the
other hand, I am in a queue in the supermarket and I feel the
same feelings then they will be labelled a "panic
attack".
These examples illustrate the following definition.
A PANIC ATTACK is a feeling of acute fear which seems out of
proportion to any present cause.
Of course the feeling of fear is accompanied by a variety of
physical effects. There will generally be adrenaline production
and an increased heart rate. There may well be sweating,
hyperventilating, trembling, a tendency to get cold feet, dry
mouth etc.. Each person tends to have a slightly different
pattern of response, but the central experience is a feeling of
FEAR.
How do we distinguish Fear from Panic? We must have some
internal standard of what is appropriate in a given situation. A
Fear that seems out of proportion is labelled Panic.
A frightened child
Next let us consider a scenario in which we see a frightened
small child: a two year old, perhaps. The exact age is not
crucial, the important feature is that it is too young to have
internalised any idea of how appropriate a fear (or
indeed any other emotion) is to a situation. Notice therefore
that from our definition the child can never be said to have a
panic attack by its own assessment. What about by another's
assessment? How many mothers label their children's fears as
panic attacks? The answer is surely, "None". CHILDREN
DO NOT HAVE PANIC ATTACKS!
They experience fears of course, and a frightened child can be
considerably more frightened than an adult because there has
been no opportunity to learn to control the fear at all. Any
mother knows her child's fears. Some seem readily
understandable, like a fear of loud noises, others, like a fear
of a certain person or place, may seem less so. But we do not
generally impose strict criteria of what is appropriate: we
accept that a child might be frightened of all manner of things.
There is therefore almost no possibility of saying that a
particular fear is badly out of proportion for a child
and so no danger of labelling its fear a panic attack.
By this stage I have simply tried to present a very striking
fact, which is obvious enough when it is stated, and perhaps
does not seem to take us very far. However there are other
dimensions to this idea, as we will see. But first I am going to
take what may seem to be a diversion and give two examples from
my case book of very clear cut panics. They are clear cut at
least in part because the sufferers came to me within days of
the attacks, and so there had not developed the fear of panics
which itself tends to aggravate the matter in so many cases.
Two cases
The first case concerns a man in his early forties. He is big,
strong and has a black belt in Judo. He runs his own building
business - not a job for a weakling in any sense, and lives in a
tough neighbourhood. He is scared of nothing.
Then one day he was approached by a little runt of a man who,
with the courage of too many pints inside him, started to swear
at my client. And my client panicked! He could not move. He was
trembling and sweating. His voice was a high-pitched falsetto.
He thought he must be going mad. You might like to think what
treatment would be appropriate.
The second case concerns a woman, also in her forties. She,
also, had run a successful business - a restaurant, in her case
- but after a divorce she had decided to make a fresh start as a
Driving Instructor. She had driven all over Europe with total
safety for many years and had clocked up an enormous milage. But
almost as soon as she got into the car for her first lesson in
Instruction she went to pieces! She was tense. Her mind seemed
to forget everything she had ever known. She could scarcely
control the car at all. She tried desperately to force herself
back into control, but with no success. She panicked. What is
the appropriate treatment?
Let us revise the broad methods which might be used. We might
think of post-hypnotic suggestions to the effect that the panics
in these two cases should not recur. We might think of
progressive desensitisation: though without hypnosis it would be
hard to find a series of progressively less foul-mouthed drunks!
We might think of breathing exercises. We might wonder if, in
the second case, there were repressed after-effects of the
divorce, or whether, in the first, if there had been a build up
of stress in the builder. Some might turn to acupuncture or
homeopathic remedies.
I did none of these things. I asked myself, "I wonder when
this feeling arose, naturally, before?" (For the value of
asking the right questions see the article on Interview and
Diagnosis.
Within a few minutes we had discovered that when the builder was
a young boy of perhaps four years of age his father had often
come in drunk from the pub and then sworn at him if he were
still up. At that age, if your drunken father, who is well over
six foot high and strong, comes and swears at you, then you
NATURALLY tremble with fear, you NATURALLY sweat, you are
NATURALLY fixed to the spot and you NATURALLY speak in a
falsetto voice - it is the only one that you have. In short you
feel fear pure and simple. It is not a panic because it is in
proportion to the cause.
The drunken runt had quite accidentally triggered off what
amounted to an age regression, and reactivated a childhood
system of response, which was no longer in proportion to the
cause and so amounted to a panic.
What did I find out about the woman? The obvious question there
was, "And how did you react the first time you took a
driving lesson?" The answer, as anticipated, was, "I
was eighteen, and was in a terrible state." In this case,
the stimulus of being again in a car with a stranger who was to
instruct her had evoked an earlier system of responses - an age
regression to 18. She was scared the first time, with the not
unnatural fear of a strange situation, and so fear arose the
second time also, but this time it was not appropriate and so
became a panic.
You must explain
It is worth noting that in these two simple cases it was ENOUGH
TO EXPLAIN WHAT WAS HAPPENING. No other treatment was necessary.
The clients went away totally relieved in mind, with complete
understanding and knowing that there was nothing seriously
wrong. The builder knew that he now only needed to contrast the
present drunk with his remembered father and the spell would be
broken. The Instructor knew she need only treat herself as she
would any other nervous eighteen year old, instead of shouting
at herself, and her confidence would return quickly. But all too
often people do not get rational explanations. Then, whatever
other treatment is given, there remains the lurking thought,
"But will it happen again? I do not know why it happened.
Perhaps it will crop up somewhere else? Perhaps I am cracking
up? Perhaps I am under too much stress? Perhaps... Perhaps...
Perhaps?" And such thoughts are the most fertile possible
bed in which to cultivate little anxieties until they turn into
full-grown panics.
These two examples have been chosen to demonstrate a common
theme in first panic attacks.
The pattern
The pattern is this. An adult has experience E. This is similar
to some sensitising experience S, which happened a long time
ago, most usually in childhood. Experience S was accompanied by
a NATURAL level of fear. Experience E evokes a similar fear, but
it now seems unnatural, not least because judged by the adult's
standards it is out of proportion to the apparent cause.
One enormous therapeutic benefit of pointing out to the client
the connection between E and S is that it makes it possible to
reframe the idea of how natural the fear is. People start by
saying, "Well, no-one else is frightened of E!" But
then this is changed to, "Yes, no-one else who has NOT HAD
EXPERIENCE S is frightened of E," from which it clearly
follows that, "Everyone who HAS had an experience S is
frightened of E." It therefore becomes normal: a fear and
not a panic and is much more easily coped with.
With these ideas in mind we next come to a very important
consequence which has enormous importance when it comes to the
question, "What is the best way of dealing with panic
attacks?"
The answer which now seems obvious is, "Treat the person's
emotions as they would best be dealt with at the age of incident
S, NOT of incident E. For example, when the lady above treated
herself with the patience she would apply to any other eighteen
year old, the problem passed.
So much well-meaning "help" is totally misguided
because it is directed to the adult, who at the time of panic is
adult only in part, and not to a frightened child which is the
dominant part. If a child is frightened in a supermarket it does
not help to snap, "Don't be silly. You should be quite
happy here on your own." The best treatment is a warm hand
to take it to a familiar place of safety. No sensible adult uses
cold reason with a child who is frightened. It needs simple
reassurance and understanding and perhaps a warm drink.
Gagging reaction
I had one client who had just moved up to Leeds to be with her
boyfriend. Within a short time she got into a dreadful state -
full of dread that she was going to die because she could not
eat. This was a pattern that had happened at other times in her
life and caused enormous problems. A simple systems analysis
revealed that fear triggered a gagging reaction to food, so that
she was unable to swallow any. Being unable to swallow triggered
a mental system which was, "If I don't eat I will die."
And that thought in turn triggered off fear, thus closing a
circle.
It turned out that most of this pattern had been established
within the first year of life. She had had swallowing problems.
She had been taken to an alien environment (the hospital). She
had naturally been frightened. So an association had been
established between a strange environment, fear and not
swallowing. Coming to Leeds, a environment strange to her, had
triggered the pattern off.
Feeding bottle
Treatment was simple. First, the mechanics were explained, so
that she could see that she was just reliving the feelings of a
small child. Second, she was instructed to treat herself like
one: go home, curl up in a duvet, play soothing music or chat
about simple things, and drink warm milk from a feeding bottle,
which she could buy in any chemists. (The cleverness of this is
that it subtly undermines that mental system which equated not
eating to starving to death. She could, in fact,
swallow liquids, and everyone knows that babies, who can ONLY
drink milk, do not die!)
The result of these simple interventions was total relief of her
symptoms within a day. In fact she drew the line at using the
feeding bottle, but the idea had done its work.
This illustrates graphically the principle that the appropriate
treatment is as close as possible to that which would be best at
the regressed age. If one is doing hypnosis in this context it
best to make it very cosy: the warm blanket; the bedside story
anecdotes; the warm parent comforting away the fears. The idea
is simply to recreate some of the key features of what would
have been a perfect antidote to the fear for the child. If one
is not using hypnosis explicitly, there must nevertheless be in
mind the idea that there is a frightened child who needs
reassurance, kindness and sympathy.
Some readers will readily relate these ideas to the notion of
"The Child Within". However, that concept originated
in the field of therapy with people who had suffered abuse or
similar in childhood. Here I am drawing attention to something
which is far more general. We can all meet experiences E which
will cause a reactivation of earlier, and therefore usually
childlike, patterns of response. Under those circumstances we
become like children again in some ways, or if we want to put it
more technically, a partial dissociation is established between
at least two parts of the mind. One part is the present day
persona and another part is the reactivated child-like persona.
There may in addition be secondary effects, such an internalised
parent: this manifests itself as the adult trying to quell the
child within by using the approach which the child's parents
used. (You may recognise how this establishes a connection with
Transactional Analysis - "Games People Play", Berne
Bib etc.)
Finally let me add that it should not be thought that this
mechanism is the ONLY cause of panics. We may cite, for example,
another large class, which can be seen as a natural response to
being in an inappropriate environment. The model here is that of
a wild animal taken into captivity. It will naturally feel high
levels of fear. People, too, can feel high levels of fear in a
strange environment, but since they think, "Other people
are at home here. There must be something wrong with me - my
feelings are inappropriate," they turn a fear into
a panic. Of course this might also trigger off a
regression to a bad experience of fear of a strange place as a
child, but this is not necessary in order for a panic to arise.
Another big cause of panic is, as has been indicated above,
thoughts in an adult like, "I have a problem. I may have
another panic." This is often the primary mechanism in
panics after the first because such predictions are
self-fulfilling, though again there can be an element of
regression.
We may now go back to the original idea, that children don't
have panic attacks. We may now see that it is not totally true,
in the following sense. If we looked very closely at a child's
fears, then we might well be able to isolate some which are in
fact out of proportion, and for the same reason we have cited:
that the fear response has been conditioned by a still earlier
fear. However, for a young child it remains true that there will
be no inner judgement as to the appropriateness of the fear, so
it cannot be conceptualised as panic. The child will usually
also benefit from greater tolerance of its fears by adults and a
greater chance of the fear being treated at a level appropriate
to a child's fear, which will dissipate the fear more readily.
SUMMARY
A PANIC is a fear which seems out of proportion to any present
cause.
ONE major reason for such an attack is that the stimulus is
actually activating a system of response to a similar thing
which happened a long time ago.
This can be thought of as an age regression.
It can be helped enormously by treating the problem at the
regressed age rather than the real age.
For the client to understand the mechanism is itself a weight
off the mind, because worry about the mysterious can breed
further problems.
When a "first" panic comes out of the blue, this
mechanism is very high on the list of possible causes.
Subsequent panics are often a simple result of autosuggestion.
"I've had one. I'll have another."
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The Child Within
Please hold my hand, the little child said And hug me
close, before I go to bed. "I haven't time," the
adult sharply cried " To spend with you, so go away and
hide." Who is this child who needs to be consoled To
work through anger, fear and grief so cold, To find two arms
to hold and keep her safe, To give a smile of love and not a
look of hate? Someone to listen when she tries to tell Of
those who drove her to the brink of hell Of how her body
aches with tears unshed The awful fears that fill the little
head. She lives in me, that child who was used For others'
pleasures, broken and abused. Sometimes she needs to ask for
extra care So give her time, acknowledge she is there, Allow
her space to shed her little tears, She's held them back
through many lonely years.
I was given the above, framed, by a lady client who knew at
first hand the suffering of the Child Within. It meant a lot to
her. She had cut it from a magazine, and did not know the
author. If someone knows who it was I would be pleased to
acknowledge the source.
Reprinted from The Journal of the National Council for
Psychotherapists and Hypnotherapy Register, Winter 93.
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Rebirth - a Sonnet
Wearied by tasks that tax the soul I walked up Ilkley Moor
one winter's day, My adult cares for company; no thoughts In
mind but money, work and sex. No play. The clouds hung close
around, the wind grew chill And threw against my cheek the
icy rain. I turned the other. And upon that hill All other
thought was taken from my brain But "Climb!" I
climbed, obeying the command. The cairn loomed close, then
shone in brilliant sun As parting clouds revealed a magic
land In which to laugh and jump and shout and run. For
thus the clouds of worldliness are torn To make a child
again: to be reborn.
A poem has many levels of meaning, as does therapy. One meaning,
relevant here, addresses the problem: how does one who claims to
heal the minds of others keep a healthy mind himself?
I count it as one of my great blessings to live in the Yorkshire
Dales, so that five minutes walk can take me out onto the
healing moors, where all things find their true perspective and
where lungs and body find the natural health in which alone a
healthy mind can dwell.
Reprinted from The Journal of the National Council for
Psychotherapists and Hypnotherapy Register, Autumn 93.
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Dealing with Sexual Problems in the Male
IT IS NOT UNCOMMON for men to come along to a therapist with one
of the two most common problems in the area of sexual
dysfunction: a failure to achieve erection and premature
ejaculation.
In this article I will be describing the main lines of approach
that I take to such problems which have seemed to be generally
effective. Readers may compare them with their own methods and
possibly suggest improvements.
This article may perhaps be of more value in the absence of any
guidance in this area from some of the primary books on clinical
hypnosis: Gibson & Heap's Hypnosis in Therapy,
Hartland's Medical and Dental Hypnosis and Milton
Erickson et al's Medical and Dental Hypnosis. The best
book I have come across was, in fact, written one hundred years
ago and is The use of Hypnosis in Psychopathia Sexualis
by A. von Schrenck-Notzing, M.D. translated by C.G. Chaddock
M.D. in a new publication by the Julian Press of New York in
1956. This is in some ways surprisingly up to date, but I have
not drawn extensively on it in the following.
Diagnosis
The first stage is, of course, asking the standard questions
about the problem (Cf. the article Practical Psychotherapy:
Interview and Diagnosis). The most important ones being:
Q. Can you tell me about the first
time you had this problem? and
Q. Could you please me about how you think
about it in the times between lovemaking?
Why is the question about the first time important? First of all
we want to make certain that the problem does, indeed, have a
psychological root: there could be medical problem
involved. So we want to look at the first time to see if,
indeed, the failure to achieve satisfactory intercourse has a
clear rationale.
Examples of how a problem might start are the following. A young
man on holiday has already had sex that day with one woman, and
then finds himself in bed with another to whom he is not in any
case very attracted. He fails to get a satisfactory erection.
(Is anyone surprised by this?) Another young man has sex for the
first time in his girl-friend's parents' house, where he is very
nervous in case her parents return. He ejaculates prematurely.
(Is this very surprising?) A third has had far too much to
drink. And so on.
Physical causes for impotence include syphilis, diabetes,
alcoholism, drug addiction, strokes and other damage to the
nervous system. It is, of course, probable that such causes will
have been diagnosed earlier by the client's GP, but we should be
aware of them and ask specifically about them if we do not have
a clear initial cause.
The second reason we want to find the reason for the first
occurrence is to limit the worry from which the client is
typically suffering. By the time he comes for help he has
usually worked himself up into a condition of great concern
about the matter, and thinks things are far worse than they are.
It is psychologically very reassuring to know the answer to,
"Why have I got this problem?"
Feedback loop
Now we come to the second major question: what the client is
thinking between times. Typically it is some variation on,
"There is something wrong with me. I am a failure. I must
try harder next time. I am afraid that it will happen again next
time."
What we know, of course, is that thoughts of this nature have
the effect of increasing anxiety and of increasing the chance of
the failure arising again. But yet another failure simply pours
fuel on the flames and the pattern of thought and worries grows
stronger, which in turn leads to a greater and greater chance of
failure and so on. Such a vicious circle, or increasing positive
feedback loop, is responsible for very many psychosomatic
problems as has been described in more detail in book elsewhere
on this site: The Principles of Hypnotherapy.
It is this vicious circle which has been responsible for the
continuation of the problem. And it is this circle that
we have to weaken and then eliminate.
Other questions
Naturally one looks briefly at the entire sexual history, some
of which may well be relevant, and also takes a quick look
around other aspects of the client's life: "Any problems
with work?" "Any bereavements? Illnesses? Worries of
any kinds?" "What job do you do?" (Often a useful
cue to the kind of language one will use in the session.) "Did
you have any problems as a boy?"
First Step
The first step I take to change things, after at least twenty
minutes of analysis around the questions above, is usually to
see if the client accepts the following story.
"Now it seems to me that this is what you have been telling
me. You had no problems worth mentioning until the day when...
(the first incident is described in detail) ... where
things went wrong as they would have for anyone else
because of (specify the reason).
IF you had known that reason at the time, then you would not
have thought any more about it. There would have been no worry
about it. The next time you made love it would therefore have
been as if that unlucky incident had never happened. It would
have gone well. You would then have remained confident and
happy. And it would have continued to go well. You would not be
here today."
It is actually a big step forward if the client runs through
this in detail in his mind and accepts it. It puts the thing in
perspective.
If the client does NOT accept this outline story then I take it
as an indication that I have missed something, and further
questioning is necessary to find out what that is. Such cases
are then treated on their own merits, but they are comparatively
rare. (An example that comes to mind was a young man in his
twenties who had yet to achieve successful intercourse. The
pattern there seemed to be simply one in which each stage of
sexual development and experience had been delayed by several
years, and what was required primarily was a certain amount of
visualisation and encouragement of the next step.) In this
article I will assume, however, that the outline story is
accepted.
The more detail and time that is put into the above story the
better. Indeed it can form a very important part of the
treatment to proceed as follows. (Cf. the article on Editing
Mental Videos.)
"I would like you now just to close your eyes and sit
comfortably and think about what I am saying. You are as you are
today because you have memories of certain failures. You have
accepted that if you had realised at the time the natural cause
of that first incident then there would have been no more
problems, only successes. You would then have only memories of
successes, and would be free from worries and problems. We are
therefore going to take the disappointing memory tapes out of
your mind and over-write them with successful ones.
"Start by re-living the first. (Questions and answers
are used to keep me aware of what is being thought of.)
That is fine. Now picture yourself smiling afterwards and
thinking, `That could have happened to anyone. I will certainly
avoid that mistake again.' Now move on to the next bit
of memory, and run it through your mind, from the time you
started to think about sex to the time it was over. (Again
listen to the account.) Now, you can see that it went wrong
because you had got yourself into a state beforehand. NOW run
through that again, but get it right this time. In the run-up
picture yourself as you would have been if you had handled that
first incident right: confident, feeling good... Then imagine it
all going well, just as it should have. (Let him run it
through.) Now, how does that feel? The answer is
typically "good".) Now we will go through all the
other memory tapes editing them to be the way they should really
be. (And do that in detail also.)"
Control
The above will usually go quite a long way to reduce the power
of past failures. But I find that there is another point which
is very often worth paying a lot of attention to. Very many men
seem to suppose that they should be able to control their sexual
performance in the same sense that they can control the
voluntary muscles of the body. It is seldom put into words, but
concealed in their attitude is the idea, "I should be able
to maintain an erection at will and to reach a climax at will."
Furthermore there is often concealed in this idea the further
one that, "And it has nothing to do with the woman"!
This second sentence, put as bluntly as that, may seem
ridiculous to many men and most, if not all, women. Yet, if you
analyse the patterns of thought that clients get into, it
amounts to that.
Now such an attitude is not at all helpful when things are not
working. If you give anyone responsibility for
something over which they have no control then it is going to
lead to increasing anxiety and a sense of failure. If the man
feels that he is responsible for aspects of his sexual
performance that he does not, in fact, have conscious control
over, then it will inevitably lead to increasing anxiety and
sense of failure. We therefore would like to remove from him
that sense of responsibility.
It will be apparent to readers that for him to go for
"treatment" to anyone will help him in this
way. It is a way of saying, "I cannot control
this. You are now responsible for making me better."
Whether the expert referred to is a doctor, or aromatherapist,
or acupuncturist or hypnotherapist makes no difference here. In
each case the fact that the expert accepts the responsibility
takes some of the pressure off the man and gives room for
improvement. I suppose, however, that it is only the
psychological specialists who are consciously aware that this is
a part of the treatment.
I will generally take further steps to remove the responsibility
in some such way as the following.
"You know that dogs do not have these problems at all.
Evolution has been working for millions of years to give them a
fool-proof sexual system. Nothing happens until they smell a
bitch on heat. The effect of the bitch and the effect of the
bitch alone causes them to become sexually active and to do
the things that have come naturally for millions of years. They
are of course too stupid to start to think about the possibility
of failure. They are too stupid to think about their
performance. They are too stupid to think about themselves at
the same time as they are aware of the bitch. They are too
stupid to make a mess of things.
"In the same way our sexual behaviour was designed in a
world where it was supposed that we would not be clever enough
to think about ourselves at the same time as the woman. It was
supposed that the attractions of the woman would be enough to
command our whole attention, and simultaneously arouse us in the
appropriate way.
"But it will be obvious to you that from a time hours or
even days before the meeting, right through to the time in bed,
you are doing little but think about yourself. If you
think about her it is only to worry about what she is
thinking about you, and you are back thinking about
yourself again. This is NOT what nature intended. Over
the millions of years of evolution nature never supposed that
after she had gone to all the trouble of making women and sex so
attractive you would still be more interested in
yourself than in your partner!
"So in future you are going to forget yourself. You will
first and last be paying attention only to your
partner. You will notice the fragrance of her hair, the
sweetness of her lips, the softness of her skin. You will notice
her. You will allow your body to notice hers, and to move in
response to hers, and to become aroused in response to arousal
in her.
"Just as sailor knows that it is the presence of the wind
that swells his sails, and he can do nothing without it, so you
will realise that your sails will swell in the wind of sensory
delights blowing from her to you. And the sailor times his
voyages by the tides, and waits until the tide is high before
casting off. And you too will be aware only of the rising tide
of her passion and will not cast off onto the sea of ecstasy
until that tide is high.
"You will stop thinking about yourself. It has done nothing
but harm. You will stop thinking about yourself. It has poured
sugar into your patrol tank. You will stop thinking about
yourself. It has caused the computer of your sub-conscious to
crash. You will stop thinking about yourself and think and sense
and feel nothing but HER."
The idea behind the above is that sex evolved in the context of
the coming together of two systems. Primarily this is
two sets of genes, and secondarily the two organisms that carry
them. Until our spare mental capacity evolved, sexual behaviour
in one was activated only by certain cues in the other. In a
simple form the primary pattern in mammals is:
&uarr {sexual cues from female} &rarr &uarr{sexual behaviour in male}.
Meaning of arrows
In most mammals the sexual cues from the female start with
oestrus, and are often primarily olfactory. In our species
pheromones are still active but at a much reduced level and we
rely more on other signs of receptiveness.
If the male renders himself unable to perceive those cues from
the female then he incapacitates virtually all the natural
internal systems of his body which are designed to ensure that
intercourse proceeds with mutual satisfaction. One of our tasks
is to prevent this happening, as I hope that the above
illustrates, in a rather more poetic way.
The female point of view
Men are nearly always far more concerned about these matters
than are their partners. If the rest of the relationship is fine
then most women are not very concerned. I would suggest that for
the minority who get angry about it something on the following
lines is responsible.
If her rather confused feelings were to be put into words they
might run as follows.
"Things are not going right. Why not? If he loved me they
would. If he loved me he would be aware only of me. And things
would go right. So he does not love me. He is not with me
in bed. He is thinking/feeling about someone else. He is being
unfaithful. That is infuriating."
And the kernel of truth in this is that he is NOT properly aware
of her, he is thinking of someone else: himself. Her
rival is not another woman but another man, and that man is
lying beside her!( Now it is a normal (and often helpful) thing
for a woman to be angry with her rival: she may well be able to
drive her away. But if her rival is her partner then things can
get badly messed up if her anger is expressed. In fact we
usually get into a vicious circle:
&uarr {woman's anger} &rarr &uarr {man's sexual activity}
&rarr &uarr {woman's anger},
which simply makes things far worse.
Other techniques
Although the above are the two main strategic lines of approach
that come up in these problems, we may note other minor
techniques which can at times be useful.
I will sometimes do a fist levitation until the arm is erect in
order a) to enhance the useful effect of transferring the
responsibility for an erection away from the man and b) to
demonstrate that what is believed in will happen. The moral is
that if he believes an erection will not happen then it
will not.
Visualisations of future successful lovemaking is a normal part
of treatment: though with a emphasis on getting his focus of
attention in the right place.
Suggestions of confidence and that all will be well are of
course also normal.
If the problem is that of premature ejaculation then the rather
obvious idea that to make love twice in a matter of hours, with
a much more delayed ejaculation the second time, is one that
sometimes has not occurred to the client, but can remove a lot
of anxiety.
If there are other specific worries, then they may also have to
be dealt with. One of the more important is if the man has
financial troubles. This hits his self-esteem hard and it may be
hard to do very much about the sexual problems unless the
financial ones improve first.
At times there are relationship problems of some other kind that
are being reflected in the sexual problem, and then, of course,
it may be necessary to do some counselling with both partners
for a while in order to resolve those first.
Summary
Although there may be contributing causes the most common
pattern in sexual malfunction in the male is the following.
The problem begins with an initial incident.
The man then begins a vicious circle in which
preoccupation with his problem leads both to a failure because
be is expecting it and to a failure because he stops attending
to the woman, thus depriving his body of its natural activating
cues. This failure simply increases the preoccupation.
The solution involves the following main steps.
1) Demonstrate that the initial incident had natural causes.
2) Let him see and feel how much better things would have been
since if he had realised those causes at the time.
3) This results in him no longer thinking of failure as
inevitable.
4) Get his attention off himself and onto his partner.
5) Get him to visualise successful implementation of this
change.
This article first appeared in the Journal of the national
Council for Psychotherpay and Hypnotherapy Register, Autimn 95.
SCHRENCK-NOTZING (op. cit.) "It is
necessary to so influence the patient that he is not constantly
pre-occupied with himself."
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When the problem is smoking
This article is a response to a letter in the NCHP&HR
Journal from Edward John McClurg. The parenthetic remarks in the
article have specific relevance to Mr. McClurg, a tutor
in Quality Management Systems, though others may find
them illuminating.
I AM NOT GOING to describe a technique for dealing with
smokers so much as a methodology: the broad lines of my
approach. It should be clear as you read on why this is so.
In dealing with a smoker my first assumption is that I am
dealing with at least two systems. One, which is usually the
greater, is the part which has determined to stop smoking. The
other is the system which is controlling the smoking.
(A business parallel is to take the former as an enlightened
Management who has determined to implement a new BSI standard,
and the latter as a department which is stubbornly sticking to
the old "tried and trusted" ways.)
My first job is to ASK THE RIGHT QUESTIONS - a task I emphasised
in my article on Diagnosis. I cannot make intelligent changes
until I know the answers to the following questions. (The
equivalent managerial questions are in brackets.) The order is
not significant.
* How does it feel when you want to smoke, and how does
it take place? (Could you introduce me to the
department that is giving the trouble?) These stand for
a whole string of questions directed at getting a firm idea of
the smoking subsystem (the problem department) that has somehow
to be changed.
* A further question on these lines is: Is the subsystem
based on ideas, feeling or habits? I.e. Is it more like
a voice saying, "You need a cigarette", or a feeling
of needing one, or simply an habitual action. (Is the
subdepartment acting according to rules, or on gut feeling or on
sheer force of habit?)
* How have you tried to stop? (How have
you tried to implement the change?) It is obviously
helpful to try to discover what has been tried and WHY is
failed.
* What are the advantages of stopping? (What
are the advantages of implementing the standards?) This
question must be asked of the non-smoking will and also the
smoking subsystem (Management and the recalcitrant workforce.)
* What are the advantages of continuing? (What
are the advantages of not implementing the change?)
Again ask both parties.
It is possible that you will only get honest answers from the
smoking subsystem in a trance. (You may only get an honest
answer from the workforce when you have their trust and the
Manager is not breathing down your neck.)
* How and why did you start smoking? (How
and why did the current work practice originate?)
* What do your family/friends feel about the smoking?
(How is the key department affected by outside
pressures from other businesses etc?)
The above are simply a selection of the more central questions.
I also devote time to getting to know other things about the
person. Of particular importance are their interests,
professions etc, because you can put things over much better if
they are related to things they know about. (Just as I am trying
to put the ideas in this article over in a way which I hope will
mean a lot to Mr. McClurg, as a tutor in Quality Management
Systems.)
Broadly speaking, you know the most important things about a
person if you know the things to which they will respond, and
how they respond. It does not matter if the response is
favourable or unfavourable. Things they do not respond to are
irrelevant in any brief therapy. (The important thing about a
company or department is the things they respond to and how.)
There is a world of difference between a pregnant woman stopping
smoking for her baby and an aggressive businessman stopping for
his own health. Their minds are very differently organised;
their motivations are very different; the similarity of goal
conceals an enormous difference in the tasks.
(There is a world of difference between changing things in a
company like The Body Shop and changing things in Saachi and
Saachi. Their managerial structures and styles are very
different; their motivations are very different: the similar
goal of applying a certain standard conceals an enormous
difference in the tasks.)
Only when I have spent at least half an hour on this preliminary
task do I begin work. As I have been going along I have, of
course, been noting down promising lines of approach. And many
of my questions will have been devoted to checking out whether
these will work or not.
(Only after a detailed study of the organisation and the
problems involved in the company will a consultant begin to make
recommendations. But he has been noting promising lines as he
goes on, and many of his questions have been devoted to
clarifying or eliminating these options.)
Discussion
I will then discuss what steps the client is able to take
without needing much help. (Find out what the Management might
be able to implement easily without much help.) Often there are
obvious things which have been overlooked: for example suppose
that a person smokes by habit in the toilet only since an
ashtray has been installed. The removal of the tray will stop
that part of the habit easily.
In many cases the bulk of the task lies in this area of things
that can rather easily be changed by conscious effort, if you
know how. (In many cases most of your changes are to management
style rather than to the actual functioning of a particular
department.)
Notice that there is no ONE piece of advice. Each person may
have failed to notice a different specific point that could
easily be changed. Erickson once noticed that a retired
policeman always bought his cigarettes from a store next door.
By getting him to agree that it would be better to walk across
town to buy them he reduced the habit enormously. But it is
unlikely that this specific technique would work for many
clients.
Induction
I seldom waste time on inductions which focus on some irrelevant
subsystem such as hand levitation, eye closure, formal
relaxation etc etc.
(As a consultant I seldom bother to make changes to any systems
other than those centrally involved.)
I will begin with a theme of great interest. This may well be
smoking itself.
Just lie back comfortably, close your eyes, and start to
think as vividly as possible about wanting a cigarette.
I will then ask detailed questions as the client goes
through the whole process of smoking a cigarette, to hold his or
her attention on the process.
On the one hand this gives great insight into the attractions of
smoking - the only pleasure for one woman was the sight of the
smoke in front of her eyes. On the other hand you will find it
acts like any other attention focussing induction. All other
subsystem close down; relaxation ensues; there is total
absorption in the functioning of the internal system of smoking
and the hypnotists voice; that subsystem opens up in the face of
my non-judgemental questions.
(Just let the rest of the company have some time off,
and let me just watch the way in which this particular
department functions at present. The consultant then
watches and asks questions. On the one hand he finds out in
great detail what is happening at present. On the other hand he
is at the same time getting the company functioning in a way
which makes it easy to change. The subdepartment is listening to
him; it is not distracted by messages from all other
departments; it begins to open up and trust him.)
This stage may go on for five or ten minutes (five or ten hours)
or longer.
I next start to make suggestions. (The consultant then starts to
make recommendations.) My preferred style is not to use the
bludgeon, but to put things in a way which seem perfectly
natural to the particular systems I am working with. It is for
this reason that there is no one way. For example, with a
pregnant woman it is often very easy to get her to visualise the
face of the unborn baby: this activates a very powerful system
of protection for her child. When she thinks of smoking, the
baby's face cries. When she stops, it laughs. You may repeat
this several times. This "technique" obviously is
quite unusable in a businessman.
(It is generally better, wherever possible, to get a consensus
rather than to use brute force. There is no one recommendation
that applies in all cases. In one subdepartment money is a
powerful motive, in another it is job security, in another is
may just be that intangible, morale.)
In practice, then, I never make the same suggestions twice in
the same language: everything is subordinated to the
overwhelming importance of the unique personality structure of
the present client. (If I were a consultant I would never trot
out standard recommendations: everything has to be tailored to
the overwhelmingly important fact that each company is
distinct.) I may use metaphors and images, evoke physical
sensations such as nausea; represent true facts graphically:
watching two drops of pure nicotine killing a labrador in five
minutes makes a vivid picture, as does the fact that tobacco
leaves make a good substitute for toilet paper in countries
where it is grown; regress the client back to the time of
starting to smoke; evoke feelings of love - for members of the
family harmed by the smoke; arouse feelings of pride or
ambition; use a desire for a clean house which may be linked to
the idea that the body is a house for the soul; intensify a
desire for a holiday or other good that can be saved for with
the £700 or more that is going up in smoke each year and
so on. To list all these "techniques" in detail would
take up many volumes, even if I were simply to present a single
script for the main line, let alone go through all the
variations which are involved in modifying such a script to fit
a wide range of subjects.
Tying it up
Towards the end I will normally incorporate a suggestion on the
following lines.
You will be healthier, wealthier and wiser as a
non-smoker. But it will not necessarily make you perfect. No-one
is perfect. Anyone can make a slip. Neither of us can be certain
that at some time in the future, near or far, perhaps at a party
or time of uncommon stress or illness you will not find yourself
tempted to smoke another. And it might well be that it would be
the best thing to do at the time. All I want you to remember at
that time is the thought: "YES, I CAN HAVE THIS IF I
CHOOSE, BUT IT WILL COST ME AT LEAST £30!" (My
standard fee in 1994)
I will generally talk a bit more about the above, pointing out
that most people, if they start again, rapidly return to
previous levels of smoking which will cost far more than the £30
another session will cost (£20 if on reduced income).
The purpose of this section is two-fold. The first is that the
thought itself is a great deterrent. Few people would ever pay
£30 for a cigarette. The second is to motivate a quick
return to me, which will make stopping again much easier. There
is commonly a feeling of guilt at failing, or a feeling of
letting the therapist down, or a feeling that he could have been
expected to give life-time cover: these are counteracted by the
above.
Furthermore I very much want to know about anything that does go
wrong, so that I can perhaps get it better next time. Failures
are far more important than successes. Anyone, with any
technique, can get some successes but you only improve by
minimising the failures, which means making it as easy as
possible for them to come back to you if they start again.
SUMMARY
1. Find out as much as possible about the two primary systems of
interest, and all other systems, internal and external which are
involved. (Study the business and its economic environment in
detail.)
2. Decide on a strategy of changing these systems, based on
their real nature in the individual, not on some abstract idea.
(Plan realistic changes.)
3. Discuss and arrange changes which can be made at the level of
conscious will. (See what can be done with the Management.)
4. Induce a trance which is tightly related to the smoking
subsystem. (Get to talk to the problematic department.)
5. Implement the planned changes at that level also. (Change
working practices there.)
6. Tie it up with suggestions of return if there are problems.
(Arrange for further contacts if there are problems.)
* Throughout look for as much feedback as possible. (Ditto.)
Ecologically sound
Finally I would like to highlight my overall philosophy in
hypnotherapy, which may throw light on the overall approach I
have used above.
We all know of ecological disasters resulting from introducing,
perhaps for good reasons, a new species into an ecosystem.
We may all know of instances where a new work practice or rule
or law, introduced for a good reason, has had dismal
consequences.
We all know how a person's personality may suffer from the undue
influence of parental or other ideas which do not suit the
person concerned.
HYPNOSIS PROVIDES POWERFUL TOOLS FOR INTRODUCING NEW SYSTEMS OF
THOUGHT, FEELING OR BEHAVIOUR INTO THE COMPLEX SYSTEM OF THE
HUMAN MIND. IT MUST BE USED WITH THE UTMOST RESPECT FOR THE
EXISTING SYSTEM.
I am dismayed by hearing of hypnotists who forcibly slam into a
mind powerful suggestions with no regard for their compatibility
or otherwise with existing thoughts or patterns. I am as
dismayed by the thought of removing a smoking habit by means of
a forceful repression as I would be by the thought of dealing
with a difficult workforce by simply locking them up in a room.
Each may seem to work brilliantly in the short-term, but could
have dire long term consequences.
Ideally I am striving to attain a sufficiently complete
knowledge of all relevant workings of that system which is the
client in front of me AND the even more complex social system of
which she or he is a part, so that any changes that I make are
in harmony with those systems while also being viable and able
to flourish there. (I am striving to attain a sufficiently
complete knowledge of all relevant departments of the business I
am helping AND the even more complex network of business
connections and the economy as a whole, so that any changes I
make will harmonise with what is there while also being viable
long term.)
That is what I mean by holistic, or ecologically sound,
or simply doing a good job.
Reprinted from The Journal of the National Council for
Psychotherapists and Hypnotherapy Register, Spring 94.
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A variety of little tips on specific cases
Driving test nerves
THE DRIVING EXAMINATION is a common cause for anxiety, and there
are a number of reasons for this. The following technique can be
a valuable addition to the normal approaches when the anxiety is
connected with an anxiety about examinations generally. The
trick is to reframe the process. A typical approach may run as
follows.
"Everything in the Highway Code is there to ensure your
SAFETY. All the various `rules' are really common sense rules of
SAFETY. You take your car to have its MOT as a SAFETY CHECK to
check that it is SAFE to drive.
"On Friday (or whatever the date is) you are paying someone
to run a SAFETY CHECK on your driving, just as you pay the
garage to run a SAFETY CHECK on your car. In both cases there
may be something not quite right. In both cases you should be
pleased if the fault is found. It is helpful. In either case IT
COULD SAVE YOUR LIFE.
"So on Friday you will be driving SAFELY. Not too fast, not
too slow. Not to close to the car in front. Always aware of the
traffic around you and the road conditions.
"ALL you will be thinking of is driving SAFELY, calmly and
easily, while listening to the safety checker's voice."
Of course this approach can be elaborated on, but the central
idea is prevent the test as being seen like an EXAM imposed from
the outside. In this way most of the nervousness associated with
examinations will go also.
The emphasis on the key word SAFETY will also tend to have the
side-effect of reducing panic which is, of course, a reaction to
the opposite feeling of DANGER.
If your Client has had safety checks done on domestic wiring or
a gas cooker or whatever then these can be incorporated into the
approach.
Over-eating
THERE ARE TIMES when over-eating is little more than a habit of
loading a large amount onto the plate, and then eating it all
up. This may go back to childhood.
A technique which I have found to work in such a case is to pay
no attention to diets, but simply to focus on the habit of small
plates, dishes and spoons.
The small spoon makes the meal last as long as it used to. The
small plates can still be as loaded as the larger ones were. But
the food intake can be halved quite easily.
The change might be made at a conscious level and/or with
hypnotic suggestion.
Fear of Flying
Problem.
This woman has a fear of flying. She has an irrational feeling
that the plane is only kept in the air by her own efforts.
&
Fear&rarr "I must keep it
in the air"&rarr pulling
up on seat and pushing down with feet.
Solution.
Get her to train her family and friends to help her to lift
the plane! (Recall Erickson's device of "prescribing
the symptom".)
How does this work?
1) While she is training them at home they find it hard not to
laugh. Laughter leads to reduced tension.
2) On the plane they have to do what she wants, i.e. to lift.
Their cooperation d the security of feeling part of a group.
3) Fear activates the usual "fight or flight"
mechanisms for which the natural outlet is physical effort. She
is making that effort. It leads, once the plane is on level
flight, to a nice relaxed physical state, by a natural rebound,
enhanced by the laughter and solidarity of the group.
Stopping a pregant woman smoking
Problem.
A pregnant woman wants to stop smoking.
Solution.
Maternal love makes it impossible for a mother to do something
which will make her baby distressed: if the baby cries she will
stop whatever it was.
Before the baby is born it cannot signal its distress.
But a very large proportion of pregnant women can easily picture
their baby's face. (The usual hypnotic techniques may be used to
enhance this.) Furthermore, if she then thinks of smiling at the
baby it smiles back, but if she imagines smoking, the baby will
typically turn down its mouth and cry.
Repetitions of this soon establish the process:
&uarr(Thought of smoking)&rarr
&uarr(Picture of crying baby &
feeling of distress)&rarr
&darr(Thought of smoking)&rarr
&uarr(Picture of smiling baby &
feeling of happy love).
Meaning of arrows
After a while this can be simplified to make the thought, "I
am a non-smoker" lead to the feeling of happy maternal
love, thus continuing to reinforce it.
Dealing with those who expect a miracle change
Problem.
Many clients expect hypnotic techniques to work as fast to
"cure" problems as it does to create the effects seen
on a stage show.
Solution.
Ask the client the following question, "Which is easier. To
put a dent in the panel of a car door, or to beat one out?"
The answer is clearly the former.
It is then possible to say, "In the same way it is
relatively easy to implant a suggestion for a new behaviour, but
to eradicate an old one permanently will take more careful work
and time."
Client locked onto a particular hypnotherapist
Problem
A client had been to a hypnotherapist who successfully stopped
him from smoking, but added that no-one else would be able to
hypnotise him. The client later started to smoke again, but when
after some years he went back to look for the hypnotherapist he
discovered that he had died. Is there any way of overcoming the
block?
Solution
It may, of course, be the case that the block is more
imaginary than real, but the following method can be used to
minimise the problem. First, put the client through a standard
procedure to relax, focus the attention and so on but without
using the word hypnosis. Then say that he will now simply review
the orignal experience and allow himself to be hypnotised again
by the original hypnotherapist, and receive again the original
suggestions! Other suggestions can then be made, ad lib, while
calling them "common-sense" observations or something
similar.
In this way you recapture the value of the original
hypnosis, add to it the power of your own suggestions while he
remains in a receptive state, and impress the client by your
deft handling of a difficult problem.
Confidence
Problem
A client is suffering from great lack of confidence as a result
of criticisms thrown at her by employees in a previous job.
Solution
At a rational level describe the common practice of
psychological projection: people blame othersfor
their own faults. It is
mainly pots who call kettles black; the selfish who accuse other
of selfishness; the proud who accuse others of pride and so on.
At a more dramatic level let the client see accusations as
labels that have been stuck onto her and ler her enjoy stripping
them off and sticking them to whatever part of the anatomy of
her accusers that she feels to be most appropriate.
In this way she returns the accusations to where they belong
and ceases to feel them personally.
Embarassment at crying
Problem
A client feels embarassed at crying.
Solution
Say that modern science has established that the body has
its very own Tension Eradication
And Release
System. This system, it has been
established, has been designed to eliminate from the brain and
nervous system all the chemicals that arise at times of stress
and leave them feeling calmer and healthier. This Tension
Eradication And
Release System
is called, for convenience, TEARS
Haste and anxiety
Problem
A problem that often arises is the interplay of haste and
anxiety. Activation of the anxiety system leads to more frantic
activity, but the greater the muscular and mental activity the
more mistakes and confusion arise so that worry increases in
turn. We want to eliminate this vicious circle.
Solution
With the client in a trance, we may work on the lines of,
"You will calm down those troublesome twins Hurry and
Worry. Hurry is one of those hyperactive boys, and Worry one of
those very nervous girls. And Worry's worries irritate Hurry and
make him Hurry more, and Hurry's hurry makes Worry worry. So
when Hurry stops, Worry won't worry, and when worry stops Hurry
won't hurry, and when both of them stop you will neither be
hurried by Hurry or worried by Worry."
(This precise line is best designed for a mother who has
good visualisation and children.)
ERICKSON: Therapy is like starting a snowball rolling at the top
of a mountain. As it rolls down, it grows larger and larger and
becomes an avalanche that fits the shape of the mountain.
Many of these tips appeared in the Journal of the National
Council of Psychotherapy and Hypnotherapy Register
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